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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 10:08:32 AM

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What makes a man weak?

The fixation with needing to appear not to be.

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What makes him strong?

The self-honest ability to be weak.

Wow!!!! To me that's a superb way to put it.

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 10:19:05 AM

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Um, anyone who thinks that men are emotionally stronger by virtue of their gender is delusional. We are conditioned to show emotion differently. If one does not feel emotions, then they probably have been conditioned to turn them off, stuff them down deep and to become bitter.

There is something precious about a man's tear. For those who rarely display them, they are a sign of a connection that runs deep and when it is displayed, it is a moment in time that is sacred. Like many women, my tears come on and off like a faucet. I can go from tears to laughter in 30 seconds. I hate that they come easily, and just recently, I learned that I use them to manipulate, to some extent. When I think I am being attacked, I go into little girl mode and tears come out. Instead of being the adult and saying, "hey, that hurt," the tears are a defense mechanism that replaces words.

Men need their partner's strength just as much as the reverse is true. The signs are more subtle than in most women, though. Most men show their emotional needs less obviously and the good ones have learned to verbalize it.

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 11:51:24 AM

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My opinion is that it's a free world (for which I am forever grateful). Men, women and transgendered persons can be anyway they want to be as far as I am concerned. So as you say weak, strong, emotional, good , bad etc.
It's not even a debate least of all a discussion IMO.

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I agree, but to some people it means everything. Sad eh!
Take care
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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 11:57:52 AM

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Thank you everyone for your opinions so far. Very enlightening .
Have a great day or night .

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 12:01:31 PM

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What makes a man weak?

Being unable to pick me up.

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What makes him strong?

Someone who can pick me up.

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 12:24:53 PM

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lol

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 12:39:49 PM

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Being truly in touch with ones self is an extremely undervalued strength.

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 2:50:44 PM

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Being able to show and express one's feelings is true honesty with one's self and with others. Honesty shows strength; lies create weakness and destruction. One may disagree with my thoughts, but my feelings are real and expressed to others show strength... the same is true for all human beings, no matter what hormones or at what age they may be. Expressing one's feelings to others show a strong person who has no fear of the consequences and who has rigid convictions. Hiding one's emotions shows weakness and fear.

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 3:11:09 PM

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I totally agree with you, A.! Well ranted, haha!

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 4:02:25 PM

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I would say strength or weakness is measure as the ability to cope with and work through a challenge. Someone can be strong in one area and weak in another.

Crying and other emotions are only a weakness when they equate to locking up and not being able to work through something. If crying or other emotions are a mechanism for working through something, then it can be a strength.

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/26/2009 8:24:07 PM

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The concept of machismo is something every female-to-male transsexual struggles with. I weigh just over 100 lbs, and I resisted having a sex change for a long time because I didn't think I could be a manly enough man. There was just no way I could compete in the macho game. So, I had two choices: I could either spend the rest of my life feeling insecure and over compensating for it, or I could throw the concept of machismo out the window and do whatever the hell I wanted. I chose option number two, and now I feel sorry for men (and women) who believe they have to act a certain way in order to validate their gender.

A cowboy once told me that you lose all your man-points if you ride English. I told him I don't play for man-points. He had no answer for that.

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/27/2009 2:10:30 AM

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Expressing one's feelings to others show a strong person who has no fear of the consequences and who has rigid convictions. Hiding one's emotions shows weakness and fear.

Not necessarily. It could just mean someone doesn't care about others feelings.
Anyway, a person has nothing to fear, has nothing to lose.

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RE: Weak, strong, emotional, good , bad all that - 7/27/2009 9:26:26 AM

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A strength is also a weakness.

Consistently emotional will render someone incapable of arriving at a reasonable decision.

Consistently reasonable and dependent on the facts will deny your expressive side and render you a fairly dull person.

So.....perhaps a balance is the answer......but then too much in the way of compromise may render you unable to take a stand.

I would say a strength is not pigeon holing yourself into a particular character and way of life - so you can take advantage of opportunities when they arise; then again others would argue you don't know where you stand with such a person.

No right and wrong I suppose.

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