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Small mystery solved - 2/21/2006 8:54:08 PM   
PenelopePitstop


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Status: offline 		Well, I doubt I'm not the only person to solve it but I wanted to highlight this at any rate.

If you are frustrated by the rude people you email in good faith "who never take the time to reply" it's perfectly possible that they have their bulk mail filter set within certain parameters, and TBH I hardly ever look in there, so that way loads of messages get missed.

I can't decide whether bulk mail is evil or not because there were some lovely posts in there I wish I'd been able to respond to in more timely fashion, but on the other hand there was also this (complete) message:

quote:

Oy Chubby, let's play!


From some slave who frankly needs a sound thrashing from me even though I am actually submissive. Bloody hell.



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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/21/2006 9:06:21 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PenelopePitstop

Well, I doubt I'm not the only person to solve it but I wanted to highlight this at any rate.

If you are frustrated by the rude people you email in good faith "who never take the time to reply" it's perfectly possible that they have their bulk mail filter set within certain parameters, and TBH I hardly ever look in there, so that way loads of messages get missed.

I can't decide whether bulk mail is evil or not because there were some lovely posts in there I wish I'd been able to respond to in more timely fashion, but on the other hand there was also this (complete) message:

quote:

Oy Chubby, let's play!


From some slave who frankly needs a sound thrashing from me even though I am actually submissive. Bloody hell.






I am one that uses that option....I do however check the bulk mail when I check the regular mail.So I dont miss someone that may fit with some tweaking.

I can safely say that the BULK box doesnt stop the the offensive ones that meet Your criteria from leaving the same type of message in the regular mail.
The ones I love are the ones where they slam the heck out of and then cancel their ID chickenshits....


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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 12:50:40 AM   
Eclecta


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Status: offline 		The bulk mail folder gets alot of my messages. Sometimes I go and check them when I am bored, but usually I let them sit there for a while.

I try to answer those who seem to have at least read my profile. But those who just saying vulgar things I ignore them or delete them.

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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 6:30:13 AM   
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That's it, you've just become a pin up candidate for realone, who was castigated for making this point.

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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 6:34:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		ok major blonde moment... i didn't even NOTICE the bulk mail folder!

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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 6:53:06 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		Being male I don't have much need for a bulk mail folder, Other than folks I chat too off the boards here I don't get a great deal of 'contact' mails.

Penny, I wouldn't worry about the person that sent the insulting one, those tend to come from pock-faced nerds who have never actualy been in the same room as a real life naked woman. It is just their frustration talking.... plus their eyesight isn't very good, you know what they say about it making you blind!

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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 9:44:46 AM   
GoddessDustyGold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cloudboy


That's it, you've just become a pin up candidate for realone, who was castigated for making this point.


However, there is a major difference in the way the subject is being approached.
Here is the OP regarding mail controls on original thread here.
This was only a very small part of his point.
I am sure you can see that, cloudboy.

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 2/22/2006 9:46:28 AM >

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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 10:44:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

However, there is a major difference in the way the subject is being approached.
Here is the OP regarding mail controls on original thread here.
This was only a very small part of his point.
I am sure you can see that, cloudboy.


Given realone's avatar, I always thought he should have chosen the screename "earnie."

I never quite figured out R1's main point, but it always saddened me deeply that his hearfelt and originally composed emails went unreturned. Its like throwing pebbles at a girl's window in the summertime never to see the light come on.

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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 10:47:38 AM   
PenelopePitstop


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Status: offline 		Well, I support realone's point so I can be in trouble now too... Pin-up? hoo hah, I wish. Or maybe more of a nail up. I can see the con argument - some people might be inclined to feel discriminated against, but I don't see how hidden discrimination is better than public discrimination, and it's not like the reaction to absence of email responses is any better, really.

Sorry though, I didn't see the thread earlier.



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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 11:43:37 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PenelopePitstop

Well, I support realone's point so I can be in trouble now too... Pin-up? hoo hah, I wish. Or maybe more of a nail up. I can see the con argument - some people might be inclined to feel discriminated against, but I don't see how hidden discrimination is better than public discrimination, and it's not like the reaction to absence of email responses is any better, really.

Sorry though, I didn't see the thread earlier.




