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are on line male subs wanted? - 7/23/2009 2:42:12 PM   
georgeMsub


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Status: offline 		i'm all new to this. i subscribed as the male sub i really am, posted my real age and am honest about my looks. i want to start off on line first, because it is all new and i'm still in a vanilla relation.

what does one have to do to find a true person to lead me onto the path of submission?

either dommes want my money or are only interested on girls or boys with sixpacks (or at least their internet pics) PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO?
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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/23/2009 2:45:41 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		You can start by being honest with who you are dealing with and that includes the vanilla relationship you are already in.

There are people who will do online or in person with someone involved with someone else whether there is honesty all the way around or not, but I doubt you are going to get a rewarding experience with someone if there is dishonesty unless all you want is some part time, online, sexual play.

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/23/2009 2:54:05 PM   
ishyB


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Status: offline 		Since your profile says that your vanilla partner isn't aware, maybe people are not interested because they don't want to enable cheating.

Since you obviously do not have trouble with lying offline, I would suggest you to do the same online  and to not mention your vanilla partner in your profile and to get a pretty picture of a guy with six-pack abs.

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/23/2009 3:39:41 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		The impression that I get is that the majority of femdoms on the site are more interested in physical, rather than online only dynamics.  We tend to like physical play and service.  Not everyone can achieve the same satisfaction from something that will not include those elements. 

Knock that down by those who have a preference for monogamy, and you'll find that the pool of those willing to be in the situation you describe gets smaller.  Not many are willing to be involved in an online scenario that is hidden from a SO.


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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/23/2009 5:00:52 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		1. You're cheating on your vanilla partner.
2. Your profile shows that you are interested in play only.
3. Your profile shows that your looks mean a lot to you.  Presumably your partner's looks as well.
4. You are available for online only.

Frankly, OP, you don't have a lot to offer a Domina and there are a LOT of male subs out there.

Since you want online only, how about lying about your gender and getting a male Dom to Dom you online?


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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/23/2009 5:04:03 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		LOL DarkSteven... around here... that wouldn't be surprising to find that their online kinky lover isn't quite who they thought it was! lol There are at least three bitches about it in journals every few hours! lol

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/23/2009 5:07:44 PM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		Sorry, but what would I get out from online, apart from spending time on the computer? Why would I want an online sub if I can have a real one? Where's the point?

Isn't it like watching a picture of a landscape instead of going out and really exploring it?

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/23/2009 6:16:23 PM   
MistressWolfen


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Status: offline 		georgeMsub, Can you explain how you envision online submission and/or service? I fail to see how this is played out? If it is about a wank or guided self eroticism why in the world would you need a dominatrix? I have a number of gay friends that enjoy online play of that sort; but they identify it as play and not domination.

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 12:29:07 AM   
LadyNTrainer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: georgeMsub
i'm all new to this. i subscribed as the male sub i really am, posted my real age and am honest about my looks. i want to start off on line first, because it is all new and i'm still in a vanilla relation.


Alas, you're pretty well hosed.  There's a lot of hot young subbie boys out there who are not lying to or cheating on their vanilla partners, and who have a lot to offer a domme.  They can be very pretty and hot on cam, and also they are emotionally and physically available for a personal relationship in real life without weird drama baggage attached in the form of a vanilla girlfriend who doesn't know you're playing. 

quote:

what does one have to do to find a true person to lead me onto the path of submission?


And by "true", you mean "a hot 20something sex kitten domme who will immediately strip naked on webcam for me regardless of how little I have to offer her in return."

quote:

either dommes want my money or are only interested on girls or boys with sixpacks (or at least their internet pics) PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO?


Improve yourself until you are truly desirable to a domme.  Ditch the vanilla relationship that obviously isn't working since you're willing to lie and cheat, or negotiate it into an ethical polyamory situation where she participates or you have her permission to play.  Work hard on your own physical fitness.  Cultivate your intelligence and personality.  Learn good social skills.

If this is too much effort, hire a pro to get your needs met.  Nobody is going to be willing to put a lot of time and energy into meeting your needs if you don't have what it takes to meet their needs, and that's a cold hard fact.  So either you need to shape yourself up to the point that you DO have something positive to offer a domme who is interested in a personal relationship, or you need to pay a pro.

Please consider converting your vanilla girlfriend, or at least being honest with her.  It's a whole lot better than the drama that goes with cheating, which most dommes really aren't going to have a a lot of patience with or sympathy for.

