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TheLadyIsADomme -> Mind Fks (7/28/2009 1:21:43 PM)
Hello All: I've been thinking a lot lately about my "style" of domination, and have realized that I am much more into the mental side of the spectrum. Not that I don't enjoy physical aspects of course, but I like the idea of the mind fk. One very easy example that I thought of is having the sub blindfolded and then making him think (via sounds) that there is another person with us. What other examples have any of you lovely and more experienced domme's (and anyone else who cares to respond, of course) used, and what do you think of the concept of the mind fk in general? I appreciate your responses. Warmly, LD

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 1:58:47 PM)
Use the search function, please. We just had a thread on this like, five seconds ago. My thoughts are posted there. You can search by the topic, or just take a look at my posts to find it. [8\|] Welcome to the boards, OP. Have fun! [:)]

AAkasha -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 2:00:24 PM)
I really get hot from male vulnerability, so mind-fucks are a part of that. I pretty much prey upon a sub's darkest/nastiest fantasies, and those can vary from person to person. I find that mind-fucks involving "public humiliation" are especially diabolical, and they may involve me getting a girlfriend involved (that the sub doesn't know I know) and acting as the woman who saw his panties showing in a lingerie store, etc. I take a situation where really no one would know, then have a girlfriend totally embarrass him. It isn't until later that he finds out she is in on it. If I tell him at all! (hah). The problem with mindfucks is that they have a limited shelf life. This is another reason I love new partners. Really, once you get close enough to a man, he can tell when you are fucking with him, and/or you have done enough mindfucks that he can't be fooled any longer. It is like a parent not being able to back up their threats. If you are always just setting him up for a mindfuck, he will start to become comfortable, unless you a) REALLY go through with one or b) find a new way to fool him. Akasha

PeonForHer -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 2:24:15 PM)
I would love to be on the receiving end of such mind-fucking. You've just reminded me why I have to find a partner with brains and creativity. Hmmm. Are you sure this subject shouldn't be discussed amongst femdoms only, though? It seems a private pooling of ideas might be a good move . . .

DommeDesire -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 4:16:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming Use the search function, please. We just had a thread on this like, five seconds ago. My thoughts are posted there. You can search by the topic, or just take a look at my posts to find it. [8\|] Welcome to the boards, OP. Have fun! [:)] Okay, thanks! Warmly, LD

allthatjaz -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 4:33:10 PM)
Steve can continually come up with good mind fucks that put me in very uncomfortable places. I have never once thought, 'done that, been their' or 'oh no, not the same old same old!' I think that so long as you can continually pick up on your partner, you can continually mind fuck with them. I enjoy giving a good mind fuck and I will be honest and say that I like to drop in a good element of fear as well as humiliation. I believe that a good mind fuck comes from good preparation, a thorough understanding of the person you are with and an ability to plant the seed that something untoward is about to happen! You actually don't have to do very much at all but if you get them believing you then your half way there.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 5:03:36 PM)
Here is the two page thread. It actually was a couple of weeks ago, that I posted. But the thread was started in 2004! My post is on the second page, but this is the link to read it from the beginning. I hope this helps.[:)] http://www.collarchat.com/m_51611/mpage_1/tm.htm

PeonForHer -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 5:47:06 PM)
You say on that thread that you're against mindfucks, DD. Disappointing! You say, "Mindfucks are a hard limit for me. Planning and carrying out an outright deception on my slaveboy would just be so wrong. I mean, WTF? It wouldn't foster trust at all, between us. Quite the contrary. It would make him anxious, fearful, and angry- and wouldn't be amusing, funny or yummy to me at all. The idea repulses me. " I beg you to think again. I'd suggest: be clear with him that there are boundaries beyond which you'll never go. Also, I'm only talking of the mildest of tricks, to start with. If your guy doesn't like them, then stop. God, I think of all the things I've read on CM, this is the most exciting. I want to be mind-fucked. This is the 70 proof version of domination.

LdyyR -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 6:24:50 PM)
The art of the mind fk. The mind such a wonderful toy with the right man. [:D] I've enjoyed being on the giving end of a number of them and they left me with that warm tingly feeling after achieving desired affect. One such brain tease in particular involved bondage, blindfolds, knives, genitles, oh my. There was trust in the relationship, but there was that moment of doubt in subs mind. He must have thought, "My Mistress has decided to hold me to some words spoken in haste, but then, this isn't the act of a sane woman". I could see his safe word at the tip of his lips wanting to come out but him, at the same time wanting to save face. It was yummy fun. He's probably the only person I would do that knife act with. I think you really have to know the person's mentality quite well to mess with his genitals like that. If you don't know whom your dealing with, you might be in for a beat down yourself when you take off those cuffs. [sm=slappy.gif] or worse, you could be putting someone through some real psychological chit that you didn't intend. After five years, I still manage to mind fk him in various ways, mostly having nothing to do with physical acts. In this case, I love it, he usually gets a kick out of it, when I let him be privy to it after the act. Oh and the invisible person in the room is a fun act too. A mind not f**ked is a terrible waste. [8D]

