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what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 12:44:16 PM   
MARIEL


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Status: offline 		If your Master/Mistress was very much away or distant,what would you do?
if you knew you couldnt demand or crave them to let you hear from them more often,and you only got more distance in return?
when they have an attitude like ´you will be satisfied with whatever I give´ knowing youre disconnected?
Is it seen often that you dont hear from them quite much and the attitude you have no right want more thing attitude? just wondering.. think Im seeing it..
how do you deal with that kind of persons? yeah yeah,throw them out-what if they do not want to let you just walk?
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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 12:45:21 PM   
MARIEL


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Status: offline 		Or is it done just because of breaking a slave?

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 12:45:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		dosent matter if they dont want to let you walk, you are there by CHOICE no matter what D/s or M/s dynamic you have....

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 12:52:46 PM   
MARIEL


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Status: offline 		yeah,so do I think, do you believe in spiritual things? well lets say those things do happen and you have experienced it,together with him,right, then he goes off saying to you,if you walk, those forces you connect to through me(hes been involved in esoteric and occult things and does)if you walk,those forces will know it and how do you think they will view you take lightly on your promise to me. its not just something you say,those stuff are real. Okay, you do protect yourself with some things you can do etc. what does he do,he runs,and hide. not a sight. even more distant. thats about the walk.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 1:06:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MARIEL

yeah,so do I think, do you believe in spiritual things? well lets say those things do happen and you have experienced it,together with him,right, then he goes off saying to you,if you walk, those forces you connect to through me(hes been involved in esoteric and occult things and does)if you walk,those forces will know it and how do you think they will view you take lightly on your promise to me. its not just something you say,those stuff are real. Okay, you do protect yourself with some things you can do etc. what does he do,he runs,and hide. not a sight. even more distant. thats about the walk.



I would ask him how he stood with his esoteric and occult forces and they stood with him over being a douchebag. 

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 1:09:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		If he wants distance and doesn't contact you and you decide you need more than that, then just block him. And maybe figure out next time you shouldn't get with a married man who is fitting you in when the wifey's away.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 1:17:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

If he wants distance and doesn't contact you and you decide you need more than that, then just block him. And maybe figure out next time you shouldn't get with a married man who is fitting you in when the wifey's away.


Yep, she said it all...If a guy thinks that contact is only possible on his terms and conditions via a distance relationship...then I am more then happy to show them my teeth and wish them good luck with fooling others around. Either he is serious and has no reason to hide himself into his anonymity from being contacted by you or he is a fool and just likes to play

A previous partner who was not into Bdsm but still very dominant in other aspects forbid me contact for a certain amount of time...which meant that I was supposed to leave him alone for a few weeks (don't remember anymore why that was), however, nevertheless at times I did drop him a line or a text via phone or a chat online...I knew that he might not reply but at times he did and I remember that in one chat he reminded me bluntly "you are meant to leave me alone for whatevertime, you remember?" So whilst I knew he was angry about something (though that meassure was exaggarated) I still had the practical option to contact him (even when I knew he asked me not to). Now, most of the time I accepted it for that period of time, but nevertheless I knew I can contact him if I really have to for whatever reason. So with a guy where I don't even have that option, e.g. as he can't be bothered to disclose his number and just likes the convenience to be available to chat only when he wants to or only when he is able to e.g. due to having a partner with him...thats not gonna work with me. 
Trust goes both ways and a guy hiding in his anonymity is not one who increases my level of trust towards him.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 1:25:53 PM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		To the OP, I think this master has been quite skilled at creating mind fucks as far as you are concerned.

If the relationship on his terms meets your needs, that is great!
(I have a difficult time understanding, why if you're happy you seem so distressed as evidenced by your numerous posts but I am sure I am just being obtuse or something.)

Best wishes.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 5:23:11 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Leave him alone... he's with his wife.  He will get to you when he gets to you. You have to wait for him if you want to be a good slave. You have to let him do anything he wants to and if he wants to break you... so be it. If he wants to kidnap you and install you in his second home... or sell you to his brother... so be it.

