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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/19/2006 6:53:59 PM   
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When you say that you have played with someone or express a desire to play with someone...what does that mean to you? Does that include sex in your definition?


Not always. I use play to encompass both BDSM and sexual contact, but it does not automatically imply one OR the other. Whether I had sexual contact with a playmate is generally something I consider more private/personal information.

Even just getting dressed up in fet wear and going to a fet night is play to me. Adult fun!

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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/19/2006 9:49:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
When you say that you have played with someone or express a desire to play with someone...what does that mean to you? Does that include sex in your definition?

It means I've done some semi-structured kinky type activity with another person.

While it can include sex, I can fuck someone without playing with them (one of those weirdos that actually can enjoy vanilla sex as well as kinky sex), so I usually use them separately and will say "We played AND had sex."

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I'm not meaning to imply that it can't include sex or that it is wrong if you do. Just wondering if people in general assume that play means sex.

Nope. In general play means play.


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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/19/2006 10:05:00 PM   
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Play is a fairly amgibuous word for me. It can mean a lot of different things.


It is for me. I call play doing my art, working on my car, gardening, being online, doing my webwork, reading, scening, poker, fucking etc all play.

If it is fun and I enjoy doing it and I make the choice to do it - it's play. Period. Across the board.

I don't mix sex with BDSM. So for me, it's not part and parcel of scening. I would have informed the chick that for ME playing doesn't constitute sex or seeing a person's dick, but that since she was SO interested and unable to be direct with her curiousity that I would be more than happy to help her find out.

I would have then promptly marched up to the fellow and took him aside and say: Such and such has asked me if you are well hung. How would you like to reply to that query since she is apparently too shy to ask you herself? I would naturally point her out if asked.

Once given the answer I would march right back to her and blandly provide the reply very matter of factly like so:

"Well I went up to him and asked him for you and he said [insert whatever answer he provided]." Hopefully at this point she would look in his direction and he'd be smooth enough to know she'd do that and be ready to smile a little and wave.

I think that would fulfill three objectives - letting her curiousity be answered ... letting him know someone has expressed an interest in his "package" ... and perhaps teaching her a little lesson in manners and to not ask a question unless you are fully prepared to hear the answer.

Hm. Make that four objectives. It would appease my sadistic nature. Just a tad. LOL.

I am nothing if not direct. *chortle*

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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/19/2006 11:30:25 PM   
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When you say that you have played with someone or express a desire to play with someone...what does that mean to you? Does that include sex in your definition?


It means we've had a romping good old time with lots of laughter and good humor. It 'never' means we've had sex. Himself and I are fluid bonded and never engage in bodily fluid exchange with other people. No kissing, no blood drinking, no watersports.. nothing. I don't have sex with anyone but Himself, ever. If I'm playing with someone, they can take it to the bank they aren't cumming on my watch. Orgasm? DENIED! I don't play so someone can get their rocks off. I do nothing but Top except with Himself. Anyone who wants to play with me is fully informed that it's going to be B/D and/or S/m period and they are the target with the goal being energy exchange with a heavy emphasis on artistic expression. If I do a piercing scene, I'm gloved at all times and it's the same thing with any other activity which may include fluid contact. Also, when I'm Topping, I'm fully clothed. Topping is about art and energy for me and it's going to be the same for my bottom or they can find another sadist with whom to indulge.

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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/19/2006 11:54:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble


It means we've had a romping good old time with lots of laughter and good humor. It 'never' means we've had sex. Himself and I are fluid bonded and never engage in bodily fluid exchange with other people. No kissing, no blood drinking, no watersports.. nothing. I don't have sex with anyone but Himself, ever. If I'm playing with someone, they can take it to the bank they aren't cumming on my watch. Orgasm? DENIED! I don't play so someone can get their rocks off. I do nothing but Top except with Himself. Anyone who wants to play with me is fully informed that it's going to be B/D and/or S/m period and they are the target with the goal being energy exchange with a heavy emphasis on artistic expression. If I do a piercing scene, I'm gloved at all times and it's the same thing with any other activity which may include fluid contact. Also, when I'm Topping, I'm fully clothed. Topping is about art and energy for me and it's going to be the same for my bottom or they can find another sadist with whom to indulge.

Celeste


WOW celeste.... i'm seeing a sadistic side of you.. i've not noticed before.. LOL

And I do so love you statement here.....

It means we've had a romping good old time with lots of laughter and good humor. It 'never' means we've had sex.

That's play to me too... if sex ends the "play"... that's just an added bonus.. but it's not needed.



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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/20/2006 12:03:39 AM   
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WOW celeste.... i'm seeing a sadistic side of you.. i've not noticed before.. LOL


Let me put it this way.. if I tell someone that I'm going to sew their lips together, I mean it literally and it has nothing to do with their mouth. ;)

Celeste - has sewing kit, will travel :)


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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/20/2006 12:21:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

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WOW celeste.... i'm seeing a sadistic side of you.. i've not noticed before.. LOL


Let me put it this way.. if I tell someone that I'm going to sew their lips together, I mean it literally and it has nothing to do with their mouth. ;)

Celeste - has sewing kit, will travel :)




Crosses legs... thanks for clarifying that... LOL

Still I can see that as play.. and not sexual.. (Cause it would not be sexually fun for me!!!.. lol)

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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/20/2006 12:30:20 AM   
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Crosses legs... thanks for clarifying that... LOL


lol My pleasure!

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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/20/2006 1:01:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Play can mean anything to anyone, really. It's quite a relative term.


For me, play can cover the enitre spectrum. I usually use it to describe when I'm having my way with a girl, or when I'm beating her without any disciplinary agenda in mind. "Play" tends to be more fun for me, because I can just be cruel and degrading for my own pleasure and not have to focus on addressing it as a lesson.


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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/20/2006 1:08:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: amayos

Play can mean anything to anyone, really. It's quite a relative term.


For me, play can cover the enitre spectrum. I usually use it to describe when I'm having my way with a girl, or when I'm beating her without any disciplinary agenda in mind. "Play" tends to be more fun for me, because I can just be cruel and degrading for my own pleasure and not have to focus on addressing it as a lesson.




Similar to what i was trying to explain in a different thread. Well, substitude "I" for "Him" :)

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RE: Play?...what does that mean to you? - 2/20/2006 5:06:26 PM   
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play ~ any interaction between myself and another, can be just talking, messaging, visiting, or sex...

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