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 1:28:54 AM   
XaviersXian


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Status: offline 		greetings to all,

OP, online subs are wanted.  The dishonesty is not.  Fix that, and you'll probably find that which you seek.

well wishes,

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 6:03:36 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		I had an on line sub male for 15 years.  He was single when we started... but neglected to tell me when he got married and didn't mention his daughter until she was 5 years old.  He just didn't seem to think these things would be 'important' to me.  He was a lier and a cheater.  When we finally met again after all those years, 'to see if we still had that spark', I found out that all he ever really wanted was vanilla sex.  He had lied to me about being submissive as well as everything else.  He was just very good at telling me whatever I wanted to hear.  Reality rarely ever lives up to the on line fantasies.  If all you want is a fantasy... that's fine.  But after a while, you need to get real.


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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 6:21:08 AM   
CarrieO


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Status: offline 		I'm stilling trying to understand what sort of submission the OP wants to be taught via online only. 

quote:

what does one have to do to find a true person to lead me onto the path of submission?


OP, if you want a "true" person then don't be surprised when that person wants you to be "true/real".  If you want someone to tell you how to perform for them online, give you a list of tasks and rules or expect these people to perform for you, why should it matter if they ask for some form of payment in return for supplying you with service?  You have nothing to offer them in RL therefore they would be the one fulfilling YOUR desires/wishes.

Of course, there is the option of coming clean to your current partner.


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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 3:44:52 PM   
georgeMsub


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Status: offline 		Thank You all for your honest replies to my question.

They gave me something to think about. Judging from the profiles i read some do go online others don't; i understand the problems. quit interesting is the fact that you concider me cheating on my partner when i have a double sub life. All very interesting to think about.

Thanks again.

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 5:01:16 PM   
LadyNTrainer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: georgeMsub
They gave me something to think about. Judging from the profiles i read some do go online others don't; i understand the problems. quit interesting is the fact that you concider me cheating on my partner when i have a double sub life. All very interesting to think about.


Abso-fuckin-lutely you are cheating.  BDSM *is* both intimate and sexual, even when sex is not involved and it's "only" online.  Some people may be okay with that, but a whole lot of people won't be.  Most dommes will prefer a man who has the guts to be honest with his partner and who is more available, emotionally and physically.  You may get lucky and find another married or attached cheater who can also only play online, but again you're competing here with a lot of young and sexy boys.

Good luck and best wishes for self-improvement to you; you'll definitely need it.


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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 5:11:30 PM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: georgeMsub
quit interesting is the fact that you concider me cheating on my partner when i have a double sub life.


If she's aware and cool with it, you are not cheating.  If she's unaware, you're cheating.  Very simple.


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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 5:11:59 PM   
RedMagic1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer
you'll definitely need it.

As does everyone else.


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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 5:13:40 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Interesting that we think of what you're doing as cheating?  Okay dude... look at it this way. Your vanilla partner can tell something is up but doesn't know what it is. She decides since you aren't talking to her, to find someone to talk to. She is more in demand online and in person and decides to spend some time online, meets a wonderful guy and falls in love. They haven't had sex yet, but she wants to. She just has to dump you first or decide to play until she decides what to do. Is she cheating? A month down the road and this sexy beast of a man is really a hot sexy beast that she doesn't want to live without. Is she cheating?

A double life is a double life and no longer is it accepted that men will live a double life with a sweet lil wifeypooh at home while he runs around with a kinky wench. Wake up.

< Message edited by Lockit -- 7/24/2009 5:16:09 PM >

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 7:54:40 PM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		To begin with, online submission, to me, is akin to watching paint dry. If I can't touch the person I'm dominating then what is the sense? Him putting pegs on his own nipples or tying his own cock and balls is giving only one of us pleasure and it sure as hell isn't me.

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 8:09:39 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: georgeMsub

i'm all new to this. i subscribed as the male sub i really am, posted my real age and am honest about my looks. i want to start off on line first, because it is all new and i'm still in a vanilla relation.

what does one have to do to find a true person to lead me onto the path of submission?

either dommes want my money or are only interested on girls or boys with sixpacks (or at least their internet pics) PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO?


Just relax and be yourself (I'm sure others have said the same thing).

Contrary to popular opinion....Mz Right is looking for you as hard...possibly harder....than you are for her....she just just has to go through a lot more shit to get to the same place as you.

Patience Grasshoppah!

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RE: are on line male subs wanted? - 7/24/2009 8:39:11 PM   
Racquelle


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Status: offline 		Take ALL the kink labels out of the equation and think about how satisfied anyone would be with a relationship that existed only on-line.  For those into RPGs and other online forums such as this, we do get some entertainment and some value out of how we spend our time here, but almost all of us would say, it's not enough.  If I can't feel the shock of the crop handle transfer all the way up my arm, it's just not as fun.

It would perhaps be different if you were simply reading the posts and researching on-line, but you are actively seeking to engage another person.  If it's not cheating, then why is it a secret from your partner?

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