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Apocalypso -> RE: Master 'Styles' (7/28/2009 1:56:28 PM)
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ORIGINAL: JanMikal
I've been a Dominant for a long time....well, perhaps I should say I have been dominant, in a less formal sense than is usually meant when one says 'A Dominant'. Personality, etc. But I must admit, I feel a little out of place. Or perhaps out of time.
Considering my fondess for ex Soviet Union/Eastern Bloc army surplus (in everyday life, not just fetish), I think you can safely say some of us are way more out of time than you. [;)] I know a guy who dresses like a cavalier. To do his supermarket shopping.
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Apparently, I am a more 'old-fashioned' type of Dom; I believe that the ultimate expression of a powerful man is a tailored suit and tie, perhaps a hat and/or walking-stick. Likewise, with a Domme, I see the ultimate expression being one of a classy cocktail dress or gown, with immaculately styled hair and appropriate makeup.
I'm not a suit and tie man, but I do like a good hat. Fedora's are awesome. I think I shall buy a bowler next, so I can pretend I'm in Clockwork Orange and go round saying "total horrorshow" until one of my friends hits me. Which are your favourites?
And to thine own self be true. That's it. Wear what you feel is 'you'. That's what dom dress is for me. There is something about your post that did rankle a bit though. I absolutely think you should wear what you want, and nobody else has any business saying otherwise. And there was a bit of an air of judgement from your comments, especially the "fashion tips for Dommes" part. Tell you what. I'll completely respect your choice to wear a suit and tie. If you completely respect the fact I choose not to. Sound fair?
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My question is this; is there really a place for someone like me in this culture? Or am I hopelessly dated and outmoded?
Protip: The difference between "hopelessly dated", "endearingly eccentric" and "fashionably retro" is entirely subjective. And course there is. The only issue is an event where you don't meet the dress code. And that's no different then the fact a lot of vanilla clubs wouldn't let me in on a Saturday night. And they would you. Whereas you probably wouldn't get into the rock club. But I would.
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What do you all think? Do any of you find this appealing? Is this a 'style' of Master/Dom/etc that you find attractive, or is the leather/latex/etc a must for you?
To throw an extra spanner in the works, it is very possible that somebody you meet may wear the stuff you mention for any reasons to do with BDSM, even if they're BDSMers. I own a leather jacket and a pair of PVC trousers with lots of zips on. They aren't anything to do with the fact I'm a fetishist, let alone a dom. They're primarily for wearing to punk and goth clubs, even if I will use them at fetish events now and again. It's best not to assume that somebody's dress tells you their orientation unless expressly told that. I know several gothy submissives who wear leather jackets.
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