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Neocrash -> Do you go to Domme School? (2/17/2006 8:16:47 PM)

Hello. I am a beginner. I am finding that I am interested in submissive men. I am interested in learning more about becoming a Domme. I have talked to some men online and there seem to be alot of people sort of in it for a quick fix. I am interested in learning more how to make a man submit to me. I know everyone is different but how do you get out of the starting gate? [;)]




mnottertail -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/17/2006 8:27:24 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Neocrash

Hello. I am a beginner. I am finding that I am interested in submissive men. I am interested in learning more about becoming a Domme. I have talked to some men online and there seem to be alot of people sort of in it for a quick fix. I am interested in learning more how to make a man submit to me. I know everyone is different but how do you get out of the starting gate? [;)]


Beat the shit outta me if that's what I want......it pays.
Men will do anything for some pussy.
Women will do anything for love.
All them yadda yadda yadda things in all aspects of the fullness of human interaction are true.


So, as I would ask a sub or many women who are Masters here might ask a boy after some time.....what fulfills you? 'Cause I know what fulfills me and I am gonna get mine........you better get yours..
That; from a man's perspective......

So you see this as the way the world works.........

quit fucking around then.
Decide who you are..........read, talk, observe......you are SO NOT alone.

Carpe Deim.

Lotta good people interested in you out here, lotta wanks too.

I claim first right to the wanking portion!


LOL,
Ron
You will do fine, pilgrim.




Submotive -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/17/2006 8:57:48 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Neocrash

Hello. I am a beginner. I am finding that I am interested in submissive men. I am interested in learning more about becoming a Domme. I have talked to some men online and there seem to be alot of people sort of in it for a quick fix. I am interested in learning more how to make a man submit to me. I know everyone is different but how do you get out of the starting gate? [;)]

i would say, depends on exactly what kind of Domme You wish to be. Pro? Tyrant or loving? Don't think there's any such thing as MAKING a man submit. As for me, submission is deeply internal and not the outward action of subjegation. Look in Your heart. What is it You really seek.




rwmbk -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/17/2006 9:19:28 PM)

Well there are a few good starting places to futher your knowledge.

Here is a good torrent:
http://thepiratebay.org/details.php?id=3431946

Caring Domination: http://www.cair4.com/
Goddess Club: http://www.goddessclub.com/
Real Women Don't Do Housework http://www.geocities.com/ladymisato/introduction.html

There are probably tons more sites I could quote if you'd like, but depending on your vision, I'd suggest spending a little time searching for futher information that seems to fit your style.




MIstrezzTanya -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/17/2006 9:24:54 PM)

lol

IHAVE to agree with mnottertail

10000%




yourMissTress -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/17/2006 9:32:39 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Neocrash

Hello. I am a beginner. I am finding that I am interested in submissive men. I am interested in learning more about becoming a Domme. I have talked to some men online and there seem to be alot of people sort of in it for a quick fix. I am interested in learning more how to make a man submit to me. I know everyone is different but how do you get out of the starting gate? [;)]



There are more than a few threads on this very subject here on CM. There are also a lot of wonderful women that will give you some advice.

Mine:

1) Read, everything you can get your hands on regarding the lifestyle. There are lots of good books and websites out there. Read, read, read.

2) Find the local groups and join them. There will be munches and demo's and all kinds of things going on. Go and meet people face to face talk to them and you will find people that are just like you or were just like you.

3) Find a person in the lifestyle that you are not interested in having a romantic or sexual relationship with and ask them to be a mentor. Someone that can help guide you, teach you, watch you, talk to you, answer your questions that maybe you don't want to ask just anyone.

4) Know yourself and what you want. Have some goals for yourself. Know what you want in a partner and be able to verbalize those things.

5) Have some fun.




MHOO314 -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/18/2006 6:58:22 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Neocrash

Hello. I am a beginner. I am finding that I am interested in submissive men. I am interested in learning more about becoming a Domme. I have talked to some men online and there seem to be alot of people sort of in it for a quick fix. I am interested in learning more how to make a man submit to me. I know everyone is different but how do you get out of the starting gate? [;)]



My response is "Why"--until you can answer that question--you don't have a starting point.




MHOO314 -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/18/2006 7:00:56 AM)

good morning submotive, nice to see you at the boards--<smiles>




TexasMaam -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/18/2006 9:13:44 AM)

<after She stops laffing at mnottertail's rant, She stops and gasps a breath long enough to ask:

WHAT FULFILLS YOU, RON?

DO TELL ......

; )

Texas Maam




LadiesBladewing -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/18/2006 10:23:00 AM)

I came into this via the long, and somewhat rare path (in this day and age). I came in as a servant, served for 5 years, learned what I could from that, graduated to First Servant/Chatalaine status, spent time in that role and trained other servants to House standards, was offered mentorship in the household I served in as a dominant member, completed my mentorship, and was given a station in the Household commesurate with my years of overall service to the House and what I could offer from skills obtained outside of the House.

It's taken me over a decade to get here. I wouldn't have done it any other way.

The woman with whom I share matriarchal responsibilities here came in as a mentored dominant member. She, too, spent years training, though she didn't do the "servant" end of things formally, like I did.

There are different paths for different people, but don't rush yourself. Patience and dedication will serve you well in the long run, even when they seem tedious and boring in the short term.

Lady Zephyr

quote:

ORIGINAL: Neocrash

Hello. I am a beginner. I am finding that I am interested in submissive men. I am interested in learning more about becoming a Domme. I have talked to some men online and there seem to be alot of people sort of in it for a quick fix. I am interested in learning more how to make a man submit to me. I know everyone is different but how do you get out of the starting gate? [;)]




thetammyjo -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/18/2006 10:53:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Neocrash

Hello. I am a beginner. I am finding that I am interested in submissive men. I am interested in learning more about becoming a Domme. I have talked to some men online and there seem to be alot of people sort of in it for a quick fix. I am interested in learning more how to make a man submit to me. I know everyone is different but how do you get out of the starting gate? [;)]


First get offline and attend events -- all kinds, even if its not your orientation (sex or role wise). Tackle non-fiction and focus on that written by people who are actually doing BDSM not just those that think about it.

Second just start trying some simple things. Try topping or simple Ds first for an hour or so with a partner. Don't think you must rush into a long-term anything cause you are just starting out and you have so much to learn about yourself as well as others.

Third try to come to terms with the fact that you will make mistakes. A few of these might be bad mistakes -- broken heart, trip to a doctor, lost material possessions. Most will be very minor but they will happen you first, tenth, hundredth, or millionth time out.

These are the big generic things I can think of.




mnottertail -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/19/2006 8:32:08 AM)

Dear TexasMaam,

quote:

ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

<after She stops laffing at mnottertail's rant, She stops and gasps a breath long enough to ask:

WHAT FULFILLS YOU, RON?

DO TELL ......

; )
........
I have a great sense of humor and am looking for a submissive who can laugh at himself and at his predicaments.

Texas Maam



I laugh at predicaments.....tho in slightly different fashion.

Shakespeare, As You Like It...

I earn that I eat, get that I wear, owe no man hate, envy no man's happiness; glad of other men's good, content with my harm.

The juxtaposition of the mundane and bizarre gives me pleasure.

You are of an age to remember "The Prisoner"...........

Like that, somewhat...

Sincerely,
Ron




Submotive -> RE: Do you go to Domme School? (2/19/2006 5:45:48 PM)

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good morning submotive, nice to see you at the boards--<smiles>


Ah! - What a great way to start the day!. Cheers to You Ma'am.




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