Please know that I was not referring you, or any reader, to that thread to stir the pot or to note that this has been hashed out. Your post is based on an entirely different premise. You didn't even realize there was a bulk mail folder. And it might be that someone who is lurking just to read will learn something new.
Truth be told, I did understand RealOne's argument, and did not totally disagree with it, other than the fact that, realistically, having various mail controls made public would do very little, IMO, to cut down on the mail from people who would not fit a particular profile's preferences.
Since he felt I was the exception in using these filters to manage My email (i.e. not just ignore it as garbage), I would also say that he might be the exception in stating he would, in fact, look at those public filters and honor those preferences. Unfortunately, most would not.
My main rebuttal to that particular argument (and yes, I did rebut! *S*) was that I never know if someone might be the greatest submissive or slave boy for Me. So I prefer to not make public any specific parameters, other than obvious ones I would also cover in My profile, such as out of the country. There are a heck of a lot of boxes not available to be checked that I also included in My previous profile. But, for example, if I said I was only interested in boys between the ages of 35 and 50, and someone is 52, and didn't write to Me, because I checked off a preference box, I might miss the greatest love of My life, or, at least, a wonderful friendship. I am one who is not going to discount a nicely written email just because they don't fit into some cement box I created. I am more flexible than that. Some are not. They have made a different determination, as is their right, regarding what is worth their personal time.
I am curious (and perhaps a Mod can jump in here??) to know, if one doesn't even know there are mail preferences, why anything would get into bulk mail in the first place. Don't we need to set those in order to direct certain mail to a bulk mailbox? I thought that if preferences are never set, all mail would go straight to the regular "Received Mail" box. Why did Penelope have bulk mail if she never set any filters?

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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 11:58:13 AM   
PenelopePitstop


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Status: offline 		Not to worry; I needed to be aware of the pre-existing post and it gave me lots to think about :)

I did set bulk mail filters...but it was ages and ages ago. I think what would be nice is if we had a little red post counter next to the bulk mail icon just to draw more attention to it because I'm sure it is responsible for the vast majority of "I spent all this time on an email and they didn't even bother to reply!" type complaints...it most definitely isn't foolproof though because it seems stuff was slipping through to my regular inbox that shouldn't have been, given the parameters I set.

Nobody likes the thought of being pre-selected (by a computer, no less) for trash and recycling though, do they? That's a true cyber-dumping isn't it!





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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 12:07:13 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PenelopePitstop
I'm sure it is responsible for the vast majority of "I spent all this time on an email and they didn't even bother to reply!" type complaints...


I don't think so if my own experience is anything to go by. The majority of the mails I sent out that haven't been replied to have been opened (So it isn't likely they where in the bulk mail). People either can't be bothered to reply or have too much mail to reply. Either way the lack of responce is an obvious indication that they are not as compatable as I thought when I mailed them. Move along to the next possibility!

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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 12:42:49 PM   
PenelopePitstop


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Status: offline 		Bulk mail opens your mail? OMG Skynet is taking over in the worst possible way!!! J/K

Yes, there are rude people about who treat human beings like groceries: apples to pick up, squeeze and repace bruised in the basket, but in my case, I didn't open the emails because I completely forget they were there and then they slid out the bottom of my bulk mail inbox unseen.

...that's one hell of an accidental metaphor right there!!!




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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 12:51:16 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PenelopePitstop

<snipped>
I did set bulk mail filters...but it was ages and ages ago. I think what would be nice is if we had a little red post counter next to the bulk mail icon just to draw more attention to it because I'm sure it is responsible for the vast majority of "I spent all this time on an email and they didn't even bother to reply!" type complaints... <and snipped>



Now some sort of flag would be very cool! And possibly not that much of a hassle of expense.
I do agree with RavenMuse that I don't think most of the "nobody responds to me" posts have anything to do with bulk mail. Possibly only a very small percentage. And the writer can see that the mail has either never been opened, or it was read. Or, the dreaded "deleted unread".
I have seen the emails some boys think are very good emails. And, honestly, they are atrocious. Probably not their fault. They just don't know better.
Disclaimer in the usual place! I can only speak to generally ignored emails from submissives. I have no idea what the Doms write. My turn to duck!

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 2/22/2006 12:52:11 PM >

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RE: Small mystery solved - 2/22/2006 1:20:17 PM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold
I have no idea what the Doms write. My turn to duck!


Quack!

Can't speak for any other Dom than myself but I know what makes for a reasonable intro mail... as the few responces I got (Apart from the one one liner) have mentioned. But mostwhere opened and most still got no responce.... and mostly I'm not bothered, they are simply not compatable, end of story.

Not throwing anything you need to duck from dear

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