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ORIGINAL: TheOneLady

I think the most common one (and most obvious one!) is the failure by the majority to read any part of the profile whatsoever.

• Having a profile that says something, not only about your kinky side, but your normal self
• Responding to a profile where you talk specifically about something that was posted.
• Your first response should be mostly vanilla talk.  The other stuff can come later.
• Don't brag about yourself overtly.  Those things can come out later, naturally.  I **hates** getting emails that are glorified resumes, where I hear about how successful they are, how skilled a master they are, etc.
  
• Don't make any demands or throw your weight around until you are in a relationship.
  
• Be nice, but don't bend to her.  I often set out traps when talking to a noob ... I challenge them a bit about something they say.  If they cave into me, I lose respect.  If they politely offer a different opinion and stick by their guns, I gain respect.  Nothing is quite as sexy as a quiet confidence.
• Speak kindly of your ex.  I always like to ask what happened to a past relationship.  If they are quick to point out faults in the other person, I take two giant steps back.  You'll go a lot further by being philosophical ... speaking of her in good terms but pointing out that people change.  A new chat buddy explained that he had two failed marriages, and hoped that version 3.0 would be a winner ... that he's learned a lot in each case.  I liked that ... twas thoughtful.  Contrary to what many think, a Dom doesn't have to be 100% perfect; he can learn and grow, too.

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~ "Write to me and I'll tell you about me" = ugh

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"Write to me and I'll tell you about me"