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Firebirdseeking -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/25/2009 9:37:10 PM)

I think I made my point, IM:  that the truly wise person has no need to make another feel foolish.  What part of that dont you understand?



MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/25/2009 11:49:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist
You are 42 years old; it's not like you have not been around the block a few times. Stop bitching and just move on with your life.


Nothing else besides this need be said.




IrishMist -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 6:43:03 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

I think I made my point, IM:  that the truly wise person has no need to make another feel foolish.  What part of that dont you understand?

And once again, I will state that Yes, It was a mean comment. So what? If it made her feel foolish, then next time, maybe she will think twice before posting something so idiotic. For fucks sake...shes in her flippin 40's and crying...umm,, crying...about some twerp who instead might want kids one day. To top that off...she's bitching because not everyone agreed with her, and has even gone so far as to state ...on a public board...that she's suicidal.

Oh gosh please...so much drama...The so called girl who posted this thread needs to get her ass kicked so that her brain goes back where it belongs.



KatyLied -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 6:49:49 AM)

fr

Making people feel foolish?  How do we make people feel anything?  People are in control of how they react to things.  And anyone who plays the "suicidal" card would be better served at a mental health counseling facility than on-line.



leadership527 -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 10:29:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking
I wonder if she would have gotten the same response if "she" was a He, and He was sad about his girl leaving. 

From me? Yes. This is a relationship breakup, nothing more, nothing less. The genders and ages don't really matter that much. Is any relationship with a 22 year old likely to be less stable than one with a 30+ year old? Yeah, in my opinion. That's just a life-stage thing.



LaTigresse -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 10:33:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

I think I made my point, IM:  that the truly wise person has no need to make another feel foolish.  What part of that dont you understand?


There is only ONE person responsible for a person's feelings, that one person. Certainly NOT a bunch of strangers on a BDSM message board.

Thinking anything else is the foolish part.



Firebirdseeking -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 5:05:41 PM)

To the last several posters:  I agree that this was a "doomed" connection, more than likely, with the difference in age and our cultural bias in favor of a man being older than a woman.( Heaven forbid the woman should be 22 years older than, what is in this case, a very young man.) 

But here's the thing:  people are not always made of steel.  Yes this is a breakup.  Yes perhaps she is old enough to know better. But - maybe she doesnt.  Does that mean we have no compassion for the hurt?  Words DO hurt; I dont believe that new age bs that if someone is unkind, and deliberately so, that the recipient is 100% responsible for his/her feelings.  We are interactive creatures.  We "make" people feel bad when we are deliberately unkind.

As far as the suicidal card, well, I'm in the business, and talk of suicide is a call for help.    Maybe she belongs at a counseling center, but do you think nasty posts are going to help her get there?

And - has anyone here NOT made a foolish mistake??      



IrishMist -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 5:17:14 PM)

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Does that mean we have no compassion for the hurt?

No, I don't. Because quite honestly, I don't believe for one minute that she 'is or was actually hurting'. You want to waste your sympathy on a drama queen...your perogative...don't expect me to.

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Words DO hurt

and your point is?
I could care less if some person on a message board feels 'bad' after reading something that I wrote. Big fucking deal. Grow a thicker skin or don't post...either way works for me.

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We "make" people feel bad when we are deliberately unkind.

You want to keep on believing that...you go right ahead. I refuse to 'baby ' some chick who is as old as I am...if she can't handle it, tough shit...if you don't like it...tough shit.

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As far as the suicidal card, well, I'm in the business, and talk of suicide is a call for help.

I'll tell you what...since you are so all fired up with sympathy and compassion for the 'poor wittle girl who pasted her troubles on a message board', you go coddle her and pat her on the back for being so brave as to shout to the boards that she is unstable and unable to cope in the real world. Personally, you are wasting your time...buy hey, it's your time to waste...go for it sweetcheeks.

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And - has anyone here NOT made a foolish mistake??

Of course. I am not so immature as to go to a bunch of strangers though; crying and whinning that my life sucks.



DarkSteven -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 6:46:45 PM)

An update... she has a new profile (http://www.collarme.com/personals/v/910923/details.htm) and evidently has found a new Dom.  She evidently works fast.



tazzygirl -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 6:51:32 PM)

8 months with a man... a few days to find a new one.. sounds about right... [:-]



Firebirdseeking -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 7:18:58 PM)

I suggest  you take  a trip to see the wizard.  You need a heart.



tazzygirl -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 7:53:52 PM)

Firebird, Mist pegged it. i used to think like you, then i stepped back and watched. These girls arent often wrong. you may not like what they say, but they have the right to say what they think just like you do. please try and respect that.



daintydimples -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 8:31:21 PM)

You know, there is how you think things should be, and then there is how things are.

I think I should be a foot taller, if would suit my personalty better to have that height. The reality is I am not.

Should the OP be a heck of a lot wiser at 42? That I certainly agree with. The reality is, she is not. She's already jumped into another relationship; in two weeks or two months we'll get to hear about that one, too.

But I attempt to deal with where I think people are at, not where I think they should be.



Firebirdseeking -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 8:37:26 PM)

I agree with what Tazzy says here.  And i also think there is value in examining  intent.  Is the intent to tell someone she is stupid, or to suggest that she think about her part in her pain?  How do you think she will best hear what you have to say?

I am making 2 simple points:   telling someone she is stupid is not very helpful;  and given the choice between being callous or having some compassion - which is NOT the same as feeling sorry for someone - well, I guess Ill choose compassion.



tazzygirl -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 8:47:40 PM)

ladies, that is your right to do so. have compassion, but also understand not everyone will share your level of compassion.

some people need to hit rock bottom before they wake up.. or.. in this case.. grow up. lets face it, 20 years is a HUGE difference... it wouldnt seem that big if the ages were 42 and 62 instead of 22 and 42.

some people just need to be told the harsh reality in order to realize their mistakes. tough love bites.



RumpusParable -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/26/2009 11:02:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist
You are 42 years old; it's not like you have not been around the block a few times. Stop bitching and just move on with your life.


Nothing else besides this need be said.


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

An update... she has a new profile (http://www.collarme.com/personals/v/910923/details.htm) and evidently has found a new Dom.  She evidently works fast.


Ding Ding Ding!



MMagic -> RE: Does it get any easier ? (7/29/2009 10:11:34 PM)

I'm so sorry this has happened to you and I gotta say when I first got here I had a 22 year old contact me.  I couldn't stand ME at 22 so being with one was out of the question, no matter HOW many times I told myself not to be an ageist.  I am very youthful in appearance and demeanor but I also have to go all mature in certain situations and just didn't feel confident that a young Dom of 22 would be able to handle that. I dated a really younger man on several occasions.  Got on my nerves to NO end.  No offense young 'uns here. I love hanging out with you all but when it comes to getting horizontal...I'll pass. Let's play Xbox instead. Same goes for anyone 20 years OLDER.  You gotta be Brad Pitt or Keanu Reeves or Denzel in all ways to get me if you're 20 years older.  Sorry, once again no offense to anyone older.  I like what I like.

I should also add that Sir is younger than me but only by 5 years.  Most days I can't even tell and other days I really should act my age. ;)



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