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Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 6:59:44 PM   
Mistressbinature


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Status: offline 		Good evening

This post is two fold, One, I am desiring to know if you as sub/slave would consider submitting, either on line or in person, to a Dominant that is servely physically disabled? My slave has been contacted by a man who is a quad, meaning he has very little movement below the neck. Is he, and individuals like him, wasting their time? And yes, I am hoping that if there is someone out there who sees this, and is interested, that they email me and I will give you his user name. And if anyone has a problem with this post, feel free to email me and we will "Discuss it"

Thank you for your time and comments
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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 7:04:38 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't begin such a relationship. I need physicality, sex, skin to skin contact etc. If after a deep long term relationship developed, that's different. The people I've read who have these issues usually do online only because so many of us do need live and in person, sex, play etc. None of which can happen with someone so severely disabled.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 7:07:37 PM   
lovingpet


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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 7:30:17 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I'm sure there are others who might be interested in him. There are some people who would find that a fetish. There are some people who don't seem to look at the physical limitations or attractions at all and only are interested in the mental aspects.

If it's an online only relationship I don't see why it would matter at all what he even looked like or his disabilities.

I personally though am not interested in online relationships at all and would never be interested in getting with someone who was disabled simply because I'm an active person and I'm attracted to a man who is active if not more active than I am and I really would not want to be off doing things without him because he was unable to join me. For me personally it would be a lonely existance.

Is he wasting his time? No. Everyone has a right to seek and enjoy the company of another.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 7:38:34 PM   
Racquelle


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Status: offline 		I am entirely entralled with the idea of teaming up with a disabled dominant to dominate a woman.  Use his creativity and my able body.  Fascinates me to no end.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 7:45:55 PM   
kuriouswitch


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Status: offline 		If someone contacted me with a disability it doesn't automatically rule them out, even one as severe as being a quad. It's how we mesh, how well they get into my mind and gain my trust and we connect. Yes, I would think long and hard about how much I was willing to put into the relationship, because if I enter it I have to think about the fact that not only would I be submissive to him, but there's also a very good chance that I would end up being the core care giver too and being young I also hope to have children someday so no only his physical limitations come into play but thoughts of the future as well.

I have a good friend who is a Daddy Dom who is limited in some play and what he will do because of a childhood battle with polio. Master has diabetes and has had several surgeries because of it. Sometimes it means he tires easily and we have to watch his sugar levels closely especially before and after heavy play.

Your friend isn't wasting his time, it just means he needs to be patient and know that he will eventually find someone in time.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 8:45:12 PM   
vasha


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Status: offline 		oh not again!

you know,  its not the psyical abilities, or lack thereof,  that make a person dominant.  its force of personality!  anyone thinking differant is sevearly limiting him or her -self.  
sad.  horribly horribly sad.  :(


*and indirectly limiting the Dom/me for that matter. wich, imo... is terribly wrong.  you see, psyical limitations really dont limit people so much.  they limit themselves. immaginatoin and inginuity can accomplish things otherwise very difficult to seeminly impossable*

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 8:48:44 PM   
ExKat


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Status: offline 		You should use the search function in the site, many many people have asked this question. Does it limit their possibilities: of course. Does it negate them: no. It's much the same as regular dating...there are some women who can't work with that and some who can. Internet dating seems like a good compromise in this situation, and seems to be taken more seriously in BDSM than elsewhere.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 9:00:12 PM   
WestBaySlave


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Status: offline 		  I'm sorry to say that I do need some physical intimacy, so a disability that severe would like make me unable to establish a sexual and physical connection. I need to be touched and held some of the time, at least. I would consider someone confined to a wheelchair though, as long as they had functioning arms and there was a tenable situation between us. Likewise someone visually or hearing impaired.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/16/2009 9:31:09 PM   
Surata


