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ORIGINAL: OscarHargraves

I, for one, will take what you say as good advice.

I am one who is guilty of judging others by my first impression of them. If they can't spell (after all, there IS spell check) and don't make any attempt to write in a reasonable manner, I tend to think less of them and therefore judge their statements to be somewhat less important than otherwise.

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ORIGINAL: Oumae

Just a reminder to people.... spell check is of no use to someone with dyslexia if it brings up words that sound the same with similar spelling, they often can not tell them apart.

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66
This isnt one Y/you cant send Me to another thread for the answer...lol
I bet you will find one anyway....lmao

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ORIGINAL: OscarHargraves

I, for one, will take what you say as good advice.

I am one who is guilty of judging others by my first impression of them. If they can't spell (after all, there IS spell check) and don't make any attempt to write in a reasonable manner, I tend to think less of them and therefore judge their statements to be somewhat less important than otherwise.

On occasion I have brought this to the attention of the writer but not to flame them. My comments were made to try and make them see what their poor first impression does and an easy way to fic it. It was NOT intended as derogitory but simply a suggestion that would help them relate better to others. I may, from time to time, still do this, but I'll keep you advice in mind and try very hard not to hurt someone's feelings.

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#1 I have been reading a lot of posts and I cant for the life of Me figure out why "Adults" need to have a MOD come in and break it up? "Dad...hes touching me..."

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#2 What is so darn hard about being nice? Reminds of a saying...maybe some of Y/you have heard it "If you dont have anything nice to say,dont say anything at all."

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#3Why cant people be respectful to O/others? Afterall WE are all humans,but yet some treat others with more disregard and contempt than they would a stray dog.

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#4 Are WE not all in this together?Dont W/we all want to be accepted?Dont Y/you all want to not have to hide this side of Y/you?

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#5 Can Y/you for 1 day accept that O/other peoples opinions are DIFFERENT not WRONG

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While I would love answer...I somehow doubt there is one.
A challenge....I dare ya infact to be nice and bite Y/your tongue for just one day.

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

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#1 I have been reading a lot of posts and I cant for the life of Me figure out why "Adults" need to have a MOD come in and break it up? "Dad...hes touching me..."

Being adult doesn't = being perfect.. so, sometimes we screw up and the mods come in and set us straight. Score one for the mods. :)

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#2 What is so darn hard about being nice?

Sometimes people just have a bad day and use the boards to vent. Other times though, 'nice' is a perspective and someone is being straight forward or to the point and that's interpreted as 'mean' but it's not the intention of the poster to appear that way. Those can generally get cleared up fairly quickly if the offended party will just speak up and ask if the poster meant that the way it sounded.

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#3Why cant people be respectful to O/others?

They can be.. or at least courteous, they choose not to be.. but like the above, it can be misinterpreted as well.. on both sides of the fence. Someone new can come in, ask a question which 'seems' to relay an attitude of their own and so they are responded to in kind.

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#4 Are WE not all in this together?Dont W/we all want to be accepted?Dont Y/you all want to not have to hide this side of Y/you?

Nope, we're pretty much 'not' all in this together. The single common thing we share is that we post to this board. Some post who have zero experience in BDSM, some post who have tons.. and there is everyone in between. As for being accepted, many of us accept who 'we' are, and that's enough for us. As for part three of your question, I can't speak to it because I don't hide it, but I can certainly see how there are plenty who don't want to share 'this' part ::whatever part that may be:: with others as it's too personal to them.

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#5 Can Y/you for 1 day accept that O/other peoples opinions are DIFFERENT not WRONG

It depends on what their opinion is and what it's based on. Sometimes others ARE wrong or their opinions are based on facts not in evidence or they are handing out misinformation. What happens if I choose tomorrow to accept everything for that one day, and someone makes a statement that can cause incredible damage. Should I not speak up if I know something to the contrary?

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While I would love answer...I somehow doubt there is one.

Maybe, maybe not.. depends on what you hope to hear. :)

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A challenge....I dare ya infact to be nice and bite Y/your tongue for just one day.

I'll pass.. first, I try to be nice every day.. but second, I'm not biting my tongue simply because it's requested by a stranger on a forum I happen to frequent. However, if you would like to take that challenge, feel free. No one is stopping you.. and you don't even have to make it for one day.. you can do that every day if you like. You can't control the actions of others.. only your own reactions.

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Can Y/you do it?

I 'could'.. I choose not to. :)

Celeste

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

I willingly admit to being opionated, obnoxious, and downright rude at times. But I will not apologize for it. Take it or leave it, matters not to me.

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

I willingly admit to being opionated, obnoxious, and downright rude at times. But I will not apologize for it. Take it or leave it, matters not to me.

