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Curious about a forced-Bi experience - 7/24/2009 1:47:02 PM

SweetSubBoy1985

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I recently listed my profile as Bi, but not sure if it is truly accurate. I have fantasized about a force-bi experience, where in I am forced to either give oral sex, or receive anal sex from a man at the instruction or forced of a dominant woman.

Don't know if this makes me bi...not really attracted to men as a whole, just the complete humiliation and submissiveness of the situation.

Any thoughts are welcome :)

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RE: Curious about a forced-Bi experience - 7/24/2009 1:50:13 PM

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Why not change it to bi-curious? It would probably be a more accurate description of your situation.

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RE: Curious about a forced-Bi experience - 7/24/2009 1:54:51 PM

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Yeah I agree, bi-curious does seem better

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RE: Curious about a forced-Bi experience - 7/24/2009 2:01:19 PM

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it takes away the punch in "forced" when you mention it of course..lol

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RE: Curious about a forced-Bi experience - 7/24/2009 2:07:06 PM

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I have had similar feelings as you describe--the need to surrender/submit so deeply that I will be forced to give oral sex to men or women, and to be forced to receive anally from both men or from women with strap-ons;
however, often times the reality can be a negative thing:
if you really dont find the other person attractive,
or you see their sexual organs and fear they have a sexually transmitted disease, etc.
or some other unforeseen factor at the time makes you feel harmed by being forced. Yes, we need to 'look before we leap' and 'know' and 'trust' the Dominant, etc. but the more that we 'loo/know/trust' the less FORCED we feel, and the experience seems rigged and phony.
It would be like paying a prostitute to force you; well, yes, you are being forced, but it is in the way that you have detailed and are paying for, and if he/she doesnt do exactly as you want, they wont get their tip or return business, so it really doesnt feel forced. But if you go to a complete anonymous stranger it will definitely feel forced, but you also run the risk of being forced in ways you will regret.
oh well.

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RE: Curious about a forced-Bi experience - 7/24/2009 5:23:15 PM

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I had a submissive who was bi curious, and we decided that I would allow him to have the experience. We agreed it would be at a time and place of my choosing and with no warning. I loved it, he loved it, and so...I recommend being honest with any Domme you end up with that this may be a need you wish to explore. Honesty is always the best way to move forward.

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RE: Curious about a forced-Bi experience - 7/24/2009 11:59:19 PM

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quote:

I recently listed my profile as Bi, but not sure if it is truly accurate

Listing an orientation on the basis of fantasies... seems somewhat upside down

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RE: Curious about a forced-Bi experience - 7/25/2009 2:06:21 AM

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lable your orientation whatever you feel confortable with, bicurious is far safer and less stressful to the pych than bisexual, your fantasys seem based more on pleasing a dom girl and humilation more than exploring with a guy, in the end they are just fantasies which may have little to do with actual orientation and what you want in real life, call yourself straight or bi or w/e you feel most confortable with

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RE: Curious about a forced-Bi experience - 7/25/2009 6:51:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: antipode

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I recently listed my profile as Bi, but not sure if it is truly accurate

Listing an orientation on the basis of fantasies... seems somewhat upside down

If that were true then all virgins must be totally lacking in a sexual orientation, even if one virgin fantasizes only about men and one fantasizes only about women and a third fantasizes only about whippings, from men or women. They're only fantasies, after all. What have they got to do with reality, even if said virgin has been cumming to the same type of fantasy, without variation, for ten years straight?

"The cart, dear Arjuna, is pulled by four horses..." But every since that apochrphal moment, people still absolutely insist upon putting the cart before the horse, usually because they imagine the cart is somehow magically "realer" than the horses. That's what I find upside-down.

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