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ORIGINAL: serisa

Hello everyone

My Dom/boyfriend seems to have this pull/push thing going on with the way he acts towards me.  I am trying to understand why he does it?, is it some sort control game?.  What usually happens is he does something big to upset me.  I am upset and tell hm how i feel.  I get no feedback but he is especially nice to me until i 'forgive' him.  Then as soon as i 'forgive' him he seems to look for something to have a go at me about or does something else to upset me, but never before i 'forgive' him.  I been with him for over three years now and it has been going on for so long i feel sure he does it on purpose.  i have even asked him, but nothing changes.

Does anyone understand this at all and is there any effective way i could try to respectfully turn it around and stop it happening.  i feel its a very destructive and vicious circle.

Thank you