Nothing has changed since your last post. So if you haven't learned the truth of the matter and think he is some magical wiz... then you are stuck in a trap of your own making. Enjoy and quit bitching about it or risk his getting wise to your bitch when he comes here seeking another to play magic with.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 5:58:29 PM   
Born2BMasochist


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Status: offline 		IMO, to each his/ her own. The dynamics you choose to have in a relationship is your own. No one else can judge those dynamics. But if you do not like those dynamics then get out of the relationship. Bottom line.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 6:01:45 PM   
Born2BMasochist


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Status: offline 		Also @pheonix. I too have been in the position where he has stated no contact for a full week. He had to think about somethings. But He basically said He was not going to talk to me. Not me to him. And if something bad happened during that period He would have been more angry i didnt tell Him then i did, He said no contact by phone or by texting, I instant messaged Him , got some thoughts out and that was the end. When the week was over He was actually glad i continued to send the texts and that IM. He said it helped in making his decision.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/24/2009 6:05:43 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Your a living, breathing, thinking human being. You decide if this relationship is meeting your needs, if it isn't either change it so that it does or walk away from it. No one can force you to stay except YOU. If you stay and are unhappy then you have only yourself to blame.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/25/2009 9:58:15 AM   
daddysliloneds


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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/25/2009 1:40:18 PM   
antipode


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quote:

those forces you connect to through me(hes been involved in esoteric and occult things and does)if you walk,those forces will know it


If you do believe in this crap, there isn't anything anybody can say to you. You have fallen into the hands of a manipulator, he is good at it, and you are allowing that to continue, for whatever reason. See a counselor, because you are inviting abuse into your life.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/25/2009 4:32:20 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		If I sense that someone needs distance I give it to them.  Why bother making demands of someone who is disengaged and uninterested?  Seems like a huge waste of time that could be spent better elsewhere.  I don't believe in stuff like magic or the occult so I guess I'd not be susceptible to some of that nonsense.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/25/2009 9:15:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MARIEL

If your Master/Mistress was very much away or distant,what would you do?
if you knew you couldnt demand or crave them to let you hear from them more often,and you only got more distance in return?
when they have an attitude like ´you will be satisfied with whatever I give´ knowing youre disconnected?
Is it seen often that you dont hear from them quite much and the attitude you have no right want more thing attitude? just wondering.. think Im seeing it..
how do you deal with that kind of persons? yeah yeah,throw them out-what if they do not want to let you just walk?


I am sorry are your legs broken? Are they threating to break them? If you are un happy either throw him/she out or leave

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/25/2009 9:18:59 PM   
Mistressbinature


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ORIGINAL: MARIEL

Or is it done just because of breaking a slave?

no memeber of either gender nor any segment of this lifestyle needs or wants to put up with an immature, self centered little piss ant

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/26/2009 9:19:27 AM   
angelikaJ


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those forces you connect to through me(hes been involved in esoteric and occult things and does)if you walk,those forces will know it


Mariel,

How is this man aligned with your highest good?

It does not seem to be enough for your happiness that this man only wants you when it is convenient for him.

You seem to have a strong imagination: enough to be connected to masters that you have never met; enough to want to believe that you are connected through these forces.

Channel your imagination into creating positive things in your life and when the time is right find someone who wants for your highest good.

(And yes, find a therapist who will work with you on why you set yourself up to be in emotionally abusive situations.)



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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/26/2009 6:25:46 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I don't get involved with them..simple.

I don't deal well with distant, cold people especially someone I supposedly have a relationship with.

If I never heard from him, if he was always distant and away it would not work for me. I would end the relationship.

And you can ALWAYS walk away..no matter what he may tell you.

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RE: what would you do when your Master is very much away? - 7/26/2009 8:07:07 PM   
bluefireeyez


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Status: offline 		Walk away. If he is only talking to you on his time, he isn't any good. A decent Master/Dom will take their time to let you know they care. When my Master left the country for two weeks, he made some restraints and cards that allowed me to stay connected to him. When he got home, he reached out to me as soon as he could.

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