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needtodoitsoonpl -> RE: not seeking pity (7/20/2009 8:14:12 AM)
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New on here, came across your post randomly, and i want to help. i have been in similar situations. i feel so bad for you and i don't mean to be negative but rather prepare you for some things as you go looking for some assistance, a little help that you more than deserve. i hope you don't encounter the same difficulties i have when seeking help, but i too in the past looked for help, after admitting that my depression issues was a real problem in my ability to keep a job, support myself, after 25 years of it, i went through voc rehab, they ran me around for appointments and tests, heard nothing for months, then got a letter congratulating me on the job THEY found me. i was then at a low paying gas station job with a boss that liked to grab my boobs and talk dirty, a job voc rehab had nothing to do with me finding. applied for ssd/ssi december 2005, still waiting, had a hearing a few weeks ago. It may be my issues, i hate asking for help (you very much sound that way too), to do so was quite a leap, created much anxiety, contributed to depression, worthlessness, abandonment feelings. Random jobs, low pay, physically painful jobs have kept a roof over my head.
All that being said, try to steal yourself against the possibility that your seeking the little bit of help that you more than deserve, itself makes you feel bad.
There seems to be people on here that care, let them help/provide if they can, it will do them well.
I hope the condo takes months and months to sell. Taking legal action against a family member is not easy, but if you were allowed to live there, told you could count on that place, you do have some legal rights.
You sound like you are so used to not having anyone to depend on, me too, but the simple fact is, most people who are doing "ok" by the world's standards have had all kinds of support and encouragement.
If you are used to situations where someone says things will be ok, then they turn around and want to sell the place you are living, know that is wrong of THEM. This is not all about you failing.
Sorry to go on, you are being so strong, but i get the feeling you have had to be, hope things improve for you. Let me know if there is anything i can help you with on here.
From my understanding, if you are not officially "disabled" by SS, the housing options aren't open to you. If going into the hospitial will get you that designation, then go, but that condo might not sell for a year or two, i hope it doesn't.
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