I can relate to that and I aggree that your cute too.. Not sure when the cuteness ends and the down right sexyness starts though.

I never intend to sound abusive or obnoxious however apparently I do at times when I guess I state things as I see them or how I will react which is probably right ourside most peaples way of dealing with things. I know it pisses some people off but with me, eithet I say what I believe or I walk away and say nothing...... Perhaps it's because I'm not here to make friends or seek approval. However unless someone offends me as one did on the Gor forum the other day I will be reasonably tollerent with nearly all things I read here. I do however take full responsibility for ever post I make and accept the consequences.....

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ORIGINAL: proudsub

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This isnt one Y/you cant send Me to another thread for the answer...lol
I bet you will find one anyway....lmao

If you do a search for rude, courteous, spelling, grammar and all the words related to them you will find numerous threads on this topic. Please don't think me rude for pointing this out, but it's a very common complaint here.

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ORIGINAL: DragonNphoenix

I try to be nice when I post... but sometimes it just doesnt happen. I know that when someone asks a question or states that they are new I really do try to be helpful and nice. If someone thinks that I am not being such... I would welcome them to email me and let me know. This is something that my Dragon is trying to teach me - Tact.

1st Girl Phoenix

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66
This isnt one Y/you cant send Me to another thread for the answer...lol
I bet you will find one anyway....lmao

Actually i can paste as i just finished a couple paragraphs on exactly this point.

post 39 and 24 on page 2

http://www.collarchat.com/m_272806/mpage_2/tm.htm

Unfortunately being rude is becoming socially acceptable in some circles and preached as such.

i do not remember possibly in the ethics thread or one of the profile threads where i talked about people being rude and it was rapidly snuffed out as judgemental and a whole host of other (reasons if you will), were given by those who champion being rude as acceptable conduct. and of course then who the hell am i to dare judge them? like i have to shoot myself in the foot to know it will hurt....

Of course the biggest problem is when this catches on and is supported by a minority. there is a big and glaringly obvious difference between blunt and direct vs rude, petty, vindictive and malicious.

unfortunately i am not as refined as some on here, and tho i rarely draw first blood, its difficult for me to see blood dripping from my side without grabbing a M60 and mowing down the culprit who did it in response.

i sited a couple more exapmles of other threads in the thread i pasted above if you would like to see this sort of thing up close and personal.

Like IB i am not on this forum to suck up to anyone or put up some sort of facade or placate others in an attempt to pick someone up, nor would i be party to anyone who wanted to brain wash me in that manner. However we can always agree to disagree.

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Glad its working for you. OR is it really working?

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Does it makes you happy to be obnoxious and rude....Why?

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Are you rude and obnoxious in posting just because you can be?Again Why?

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren



That's the wonderful thing about the scene; it's so huge that no one can know it all.

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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Glad its working for you. OR is it really working?

Actually yes...it is working. Because the ones who MATTER see past it, and accept it as a part of me.

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Does it makes you happy to be obnoxious and rude....Why?

Well, sometimes yes it does, those are times that I am that way on purpose. If someone does not like it, then well...tough shit...don't pay any attention to me. As I said, it matters not to me.

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Are you rude and obnoxious in posting just because you can be?Again Why?

Actually, when the situation warrants it...I am this way in person also. Why? Because I have no tolerance for stupidity. Push the button, and yes, in person or on a board, I will become very obnoxious, rude and downright cruel if I have to.

As I said, I make no apologies for the way I am. I have been this way all my life, and I don't see it changing anytime in the near future. Someone does not like it...move on to the next person. There is no law that says what I write or say, has to be read or heard.

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Be Well and Play Safe.

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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Be Well and Play Safe.

And the same to you Mistress Sassy

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Please tell Me your not serious...

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I'm not here for warm and fuzzies,reading My profile would have given you an idea of what I'm looking for.
Thank you for supporting My point of judging before knowing.

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I seek no ones approval.I seek people that think along the lines I do.That have a general respect for people,that can make a point and be Tactful(word of the day).

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I posted a response to the safety issues of opinions,not what I meant at all.It was a statement having nothing to do with actual play,and a reference to the general rudeness to newbies.

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Wouldnt it be nice to stand together to help this Lifestyle be more accepted so that WE can be who WE are without the general public thinking BDSM is a bunch of child molesting weirdos.You know as well I,the limelight it gets is negative....
Dont you want that to change?

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I accept WE see things differently,and your right it doesnt mean them,you or Myself am right or wrong.Just that WE ALL have an opinion,that shouldnt be discarded on the merits of being new or not..

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Very true,life does throw curve balls...so because you had a lousy day and feel like making yourself feel better by picking on someone...I have to accept that.I think not.

I think if your the one having a lousy day perhaps staying offline would be a responsible action on your part...afterall how did the people here screw up your day?