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ORIGINAL: bearly2001
just thought i would share my observations and ask.. what do you think when you see a scant or incomplete profile or one that remains an unfulfilled promise for months.. is it fear, sloth or shallowness? whaddya think?

rick the bear[

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ORIGINAL: bearly2001
do you feel all better now?

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

My profile has 5 words in it. I have no intention of filling it out further. Those 5 words are "Just here for the forums."

I get emails from people that want to chat and see what happens.

I get emails that say "I love your profile". (Really? Which of those 5 words did you like the best?)

I get emails that say, "I want to....<insert kinky action here> you."

I got an emailed marriage proposal the other day.

People ignore what's in my profile when it's 5 words. Why bother doing more, if no one is going to read it?

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ORIGINAL: bearly2001

@darcyandthedark...

thanks for your enlightened and truly amusing commentary.. do you feel all better now?

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ORIGINAL: GrizzlyBear

When I see a very minimal profile, I have to assume that the person is really not interested in providing significant information to unknown others.  Now why might this be?  Well they may be too busy already to deal with more email.  They may be just having a quick look around out of curiosity (many never come back after their initial sign up).  They may be shy, even online, and find talking about themselves difficult.  They may be here playing a role, and have yet to flesh it out into something that deserves a full profile. They may have a very complicated situation that is evolving, and want to spare us the details.  They may have little real interest here, and either forgot or can't be bothered.  They may be afraid, or lazy, or shallow, but there is no need to attach untoward motive or reason.  They didn't fill it out because they didn't want to.

My reaction is to shrug and move on.

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ORIGINAL: Esinn

Unless you are trying to troll for attention in your case why have any public profile?

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ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN

WORDS are very.very important to me as a writer ...
 
HOW do I know I want to get to know you..??
HOW?? from a pic?..no pic?..the interests section..?
your user name?
that tells nothing..


If someone cannot take the time to write a good profile I don't bother...with them.

IF I see a skeleton profile I think the person is lazy...does not want to bother..doesn't give a shit.. is scared...thinks they are the shit...or wants to be mysterious( maybe I'm wrong .......maybe I'm right)

The worst I've seen are:


What to put here..you tell me?
 
Male..50
 
later
 
YOU know what I want
 
want no limit slut
 
 
GQ

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

My profile used to say "Blah blah blah"
I had no problem making contacts.
Personally....I think if you have a picture up and people like what they see, it doesn't matter one bit what your profile says.

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ORIGINAL: bearly2001

ever notice that some members start a skeleton or incomplete profile here, but then indicate they will take the time to fill it out later?? it makes me smile a bit, lol.. one wonders when they will find the 15 minutes or 30 minutes so it takes to fill out a bit about their likes, dislikes and goals? i would hope that if they are just being circumspect about revealing themselves or merely trying to dissuade others from contacting them, that they would just say so or just hide their profiles. and if they are so busy a half hours introspection into their goals and dreams must be deferred, then they should know they are just too busy, lol! i am also wondering if there are other reasons for not showing more of themselves.. is it a matter of courage or shyness...or something else? our profiles are our surrogates prior to contact.. i often wonder how others approach presenting themselves here at collarme. does their profile indicate a measure of their commitment and why do so many remain so sparse? profiles in courage for some.. and subterfuge by others.

admittedly, i took somewhat longer than many to complete mine since i believe that my profile will serve as my initial contact with many of you. therefore. it is crucial to present myself as clearly and succinctly as possible to delineate my passions and dislikes from those of the madding crowd. i feel that it is imperative that i differentiate myself from the teeming hordes as quickly as possible. my profile and journal gives me the opportunity to establish my authenticity and experience as a genuine online Dom and to raise my voice above the din...

i also believe it is good practice to regularly update your profile or add to your journal in order to match the changes in goals and situations that may occur over time. as an online-only dom who will never have the opportunity to meet my submissives face-to-face, i find that the more effort i put into my writings.. the more opportunity my dom "voice" will be heard and resonate within my targeted audience.. the female submissive. if she "hears" my voice contained both within the text and between the lines, she may feel the irresistable pull of the dominant within me.... so i am careful to construct my words carefully, as if i were meeting her face to face. my task is to try to bridge the gap between us through words sent out into the vast void that is cyberspace.

upon reflection, i also see some problems that may apply to submissives more than others in offering a thoroughly fleshed out profile. some submissives find it devilishly difficult to speak of themselves and their wishes. their innate desire to subordinate their wishes to those of a dominant my impose a shyness or hesitancy that causes them to understate or to "whisper" their goals and . they also may feel it is an immodesty that is unbecoming of their submissive nature to extol or proclaim their desirable traits and virtues. i also can appreciate the fear that a submissive may have of drawing the type of vicious criticism and petulant comments that false doms, wannabes and arrogant a-holes often evince in raging emails. i am sure that we all have heard submissives write of the criticisms and rants they receive if the words and themes within their profiles somehow fall outside of some idiot's parameters of orthodoxy or protocol.

just thought i would share my observations and ask.. what do you think when you see a scant or incomplete profile or one that remains an unfulfilled promise for months.. is it fear, sloth or shallowness? whaddya think?

rick the bear[

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ORIGINAL: bearly2001

i am dropping back in to read the new posts and to offer a thank you to all the subsequent posters. i see that some are interested in commenting on the substance of my original post and some have more fun questioning my authenticity or my attitude/motives. i am enjoying the discourse and i have no trouble accepting that some will cast brickbats rather than offer substance or germaine contributions. this thread was opened by me to partake of all the views of the community and i knew that some would have unkind things to say about the author as any who post on such forums or write blogs learn very soon, lol. all i ask is civility and a sense of humor.

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At the end of the day, it's personal preference of different people.