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kiwisub12 -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/29/2009 5:50:21 PM)
I have no problem making decisions. I make them all day long. I make decisions for my Sir. I make decisions for my patients and my doctors. What i don't do is enforce any of these decisions. If Sir or a patient or a doctor takes umbridge with my decision, i amend it or abandon it all together. Therefore, i am decisive and flexible. Great qualities for a sub/slave type.

JenTehLuv -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/29/2009 6:05:38 PM)
I personally CAN make decisions on my own. But many times, when given a choice between two options I tend to be indecisive, but I think that's just me in general. I don't think my sexual preference as a submissive influences that.

slaveluci -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/29/2009 6:34:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally I was wondering, people who identify as s-types do you believe that you have an inability to make a decision or simply prefer not to, I not only do not have an inability to make decisions, I love making them and am a very decisive, take-charge type of individual. I, however, love Him and defer to Him in decision-making. Fortunately for me, He finds it very attractive that I can think for myself and make wise choices. The fact that I can make and enjoy making my own decisions but yet have chosen to submit to His decision making turns us both on[;)] luci

slaveluci -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/29/2009 6:35:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub12 I have no problem making decisions. I make them all day long. I make decisions for my Sir. I make decisions for my patients and my doctors. What i don't do is enforce any of these decisions. If Sir or a patient or a doctor takes umbridge with my decision, i amend it or abandon it all together. Therefore, i am decisive and flexible. Great qualities for a sub/slave type. [sm=agree.gif] Yeah, what she said[:)] luci

Drakontos -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/29/2009 8:26:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally I was wondering, people who identify as s-types do you believe that you have an inability to make a decision or simply prefer not to, and for dominants which do you find more attractive someone who needs you to make the decisions for you or someone who decides that they want you to make them? zaphira does not like making decisions; she prefers to let Master make them. Before Master collared her, zaphira had no problems making decisions, she did not feel comfortable doing so though.

MMagic -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/29/2009 9:12:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wineDineNtieMe I think I usually make pretty good decisions, but I often feel the need for validation. I like for someone else to say, "yes, that is the right thing to do" But there are also times I get so bogged down in, "Well if I do this, then that will happen; but what if I do this and this other thing happens. Or what if there is something I'm not considering..." and so forth and so on. In times like these I definitely need that strong intelligent and trusted presence in my life to make the choice for or with me. Yes yes this is me exactly and like Pixidustpet, if I have too many choices I get all up at arms about it. About some things I'm very straight forward, don't need to think about it. I like that my Dom steps in and says..ok here is what you're gonna do, when I start getting obsessive. Anyone tell him I said that, I'll bite your ankles, lol.

kuriouswitch -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 2:17:38 AM)
-FR- I don't particularly enjoy making decisions. If I'm with someone or a group, I go along with whatever they want to do, it doesn't really matter to me. The major stuff I bring to Master, but right now as we're not 24/7 I still have to make the small basic decision about groceries ect. But normally I tend to avoid all decision making or I waffle until someone gets fed up and chooses or makes me choose.

LillyoftheVally -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 2:21:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub12 What i don't do is enforce any of these decisions. Great distinction!

allthatjaz -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 2:38:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub12 What i don't do is enforce any of these decisions. Great distinction! I think that depends When we are out sailing I pay attention and totally heed to his decision. His experience and knowledge is huge in comparison to mine and if I want to be safe then I do as I am told. On the other hand if I were out riding with Steve and his horse started misbehaving, I may make the decision on his behalf that we would be swapping horses. If I am more experienced than him with a certain things then it is my responsibility to make a decision on his safety.

jeninvegas -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 3:01:05 AM)
I can make my own decisions and prefer to especially when it specifically involves something major in my life. Now making small decisions here and there, I don't mind either way, I can make them or not. And I mean things like where to eat, what to do, what to wear, etc. etc. I don't really care about details like that and will flow with whatever my partner wants and decides. [:)]

agirl -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 3:31:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally I was wondering, people who identify as s-types do you believe that you have an inability to make a decision or simply prefer not to? Neither. I don't have an inability to, nor do I prefer not to. When it comes to HIM, however, I simply wouldn't make decisions on his behalf. I make decisions for people that I'm responsible for and for whom it's my responsibility to do so, when required. HE makes decisions about ME because he's responsible for that, and time has shown that he makes the right and best ones. He can see what's best for me far quicker and clearer than I can. I certainly have come to rely on his input and his excellent ability to blow the smoke away from any tricky or awkward decisions I have to make. It's not a case of him making all the decisions , it's a case of him giving me additional tools to make the best ones for myself. agirl

Kana -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 9:27:27 AM)
I abhor mindless sycophants I want her opinion, she just has to understand who gets the final say

wineDineNtieMe -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 11:49:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MMagic Anyone tell him I said that, I'll bite your ankles, lol. I like my ankles sans subbie toothmarks. So I'll keep quiet... this time, lol!

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 12:18:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b I can make decisions and express my preferences just like anyone else. This isn't what makes me a submissive. What makes me a submissive is my preference not to make the final decision or have the final say. Perfect. [sm=applause.gif]

leadership527 -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 2:30:55 PM)
For the record allthatjaz, I see this sort of thing as different. There are a wide variety of things that Carol is just plain better at than me. Heh, right now we're painting and renovating the house in prep for our move and Carol is the "house dom" laughs. She gives me tasks, organized activities, and in general makes sure that it's all happening as needed. I call that "delegation". Ultimately I'm always in charge. But in any specific instance, it's going to be a wild hodge-podge of time, availability, skill set, inclination, and god knows what else. I'd have to be a pretty damned fool leader to ignore the skills of those that follow me.

FawneTwo -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 3:52:48 PM)
I can value someone who'd care to help me make the best choices for myself.

DesFIP -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/30/2009 7:35:32 PM)
It depends on how I feel. If I'm very stressed out then I'm unable to make a decision about anything. Including what I want on the pizza. But most of the decisions are pretty much minor and he doesn't care that much. He did mention tonight about cooking the frozen lasagna but was fine with chicken strips that don't take half that long. If the time hadn't mattered, we would have had the lasagna, but more importantly is that we ate earlier.

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/31/2009 3:01:21 AM)
Can't make decisions = Tedious Won't make decisions = Irritating Makes decisions, but asks permission = Trained

Aileen1968 -> RE: Don't make me decide! (7/31/2009 3:53:15 AM)
I am very good at making rational decisions and have for the past 41 years. Within my relationship, though, he makes the decisions. It has been long sought after, on my part, to have that type of relationship. It's quite welcome and part of our dynamic. Sometimes his decision is that it's my choice.

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