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aidan -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/1/2009 6:38:29 AM)

Oooooh, sex swing. I could have sworn it said "wing".

I really need to stop posting late at night. :-p



MoGa -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/1/2009 12:19:33 PM)

One thing I would like to add here, is the need for a safe word that is not one you would normally use. I understand that you want to be raped, but sometimes things go wrong when you least expect it, so a safe word specifically set up for the rape scene may indeed come in handy. My former sub loved rape play and constantly told me "No", not meaning it. It added to the fantasy. No is not a safe word to me, in that circumstance, so hearing it meant nothing to me. However, he did have a safe word that if needed, he could use to stop all play, instantly.
 
Just a suggestion [:D]
 
Have fun!
 
MoGa



flowerchicknz -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/2/2009 3:16:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MoGa
One thing I would like to add here, is the need for a safe word that is not one you would normally use. I understand that you want to be raped, but sometimes things go wrong when you least expect it, so a safe word specifically set up for the rape scene may indeed come in handy.


Any sort of "consensually non-consensual" scene should have safe word's.



Andalusite -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/2/2009 1:25:31 PM)

Yeah, if "red" is your usual safeword, no need to invent a separate one just for rape play, but any time one or both people like doing the "no, stop" thing as a part of the scene, a different safeword can be a good idea. They aren't foolproof/failsafe, though, and the top or dominant still needs to pay attention to how the bottom or submissive is reacting. The very few times that I've needed to safeword, I couldn't speak at all. When a strike hits that hard, I freeze, and it kind of takes my breath away for a few seconds before I can make any noise, much less coherent words. Sometimes when I'm very submissive toward someone, I can only babble, like babytalk, rather than saying "no," or "red," or my own name. So, I'm careful about who I play with - that I can react that way, that they can read my body language, etc.

Back to the OP, I think a good idea is to discuss with your Mistress some of the headspace part of what's going on in your desire for rape play. Are you drawn to rough body play and physical struggling? Are you focused on the penetration? Do you want the humilation of being overcome by a woman who is smaller than you, and need talk to go along with it? Do you want to feel like a slut who "deserves it"? (not that women who are raped do, but I can see that being an element of the fantasy scenario) Would bondage enhance it, or make it feel more contrived? I'm not saying that she'll necessarily go along with everything you envision, but if you can figure out what aspects you are particularly drawn to, it will help her make it a more satisfying experience for both of you.



LadyPact -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/2/2009 4:11:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

I don't understand why they would need to involve other members of their community in a "rape" or consensual non-consent scene?

Several people had some good suggestions, but I had the impression that you actively enjoy the rough play and feeling overpowered, rather than being taken by surprise or having more of a psychological approach (ie. blackmail). I really enjoy wrestling/playfighting, and I'm pretty strong even though I'm petite. I'd suggest taking a martial arts class together to get comfortable with falls/takedowns and some strikes, and do some sparring. You can deliberately hold back, and there are lots of positions that can give her enough leverage to do throws and pins and such with you, even if you're bigger and stronger than she is. You can also "get away from her" after she puts you in handcuffs or something (talk to her about it first, of course) so you're at a disadvantage, but can still struggle to some extent. Another option is for her to use a knife (it doesn't need to actually be sharp), so she can use that kind of physical threat rather than muscle power by yanking your hair back and holding it to your throat or up against your stomach. Of course, if the two of you are into knifeplay, she can incorporate that into it. Instead of a knife, you could also use a realistic-looking toy or paintball gun.

For a more silly "aggressive" playfighting scene, you could always do a pillowfight or use a kiddy pool in the garage or something for jello wrestling!

The reason that I suggested getting out to the r/t community is there are various ways that Liz (per the OP) could learn different strategies for take downs, since it seems that the male of the couple is interested somewhat in the resistance part of the play.  Also, it might be fun if other Tops were included, solely for the purpose of the restraint part of the scene.  I've participated in stuff like this, where others were invited and their only role is to help to subdue the bottom.  (Ask Me sometime why I actually own a Domino's delivery car sign.)

While pretend blackmail can be fun, there are many other ways to play such games, with or without involving others.  Rape scenes provide a wealth of opportunities for all kinds of role play, abduction, resistance, and other fun twists.