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Status: offline 		If I was in the market for a dominant partner at this time, I would absolutely consider a disabled man, but only up to a certain point. It would differ with each one, as my submission is directly affected by my connection to each person.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/17/2009 8:11:06 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I would be freinds with someone who is disabled, but i don't think i would start a BDSM relationship with them. I have a need to be held tightly in my Masters arms, to feel him stroke my hair or body it like being in heaven. I need the closness tho touching. That being said if Master became disabled would be a different story. I said i would not start a relationship beyond friendship with a disabled person if i am already in the relationship i would not end it if Master became disabled. It would not be easy giving up the things we enjoy now, but i love him and would deal. Just because he was to becom disabled would not make him any less my Dom.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/19/2009 8:46:21 AM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		I don't think I could.  I don't know if that means I am shallow, honest, or both.  I have heard stories of blind Mistresses.  I think I even saw something about one on Jerry Springer once.  I guess I could possibly serve a blind woman.  Deaf for sure.  But a severe physical handicap?  I just don't think so. 

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/19/2009 8:59:52 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I have been mulling over this thread trying to come up with something positive and I finally did.  Some people get dominated in a chatroom, some do it long distance and never meet their partners...

If you can do that, doing it from a wheelchair offers more possibilities than either of those two and people make that work so while it wouldn't work for some, it will clearly work for others.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/20/2009 10:49:10 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		as a service submissive and a nurse i would not disallow the relationship out of hand. it would be the personality that would be of most importance to me, as far as needing some physical contact I'm sure something could be arraigned. so for the response to the question yes i would consider a differentially abeled person as a Dom.
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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/22/2009 3:55:22 AM   
Zechriel


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Status: offline 		Good morning!
I think if the connection is there-like with any relationship-then it should be fine. In fact, I would love to serve my Master is anything like that would happen, I just feel complete taking care of him any way I can. It is the feeling of devotion and love that would override anything else. Sure it would be a ton of work but if he is truly the one..is he not worth it? Is not his happiness just as important as anyone else? Just my opinion since Daddy is 24 years older than me and my hubby is 30 years older than me. I know I will take care of them as long as I am alive because I love them and serve them. They are my world along with my Um's. Good luck!
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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/22/2009 1:04:20 PM   
Wheldrake


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Status: offline 		If I didn't belong to Mistress, I certainly wouldn't dismiss the idea of serving a woman who was severely disabled. In fact, I might find the idea sort of interesting... not because I have some kind of disability fetish, but because her condition might encourage us to explore possibilities that the average BDSM couple would probably overlook. I actually once wrote a story that featured a wheelchair-bound domina in a fairly prominent role.

As physically attractive as I find my Mistress, for me the joy of submission depends on her mind much more than her body. In principle I honestly think I could enjoy serving a brain in a jar provided it was the brain of someone intelligent, emotionally stable, and inventively sadistic enough to find ways to use and abuse me despite the obvious physical limitations. So to the OP, I don't think the man who contacted you is wasting his time at all, provided he's put a bit of realistic thought into how he might go about dominating and making use of an S-type. I hope he manages to find someone without too much difficulty.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/22/2009 4:58:50 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		I seem to recall reading a story about a quad who dominated from his chair/bed. He commanded and she responded by doing whatever he commanded. So she would hurt herself - but at his desire. She would also pleasure herself - but at his command. It worked for them.

I guess it would be a bit less of hands-on than most of us are used to , but would still be a turn on in that the pain you are suffering is caused by yourself - at the desire of your dom.  An added  layer of domination - how many of us could hurt ourselves as our doms hurt us. I don't think i could. He always seems to go past my level of comfort (so to speak)   - and i just don't think i could do it.

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RE: Disabled Doms - 7/22/2009 5:20:55 PM   
sfdrew


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ORIGINAL: Mistressbinature

And if anyone has a problem with this post, feel free to email me and we will "Discuss it"



That's not really the best attitude to start a thread on. So what? You are going to set any stupid unlucky b@stard who has the gall to have a problem with your post straight? Give me a break.

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