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lusciouslips19 -> Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:04:27 AM)

How do you feel about casual public play?

Like it?
Dont like it?
Why?



LadyPact -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:11:05 AM)

Personally, I love it.  I'm more comfortable meeting someone for public play first before bringing them home.  It's one of the stepping stones that I have in the process of getting to know someone.  Up until I changed My profile to read that we were in transition for the move, it used to read that if public play wasn't an option for a potential playmate, that the chance of them being able to play with Me probably didn't exist.



Sunnyfey -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:12:44 AM)

*shrugs* i love a good meet and beat now and then if i know the mans reputation



SassySarijane -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:16:24 AM)

I enjoy it a lot. I pretty much only do public play (have done private once or twice) and prefer to play with anyone for the first time at a play party. There is a safety factor there for one thing and I know if they aren't willing to play with me in that setting, then I don't need to play with them.



pixidustpet -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:18:10 AM)

i dont care what anyone else wishes to do about casual public play...its just not for me.  i still have body image issues (which are worse now) and so i dont wish to be seen in a stage of undress in a venue where i feel i may be ridiculed.

i also wish to have an emotional connection with the person i play with...it takes a lot for me to give over to that level of trust and well, my heart goes with.  [:)]  for *me*, the two go hand in hand.  i understand its not that way for everyone, and that's great too.  its just not what *i* want.

kitten



SassySarijane -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:20:47 AM)

I can so understand body image issues and have my share of them still, but the venue I play in actually fully accepts me just as I am and I don't even think about what I look like naked when I play there.



Missokyst -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:24:33 AM)

Casual public play is all I am up to, currently.
I like it because there is no committment to more that what is happening at the moment.
For me casual play never includes sexual stimulation other than if he wishes to flog my breasts.
It is .. doable.
The parts I don't like about it are the same parts I do like about it above.. no sexual stimulation.
lol at times I wish I were not so complex!
But, I require more of a connection to my partner to get into more sensual play.
Kyst



BoundDragon -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:30:39 AM)

I have never had the chance of public play and although at the moment I too am not of the body shape I am proud of I still find myself drawn to this idea.

I'm not sure if its curiosity alone which fuels my interest or if I feel it would add a spin on things... guess one day I'll have to give it a go.

I have always been of the firm belief that you cant slate something until youve given it a go (although admitedly I do have my limits lol)



Aileen1968 -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:32:14 AM)

I've never done it and doubt I ever will. I find the things I do to be extremely intimate and can't imagine that occurring in front of people.
edited to add...I also don't think I'd be able to focus on him. It would seriously fuck up my head space.



Leonidas -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:32:47 AM)

I my sons and I get into a pretty good pickup basketball game at a park nearby a few times a week.  Whole household did beach volleyball yesterday.  Thumbs up on casual public play.



IrishMist -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 7:50:40 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

How do you feel about casual public play?

Like it?
Dont like it?
Why?

Does not matter to me one way or another. If I am in a relationship and he wants to play in public...it's his decision not mine. If others want to play in public, that's their business not mine.



DesFIP -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 8:30:58 AM)

Play for us is not s & m, but bondage and sex. I don't have casual sex. So no thanks.



vasha -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 8:42:19 AM)

it seems to almost always make me nervus... long before we even leave for a munch/play party.  i will be "on stage" and desperatly want to cast the best reflection of my Ma'am.  once sceneing tho... all thoughts of anything or one outside of it... gone.  afterward, yes i enjoy the reactons of the audiance.. wich is pretty positive, from what ive been told.  (second hand, from my Ma'am).



TheOneLady -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 8:46:18 AM)

I'm sure it works for some peope but I could not imagine anything more horrid myself.  I don't want strangers staring at me.



CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 9:18:04 AM)

I enjoy it, even if I am just social and don't participate (because I tend to do blood, piercing, cutting, and fireplay, most play-parties aren't set up for my kinds of play in public).

On the other hand, when I've had the chance (which often happens at tattoo/piercing events) to do a public temp piercing, it is amazing and very powerful, with all that energy from the other people present contributing to the energy of the scene.

Dame Calla




DarkSteven -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 9:19:30 AM)

I love to do it, and I love to watch it.  My definition of "public play", though, does not include penetration - that's something I consider private.



CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 9:21:31 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I love to do it, and I love to watch it.  My definition of "public play", though, does not include penetration - that's something I consider private.


Even penetration with pretty, shiny needles??? [;)]

DC



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 9:24:53 AM)

My emotions are very mixed on it. I like the social aspects. I also like having people around for safety if its casual. I have not included sex in my play since I ended a relationship. I respond differently when in public.My body does not respond sexually in public. I like watching others. Perhaps being watched inhibits me. Plus hearing other things going on can make it hard to focus. But there are aspects I enjoy and I enjoy the S&M and bondage.

I have found the play to be exhilerating but the sub drop to be hard for me and those around me. Perhaps these issues are not from the play, but the havoc on my hormones under the current conditions in my life makes it difficult. Maybe if I was in a better place emotionally and mentally the play and the afterwards would not feel so difficult. I dont know.
I havent made up my mind on the public play with where I am mentally today. I do belong to 2 clubs and I do not need to play to enjoy watching and the people.



tiedprincess -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 9:34:33 AM)

Personally, I couldn't imagine anything more terrifying. Either doing it or witnessing it. I still understand that others love it, just really not to my tastes for various reasons x



SassySarijane -> RE: Casual public play (7/18/2009 9:52:21 AM)

Since others have also mentioned it, I will add that my play is strictly s/m and sensation play, not sexual. In private within a relationship, whole different thing, but not in public and not casual sex wise.



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