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Play, Sex and The Disabled - 7/17/2009 8:40:21 AM

Mistressbinature

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I am posting this here because I did not want to hi-jack my own thread, Here is the back ground
You are entering a relationship with someone who is an almost totally disabled Dominant. He seeks mainly an on-line relationship, but is amendable to rt, should you be willing to come to him. He, realizing that he is incapable of play and has limited possibilites with issues related to intimacy has said he would allow you to have relations with another who could fulfill the needs he could not

To the subs - Would you take another to fufill the needs of play and intimacy or would you be able to accept the Dom's limitations and work with him

To the Doms - if you were in this mans shoes, would you make such an offer or would you expect the sub to work within your limitations

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RE: Play, Sex and The Disabled - 7/17/2009 8:50:42 AM

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I know a couple of wheelchair-bound Dominants who are still very skilled with a variety of techniques. I wouldn't get involved with someone in the circumstances you describe, since I don't want a primarily online-based relationship.

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RE: Play, Sex and The Disabled - 7/17/2009 10:21:02 AM

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I wouldn't get involved to begin with.

I'm not capable of a nonmonogamous relationship and you aren't making any guarantees about him being able to handle emotionally seeing his sub go off to play and have sex with another and come back happier from being with someone else than she ever is with him.

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RE: Play, Sex and The Disabled - 7/17/2009 4:36:44 PM

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This guy could be a godsend to a stale marriage where the woman wants to be Dominated and her husband doesn't want to do it himself. An online relationship could work well for all.

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RE: Play, Sex and The Disabled - 7/17/2009 5:14:42 PM

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How would this jack your other thread?

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RE: Play, Sex and The Disabled - 7/17/2009 6:25:27 PM

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So many it "depends" (no pun intended) riding on this one.

Online is fine for what it is, but ultimately it lacks the human touch we come to crave.

Words can however, affect us more deeply than we sometimes bring ourselves to admit.

Would exposing the reality in a real time presence, simply consume us with pity?

Could it become a surrender to sympathy, diluted within an obedient heart to the disability?

Should punishment follow if when spiraling upward in a fit of sub-frenzy, I become forgetful
in the moment and find myself running from the room screaming hysterically as I wave her
prosthetic leg replete with candy-cane red polish lovingly applied above my confused head?
(those who know me were just waiting for this moment, to the rest of you, my sincere apologies)

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RE: Play, Sex and The Disabled - 7/17/2009 11:01:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mistressbinature

To the Doms - if you were in this mans shoes, would you make such an offer or would you expect the sub to work within your limitations

No, I would not.

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RE: Play, Sex and The Disabled - 7/18/2009 12:20:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mistressbinature

To the Doms - if you were in this mans shoes, would you make such an offer or would you expect the sub to work within your limitations

as that's a very distant situation from my own, I'm not sure exactly how I would handle it. but I do not think that I would extend the offer in the first place.

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RE: Play, Sex and The Disabled - 7/18/2009 1:52:13 AM

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It's up to Him. He knows what He can and can't do, and what limits He wishes to set. I wonder who is trying to persuade whom of what here?

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