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LaTigresse -> RE: stay flexible (7/30/2009 9:07:55 AM)
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ORIGINAL: maia09
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ORIGINAL: hallieB
If its not what you want walk away seems to be the favored response around here. i dont want to walk away because things are not the way i want them. If that was the case i would change my profile to Dominant. i have talked with him and will continue to bring it up on occasion if he will allow it. Any suggestions on how to deal with it. Or may be why a Master would do that. Sometimes an understanding of why seems to help.
Greetings hallieB. i see you identify yourself as slave. i don't know what your perception of slave is or, more importantly, what your Master's perception is. For me, slavery is about surrender. That means i surrender my conditions, my need to be treated how i perceive is fair, considerate etc. It really doesn't matter what anyone here thinks. i recommend looking into your own heart.
Rather than ask your Master why He handles weekends the way He does, you may learn more by asking Him what His concept of slavery is. He is doing as He wishes to do. To me, that's what a Master does. As a slave who trusts my Master, i find much value in accepting how He does things and learning from it. i learn many things like humility, greater obedience and i learn mostly what is pleasing to Him, not if He's accommodating my wishes. But that is MY relationship and may not suit you. It took me a long time to stop questionning why He this and how come He that. Now all i need to know is it's what He wants.
This is along the lines of what I was thinking.
To me, a slave chooses the person they wishes to give themself to based upon compatibility and shared ideas of what that relationship will be. Then they submit. Period.
All too often the biggest problem, as I see it, is lack of communication prior to the choice. Lack, on BOTH parts, of exactly WHAT is expected. Too many assumptions are made.
Now, the OP has obviously chosen her master. She submitted to being his slave. Either there was not enough communication prior, or someone has drasically changed their expectations without communicating them.
If the OP values the relationship, more communication needs to happen. Expectations need to be clearly understood. If she cannot submit to his expectations of her, or he cannot own a slave with the expectations she has, then it's done. Cut the losses and move on.
As always, the key is communication.
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