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meeting for first time - 7/25/2009 3:21:38 PM

slavejim11

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hello everyone, i have be talking to this one mistress and we both like eachother and are going to meet for the first time and i was wondering if there are any do's and dont's that i should know about before going to meet her
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RE: meeting for first time - 7/25/2009 3:36:30 PM

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Ask her if there is anything that would be inappropriate. For instance.. One time I went to meet a sub.. in a public place. The door opening, holding the chair etc was all good. But when he started addressing me as Mistress.. um, no. We're in the getting to know each other stage.. we are both humans, equals. ACT THAT WAY dammit! (those were my thoughts (and expressed to him when he started it).

That may not apply in your case, but it doesn't hurt to ASK HER.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/25/2009 5:19:47 PM

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I'd say act vanilla until the signs are very clear that you should do otherwise, Jim. A domina using this forum was once met in a cafe by a sub who bellowed the word "Mistress!" from the doorway, then dived straight to the floor to kiss her feet. She didn't find this conducive to a harmonious first meeting.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/25/2009 6:10:04 PM

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You should do what you normally do when you go out to meet a girl. Shower. Brush your teeth. Put on a clean shirt. Put on pants. Stuff like that.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/25/2009 9:26:27 PM

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Don't whip your male chastity devise out of your pocket in the restaurant to show it to her.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/25/2009 9:30:37 PM

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be polite, be a gentleman, be aware of others who are not into bdsm

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/25/2009 11:30:14 PM

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Just get out your wallet,it saves time.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/26/2009 3:09:01 PM

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The best answer to this question is in two parts.

Step one: Do those same things you would do during a vanilla date as far as making yourself look presentable. There's no good excuse for lack of personal hygiene, clean neat clothes, etc. Be a gentleman!

Step two: Ask how she wants this meeting to go. Does she want to keep it vanilla or have more of a D/s feel to it? Only she can answer that for you.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/26/2009 4:55:57 PM

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Bring a SMALL gift. Under $5 dollars.

A bar of chocolate,(I once had a sub bring Me a hershy's bar...we're still good friends) a flower...I once had a sub bring Me a bar of soap *grins*. Not a bribe or a "serious" present but something thoughtful. If she's said she's really into knitting bring her some yarn...something that shows you've listened to her likes and dislikes. Even something funny. She's said she hates NASCAR bring her a Dale Earnhart figurine...making a woman laugh, smile and feel you are paying attention is a good start with ANY woman.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 5:46:02 AM

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just be yourself. or just go crazy

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 6:18:40 AM

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While I understand your turning to the boards with this question, be sure and ask her the same question. We all have different desires, so be sure to include the actual person you are meeting in your poll.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 6:48:38 AM

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making a woman laugh, smile

Good point, homedspot. I've always found that making a woman laugh is the fastest way into her knickers too.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 7:38:07 AM

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All of the above... but most importantly follow her lead... she knows her expectations from the meeting... and she is supposed to be the bossy one remember.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 8:07:47 AM

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Be wary if She wears leather boots and drives a taxi they are two massive red flags. No seriously, mate have fun. Best of luck
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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 8:58:57 AM

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if you meet in a public venue then keep it vanilla and be honest and sincere. pay close attention to what She likes and says to do and it should be fine. i met my M'lady i traveled 2 1/2 hours to a public dungeon to talk, i was honest and attentive. W/we didn't play that night but i have been happily collared for 2 years now.

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 9:50:20 AM

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*waves hi to clip* *hugs and such*

Stay safe, okay?

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 9:52:43 AM

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Anyone suggest a safe call?

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 9:59:26 AM

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safe calls, IMO.. are essentially useless. by the time you MAKE the call.. it'll take a bit for there to be any police response (or friends..whichever route) to GET to the location.. IN which time the person you're meeting has had time to do whatever he/she is going to do.

Not to mention, most LEOs are going to be wondering about.."my friend consensually went to meet this person at such and such a place, and I havent heard from him/her" or "my friend went to consensually meet someone and I havent heard from her/him"

to them, since both the parties are allegedly consenting adults, in most US jurisdictions, it's I thinkn a 48 hr disappearance before LEOs will get involved. EVen if it's 24 hrs..still loads of time for the perp to commit mayhem.

just sayin'

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RE: meeting for first time - 7/27/2009 10:45:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

..., in most US jurisdictions, it's I thinkn a 48 hr disappearance before LEOs will get involved. EVen if it's 24 hrs..still loads of time for the perp to commit mayhem.

Not true for all states. Here in Connecticut, officers are required to accept reports of a missing person regardless of the time frame (according to the CT Guidelines for Handling Missing Persons Investigations and Acceptance of Reports 2008 Manual).
They may wonder about reporting a friend who hasn't contacted at the agreed upon time after meeting with another person for consentual ****, but they still need to take the report and treat it as a missing person until otherwise advised.

While safe calls may offer a false sense of security, depending on the type of meeting, they aren't necessarily a bad idea.
That being said....OP, be a gentleman, mind your manners and follow her lead.

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