PeonForHer -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/2/2009 4:37:53 PM)

Re abduction:

I fondly remember the thread started by a femdom some time ago about how, exactly, a kidnapping scene could work.  It was a slightly awkward proposition in that the 'target' sub was a military man and trained in unarmed combat.  I think the general conclusion was that tricks rather than brute-overpowering were the best way to go. 

But, come to think of it, I don't remember having seen or heard of the lady who started that thread since.  

Oh dear.  I do hope nothing unamusing occurred . . .   



flowerchicknz -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 5:01:18 AM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I fondly remember the thread started by a femdom some time ago about how, exactly, a kidnapping scene could work.  It was a slightly awkward proposition in that the 'target' sub was a military man and trained in unarmed combat.  I think the general conclusion was that tricks rather than brute-overpowering were the best way to go. 


Even the biggest bruiser has to sleep sometime [;)]



hardbodysub -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 5:28:15 AM)

There are many tactics that a woman can use to put a man into a compromised position. Seduction, surprise, and bondage, especially when used together, can be very effective. If a woman gets a man sexually aroused, the first thing on his mind is NOT to protect himself against a potentially nefarious plan she may have in mind. She'll find him pretty compliant to innocent-seeming requests that gradually put him in an increasingly vulnerable position, until she springs the trap, and he suddenly realizes that he's helplessly restrained.

I suggest that she email SthrnCm4t privately, as suggested, and also hope that other dominas will contact her privately with their ideas. It will go a lot better if the man isn't in on the secret.



hardbodysub -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 5:31:25 AM)

flowerchicknz, it sounds like you've done this before! Or at least, have thought it through a lot.

I have to say that waking up and finding you there in control would be about as hot as it can get.



PeonForHer -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 6:22:12 AM)

I have to say that waking up and finding you there in control would be about as hot as it can get.

Short of finding her in control and having built a fire underneath the bed, too.

Sorry.



LadyPact -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 9:07:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub
I suggest that she email SthrnCm4t privately, as suggested, and also hope that other dominas will contact her privately with their ideas. It will go a lot better if the man isn't in on the secret.


Exactly.



PeonForHer -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 9:12:53 AM)

Though I think it'd be OK to call up non-sub males if whatever plan involves fixing anything. [;)]



LadyPact -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 9:36:21 AM)

So easy to be smart with the tongue when there's an ocean between one's rear end and the toy bag.  [8D]



PeonForHer -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 10:02:39 AM)

*Sigh*.  My tongue's just not being used enough for the purpose it was made, is it?



LadyPact -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 10:17:01 AM)

Greatest line from the movie "Braveheart."  It comes in the scene where the Princess of Whales is listening to the tale from one of the ladies in her court, who was also from France.  She had bedded one of the soldiers who knew the story and had gotten the information from him.  The remark was made that the soldier should not be sharing such secrets in bed, to which she replied, "The English do not know what a tongue is for."



PeonForHer -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 10:35:42 AM)

Yes, I remember it well!  In fact, that line was in my mind.

Of course, she might as well have said the same about Scots (William Wallace) or Australians (Mel Gibson, who played him).  Nah, but who's quibbling . . .



LadyPact -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 11:03:57 AM)

Oh, another good bit from the same movie.....

"You must have made an impression."

"I didn't think you were in the tent that long."


(You might be wrong about the Scots!)



hardbodysub -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 11:48:33 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I have to say that waking up and finding you there in control would be about as hot as it can get.

Short of finding her in control and having built a fire underneath the bed, too.

Sorry.


No, you're not. Berk.



PeonForHer -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/6/2009 12:12:32 PM)

You're right, I'm not sorry.  Sorry.



flowerchicknz -> RE: "Raping Sub" (8/8/2009 6:57:00 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub


quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I have to say that waking up and finding you there in control would be about as hot as it can get.

Short of finding her in control and having built a fire underneath the bed, too.

Sorry.


No, you're not. Berk.


Fire's too uncontrollable. Candles under a steel framed bed without it's mattress, would be much more my style. Pull the penis and balls through and tie them so they dangle....



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