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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 3:14:38 PM

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Mambo loves to spank to tears...but it has been only when there is a strong ,strong relationship first... a soul and emotional level connection makes this kind of
scenerio a magical journey where DOMME rides the waves of 2 energies and the power of 2..
It is a magnificent time to say the least and not to be entered into lightly

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 3:19:52 PM

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I have been thinking about this, often when something just hurts I go a little berserk, the tears are often one of two things.

1- when I am desperate to 'take' pain though it has pushed my normal threshold, the tears are I guess frustration to a large extent that I am wanting to stop it.
2- when there is an intense amount of emotion, I can remember two very specific cases, one as I mentioned in my previous comment was through a punishment, and the tears were a massive release a mix of shame for needing the punishment and relief that I knew that it was dealt with. Another was a little harder to explain, it was sensation play and well the tears came from no where, I wasn't in pain but it was the first flush of connection and the feelings became a bit overwhelming. Unfortunatly it freaked the guy out, but we did have a wonderful cuddle.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 3:23:25 PM

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Master punished me once by tying me to a pole in a shelter house at the park and spanking me. It was a little bit cool out. This slave cried when Master spanked her. Master thought his slaves tears were from the cold. Actually they were from a deep emotional release as Master was spanking me. Was just one more emotional barrier that Master stripped away from me that brought us so much closer to each other. The spanking wasnt harsh by any means, but just touched me so deeply that it became a cathartic release. Whether or not this slave cries during a spanking depends a lot on my mood at the time.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 3:37:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally

.. the tears were a massive release a mix of shame for needing the punishment and relief that I knew that it was dealt with.

Wow. For the longest time I have not been able to figure out what it is about the scenario I am seeking that makes me want to cry during it. This is it right here. Shame for wanting it in the first place, embarassment and disgust in myself for having it carried out, and the safety and comfort that would come with having it done. Kind of like, "im sorry for needing this and I feel so pathetic and low for it, but thank you for loving me enough to do it."

sigh..

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 7:23:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: SweetSubBoy1985

Wow. For the longest time I have not been able to figure out what it is about the scenario I am seeking that makes me want to cry during it. This is it right here. Shame for wanting it in the first place, embarassment and disgust in myself for having it carried out, and the safety and comfort that would come with having it done. Kind of like, "im sorry for needing this and I feel so pathetic and low for it, but thank you for loving me enough to do it."

I really like the idea of this, but I have found tears don't come even when I'd like them to (maybe I just haven't been hit hard enough?) Keep in mind it's an inherently spontaneous thing, and enjoy your scene whether or not you cry.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/23/2009 1:23:18 AM

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I was just curious about the concept of being really spanked to the point of sobbing cries. I have never experienced this but have always been curious about it. I have been "play" spanked before, but never really punished to the point of crying. I know that this would probably be a great emotional and mental release, and the more I have thought about it the more I have realized how important it is to me to be truly disciplined. Im sorry if this sounds like a stupid question, but do you Masters , Mistresses get this a lot? How common is it for someone to ask for this?

Thank you for your thoughts .

A Sweet Submissive Boy from Seattle

I do not think there is a connection between crying and being truly punished

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/24/2009 8:15:16 AM

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Great question, Thanks! I have the same desire not realized yet and it would be done with her feet/shoes, trampled to tears. I would probably need to be bound and many dommes have desired to do it (one said she would laugh if I cried). I foresee it will be a challenge to get me there but will happen before I perish. I loved everyone’s replies and in response, I'm not sure an emotional or close attachment type relationship would be necessary for me.
quote]ORIGINAL: SweetSubBoy1985

I was just curious about the concept of being really spanked to the point of sobbing cries. I have never experienced this but have always been curious about it. I have been "play" spanked before, but never really punished to the point of crying. I know that this would probably be a great emotional and mental release, and the more I have thought about it the more I have realized how important it is to me to be truly disciplined. Im sorry if this sounds like a stupid question, but do you Masters , Mistresses get this a lot? How common is it for someone to ask for this?

Thank you for your thoughts

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A Sweet Submissive Boy from Seattle

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/26/2009 6:42:26 AM

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In the OP the question was to the D types, but I occassionally like to put my two cents in, so here goes. For me it is a big desire, but it's very hard to get there. First I will have to overcome the "men don't cry" syndrome. Of which I'll confess I subscribe to. Ok, actually men do but it's like the tree falling in the forest thing, if nobody else sees it did it really happen. I can't speak for all male subs, and don't attempt to, but for me even though I am submitting, I still want to be seen as tough, as strong, especially to the Domme who is inflicting the spanking/paddling/flogging/whipping/whatever.

That explains the emotional barrier. Then there is the physical barrier. I never play without a safeword. And before someone mentions the difference between play and punishment let me say that for me even punishment is a in a form of play, so the safeword is still in effect. Combine that with the emotional aspect, that I don't want this woman to see me cry, and I have an "out". I can avoid it. Then you look at it from the D side of the equation. She knows the person she is spanking/paddling/....., she knows that he is no longer enjoying it, and there is just something that kicks in and makes her slow down or worse yet, stop. She wants to help him acheive this, but she doesn't want to run him off either.

Personally I think one thing that would help is using a double safeword. What many people do is one safeword to slow the action, another to stop the action. Some people, me being one of them, feel that a "warm-up" helps the bottom take more. Well a slow down in the middle is kind of like a warm-up, just at a different time. It allows the fun to continue, and gradually work it's way back up. This way it can build to the climax. I know there is going to be some eye rolling from the hardcores out there. They'll say this isn't D/s at all; D/s is all about hard core, and that this attitude is about topping from the bottom. Fine. Say that if you wish, this is just my view as one of the not so hard core/ not 24/7, not "it's all about the D, and not about the s" type of people, of which I know I am not the only one. (maybe if I posted more often I wouldn't get so long winded when I did post, sorry about that)

It's a damn difficult tightrope that has to be traversed, for those who actually want it. But even though I haven't been to that destination I still look forward to the journey.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/26/2009 6:51:52 AM

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We'll see what song you're singing this evening. Assuming that you're able to sit at the computer.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/27/2009 3:27:13 PM

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i have been spanked till i was begging and pleading with all my heart for her to stop but never tears.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/27/2009 3:28:59 PM

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Does getting spanked till you lean back and punch him in the arm count?

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/27/2009 5:07:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: kevinbd9

i have been spanked till i was begging and pleading with all my heart for her to stop but never tears.

Got close to that one last night.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/28/2009 5:32:29 PM

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I have a pretty high pain tolerance but am also pretty emotional-I tend to deal with extreme pain by laughing uncontrollably (why most Mistresses I've been with have used gags on me-I guess laughter is annoying when you are trying to hurt someone) The only time I remember actually crying I think it was more from the extreme humiliation she was subjecting me to rather than the brutal whipping.

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