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ORIGINAL: ignoreme

Well, I thought chastity is chastity and means no sex or anything like it (certainly no milking) but it appears that some people interpret it as 'no orgasm but a lot of teasing'. Which is also a kink of course, but I would call that tease and denial.

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Chastity in the lifestyle can take on different meanings. If I were to place a male in chastity for multiple months, it would not be healthy for his prostate for me to at least not milk him regularly.

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With one more "traditional" relationship, I kept him in a chastity device, but took him out often when I was wanting to play with what was inside... and when we were done, .. click.

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ORIGINAL: ignoreme

Well, I thought chastity is chastity and means no sex or anything like it (certainly no milking) but it appears that some people interpret it as 'no orgasm but a lot of teasing'. Which is also a kink of course, but I would call that tease and denial.

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ORIGINAL: ignoreme

Well, I thought chastity is chastity and means no sex or anything like it (certainly no milking) but it appears that some people interpret it as 'no orgasm but a lot of teasing'. Which is also a kink of course, but I would call that tease and denial.

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ORIGINAL: DePubed

Regarding Health Problems from Male Chastity--A male produces sperm in his testicles which is released through orgasm, BUT the majority of the fluid that he ejaculates is from his prostate gland. The prostate gland produces the fluid which we recognize as "cum". If, through prolonged chastity, a male does not deliberately release the prostate fluid through sex, then the male's body will independently eject the fluid through a 'wet-dream' or 'nocturnal emission'. However, when a chastity device is worn which prevents erections, then the prostate fluid cannot be released. This is where it gets unhealthy.
When a male does not cum for weeks and months, then the prostate fluid 'hardens' into tiny clumps, similar to kidney-stones or gall-stones. These hardened 'stones' in the prostate then block urination, whichcan back up and cause kidney failure. Also, when the prostate fluid is not ejected due to chastity, then the prostate fluid stagnates inside the prostate and becomes infected.
The way to prevent all of these things and to keep the prostate healthy when chastity prevents erections & orgasms is simply: anal massage.
The 'milking' that people talk about usually is to remove the chastity device, and to stroke the cock to ejaculation; while this is healthy, it give pleasure and orgasm to the male; but you can release the prostate fluid in another way while still keeping him locked in the device, with no cock pleasure and with no orgasm: it is called anal massage. The anal massage gives him no cock pleasure, and no orgasm, but since the anal canal touches the prostate gland, the prostate gland is gently rubbed as the anal canal is rubbed: thus this forces out the male's cum, but not in any way that gives him orgasm. he does not shoot out his load, instead it is just dribbled out and drooled out as it is forced out. Now, the best way to do this, without any effort by a Dominant is called the 'aneros'. Google-search it and you will see how it works: a male kneels, butt up, head down, and the aneros is lubed up and placed into his ass (he can do this himself). Then he stays in that position for 30 minutes clenching his asscheeks--this will massage his prostate, and the prostate fluid will drool out, and he is kept healthy and still kept chaste. Please check out the Aneros (it is a small type of buttplug manufactured to press against the prostate for this very purpose).Thius there is a way for a male to be kept forever bin chastity and also to be kept with a healthy prostate.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: ignoreme

Well, I thought chastity is chastity and means no sex or anything like it (certainly no milking) but it appears that some people interpret it as 'no orgasm but a lot of teasing'. Which is also a kink of course, but I would call that tease and denial.

Milking may or may not play a role.  It depends on the femdom.  For me, the erotic power comes a lot from the knowledge that his cock is totally locked up (meaning, he can't get the cage off, I have the key, or the combination).  Knowing that his cock is straining inside, that even when he looks at me he gets uncomfortable.  Verbal teasing, teasing with my body, showing him my ass, making him lick or worship me - while getting no release, no satisfaction and not even being able to touch himself. This is subtle, but it's teasing -- this is far different from locking him up and never seeing him with his trousers off and never even mentioning it.

Oh, and making fun of him because he has to pee sitting down like a girl.

Akasha

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Milking may or may not play a role.  It depends on the femdom.  For me, the erotic power comes a lot from the knowledge that his cock is totally locked up (meaning, he can't get the cage off, I have the key, or the combination).  Knowing that his cock is straining inside, that even when he looks at me he gets uncomfortable.  Verbal teasing, teasing with my body, showing him my ass, making him lick or worship me - while getting no release, no satisfaction and not even being able to touch himself.

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This is subtle, but it's teasing -- this is far different from locking him up and never seeing him with his trousers off and never even mentioning it.

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Oh, and making fun of him because he has to pee sitting down like a girl.

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Hey ignoreme... I know dominant males that like to be milked and they were not in chastity. Some like it very much. lol

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LillyoftheVally wrote: Thing is, and I have said this a few times, if you want to submit then you have to submit to the will of another. That can mean that if they do not want to then they can fuck off for months without talking to you, of course you have to decide if you can cope with that or not.

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LillyoftheVally wrote: One would hope that the responsibility of the dominant is two things, to be happy and ensure the submissives safety, the submissives responsibility is to enjoy ensuring the dominants happiness.

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cloudboy wrote: It's funny, because I just don't subscribe to the BDSM school of thought that dominants have all the power and can do whatever they want. Short term, that might work, but after that I'd expect HEAVY turnover. Dominants have a responsibility to their partner and their relationship, and if they fail in those areas -- the relationship won't work.

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LadyNTrainer wrote:
For the submissive:
1. I feel loved when:
2. I feel dominated when:
3. I feel controlled when:
4. I feel appreciated and valued when:
5. I feel securely owned when:
6. I feel attractive and desirable when:

For the dominant:
1. I feel loved when:
2. I feel the desire to be dominant when:
3. I feel confident in my dominance when:
4. I feel appreciated and valued when:
5. I feel secure in my ownership and dominance when:
6. I feel attractive and desirable when:

Share your answers, and listen without judging or criticizing. There are no right or wrong answers, only honest ones. For the purposes of your discussion, the word "should" does not exist, and you are not allowed to use it in reference to your partner's feelings.

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"Within a BDSM context, a Service Top is a partner who is the active participant, applying the activities or techniques of BDSM "play" upon (a) bottom partner(s), but who does not exercise control or dominance over the situation. The application of such activities may be requested, or even directed, by the bottom partners(s) who have de facto dominance of the context."

-http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Service_top

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

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"Within a BDSM context, a Service Top is a partner who is the active participant, applying the activities or techniques of BDSM "play" upon (a) bottom partner(s), but who does not exercise control or dominance over the situation. The application of such activities may be requested, or even directed, by the bottom partners(s) who have de facto dominance of the context."

-http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Service_top

Well, I learned something new today. However, I think the use of the word "service" in this context is confusing and redundant. The definition of "service top" above is no different from that of "top", as far as I know.

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The 'milking' that people talk about usually is to remove the chastity device, and to stroke the cock to ejaculation; while this is healthy, it give pleasure and orgasm to the male; but you can release the prostate fluid in another way while still keeping him locked in the device, with no cock pleasure and with no orgasm: it is called anal massage.

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hardbodysub wrote:
Well, I learned something new today.  However, I think the use of the word "service" in this context is confusing and redundant.  The definition of "service top" above is no different from that of "top", as far as I know.