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fergus -> RE: Reading Profiles & Replies (2/19/2006 1:29:16 PM)
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ORIGINAL: michaelGA
as long as i have been on this site and the number of introdutory emails and greetings i have sent out have shortened due to lack of responses or replies. the reasoning behind this is that, why type my fingers to the bone and not get even a courteous reply of "No thank you" or even a "fuck off"
if i receive a reply after a one or two (perhaps even three) line intro, i would then expand to even longer emails.
Yes, this is a good reason why.
I have to say there is a frustrating dichotomy at work here, Dommes get overwhelmed with PMs, sub men send out lots of PMs. Dommes are not interested in one-line PMs, subs are not interested in writing long introductory PMs without getting a reply, not even a thinks, but no thanks.
*sigh*
Well, here are a few of my thoughts:
I do not like to write long introductory PMs because I tend to put something of myself into what I write. If I get no reply, it is a time waster for me! But I DO try to peak her interest in a few lines, ALWAYS be polite, and ALWAYS respectful. If she even writes back a SMALL PM of encouragement, I will write a much longer PM.
Here is another drag: There are Domme profiles with no picture, no real description, no list of interests, etc. I want to be able to start off by AT LEAST saying, hey ... we have this in common, or I like what you said about that! Profiles that say "write me. be detailed. no fakes." Don't tell ME anything about the Domme! I have heard Dommes complain "why write to me if you don't read the profile, or if we are incompatible?"
Well, it all goes back to the dynamics of numbers. There are MANY male subs, and precious few Dommes. We must write to as many as possible, and seek out ones that will at least show a little interest. There are many Dommes that I would NOT write to, becasue of incompatibility, or location, etc. But still, it is a long, hard search for the one that may be a good match.
fergus
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