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 7:06:32 PM)
Mine and my slaveboy's major kinks are control, objectification and humiliation.[:)] We're a good match in and out of bed, and its a *reciprocal* relationship. Meaning: we give as much as we get. Mutual adoration, pleasure, fulfillment, and self- realization or self-actualization- those are the goals, D/s and otherwise, for us. That's how we roll. For more information see: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs Your Kink Is Not Our Kink, that's all Peon. Your name is a delicious double-entendre, BTW. I've always loved it. I deeply respect your right to have completely different kinks than us, and applaude your efforts to fulfill your own desires. If a mind fuck would be yummy for you, I'm sure you'll find a girl who will do you that way with great joy and satisfaction. One thing though: I wish you would come see me sometime in alaska... It is soooooo beatiful there. I have a pristine forest, and when it snows, its perfect. It is wild and bursting with life!Two things really. While your back is lovely and wonderful to look at, I wish that you' d switch that picture to something that shows another side of you, please. For us, mind fucks are out because my slaveboy is very anxious and fearful, and mindfucks would damage him and our relationship. I would not enjoy it. That's why the idea is repulsive to me. Its a hard limit for my slave and I.

PeonForHer -> RE: Mind Fks (7/28/2009 7:18:34 PM)
OK, DD. I can only ever speak about whatever gives me a buzz, and even then it's 99% fantasy and not real life. I've never disguised the fact that I'm a newbie. The flip-side of that, though, is that in real life a mere 1% of what I fantasise about would almost certainly be sheer bliss for me. You absolutely should go with what's right for you and your boy. If it ain't broke, don't fix it, and all that. I've got a pic of me on the other side on my profile. Please visit, and I'll put the kettle on for you for a nice pot of Earl Grey. And yes, I've loved Alaska since I was a tiny kid. I climb a lot in the Scottish Highlands, winters included. Pretty similar, I'd say, minus the bears. [;)]

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Mind Fks (7/29/2009 7:15:02 AM)
I absolutely LOVE mindfucks... seriously!! My personal favorite is to have them suspended then wrap their torso reasonably tight with plastic wrap, lay the "toys" you plan on using out in front of them, include a really sharp knife. Then blindfold them and go about the play as usual. The norm... floggers, quirts, you get the drift. Then, when they are really flying tell them that you are going to open them up. Have a bottle of nice warm water handy. Take a pair of sissors and start cutting at the top of the plastic wrap and pour the water on it as you go down. The warm water flowing down the "cut"... weg. Ok, I've been told I'm a sick bitch. Jewel

SthrnCom4t -> RE: Mind Fks (7/29/2009 11:28:39 AM)
Mind f*cks of submissives are discussed in private, and only after the secret handshake has been confirmed. <grin>

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Mind Fks (7/29/2009 1:41:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SthrnCom4t Mind fcks of submissives are discussed in private, and only after the secret handshake has been confirmed. <grin> The first rule of mind fucks is: you don't talk about mind fucks. [:)] Tyler Durden lives!*

LdyyR -> RE: Mind Fks (7/29/2009 2:28:55 PM)
Dammit, I really have to check and see if Amazon is selling the rule book. I just keep screwing up and not following the rules that work for everyone.[:D]

PeonForHer -> RE: Mind Fks (7/29/2009 2:37:38 PM)
That's because I've got it, LadyyR. With patient teaching, all dommes will be exactly the way I want them to be. [;)]

OttersSwim -> RE: Mind Fks (7/29/2009 2:41:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer That's because I've got it, LadyyR. With patient teaching, all dommes will be exactly the way I want them to be. [;)] You fiend! [&:]

LdyyR -> RE: Mind Fks (7/29/2009 2:51:48 PM)
PeonForher, You are a tempting little one aren't you. [;)] And Otter's right, you are so bad. But then again, from what I've seen so far, you have a number of ladies under your control all ready.

LittleMeganV -> RE: Mind Fks (7/29/2009 2:55:28 PM)
Ma'am has tried one similar to your example. Basically she likes to tease me about forced bi because she knows it makes me uncomfortable and embarrasses me, outside of session through it's been stated that neither of us have any intent or desire for a 3rd person. So to facilitate my uncomfortableness and her fun she has taken to blindfolding me and leaving me tied up for short periods and then playing the male vocal parts of porn. So all I hear is the guy walking in and talking about what he has found and will do, while she uses her feeldoe at her discretion, and in time to the porn. All in all it's a very interesting and intense experience for me because I know intellectually what we agreed to, but when you can't do much and only have partial senses your mind does not always wish to accept what you know intellectually. Pretty simple and doesn't cost anything, and a interesting way to experiment with some thing, without actually having do that thing. (If that makes sense).

PeonForHer -> RE: Mind Fks (7/29/2009 3:16:39 PM)
you have a number of ladies under your control all ready. Thank you, LadyyR. If only that were true, though. If only I had such supreme control that I could get one of them to control me [:(]

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