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MaamJay -> RE: What keeps Your interest? (8/7/2009 12:22:40 AM)
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Tricky! For one thing, it's a bit yin and yang ... a show of submissiveness brings out My Domliness and vice versa. So both partners need to work to keep it going.
However, there is also the "real life phenomenon" where, after a honeymoon period of intensive interaction, real life starts butting in and distractions occur. It's harder work to Dominate than most subs imagine (a lot of thinking and planning involved), and so the Domme thinks, too tired now, tomorrow ... and tomorrow never comes. It really depends on how committed the 2 are as to how well they get through this, how easily they can talk about it and come up with strategies to deal with it. We found going to play parties helped, so at least once a month we had time, access, opportunity and stimulating surroundings! These days on the road that's not an option and with all the stresses lately, play has been pretty much non-existant in terms of active things like spanking, flogging, bondage. However Master and i indulge in a lot of mental play, ageplay etc so that at least keeps us ticking over. Yes i would love a whole lot more, but i am accepting of what is in His current capacity to provide. And being the man He is, i would still be with Him even if we were totally vanilla now, though by heck, Jay's subby searching would be in top gear LOL!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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