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New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 12:26:53 PM   
SteelofUtah


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I have this NASTY toy called a Loopy Johnny I have had it for just about a Decade. Before Last Night I think I used it maybe a total of 5 or 6 times, I made half assed strikes on people who wanted to know how nasty it is.

Last night I gave the following orders.

Strip the bed, Tighten the sheets, get out the chains.

Set up the Toys.

When I got back all the toys were out (I thought) and so I started playing going from one toy to the next like a child with ADHD and going from butt to butt of two girls cuffed to the Newly mounted Hook and Chain System at the head of the bed. I got about half way through the collection. Starting with the 1/4 Wooden Dowel Cane, to the Rope Flogger (Thank you and I love you Wyld) to the Purple Leather Floggers, to the Black Leather Floggers (Thank you again Wyld and the girl genuinely thank you as they love them very much) and by the time I got to the Back Scratcher and Newly made Medallion Stinger I realized that I was missing the Loopy Johnny. So I asked where it was.

Of ALL the toys that was the only one left in the bag....... andi had a good reason, there were so many toys pulled out and I so rarely use it that she thought I wouldn't miss it. I asked her what my instructions were to which she repeated that I had asked them to set up ALL my toys. I was not angry or annoyed I wasn't even disappointed, I was aware that I was no longer really afraid of that toy. I wanted to use it, and I was aware that both of them could take it.

So after I finished with my BRAND SPANKING NEW CROP AND RIDING BAT I got out the Loopy Johnny and told the girls we were counting to two.

To My Surprise there was no holding back I was aware that it was going to really hurt and that I was confident in the fact that they could and would take it and that there would be no harm done to them.

They each took two, full strikes. The cried, but they did it and I am amazed at the newly found confidence I had in them as well as in myself.

Have you ever had a similar situation?

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 1:02:44 PM   
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Well, maybe once, when she recently told me she didn't think she could be hit too hard with a flogger. Of course, I don't have any floggers that I would describe as really nasty, but the interwoven black and red one is heavy and medium stingy. Well, she was right, at least that night, and with the floggers I had on hand, I couldn't hit her too hard. I believe we both learned a little bit about each other and ourselves that night, which isn't bad after 17 years together.

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 1:07:22 PM   
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Oh yeah there was once when I was with ex girlie, we were both all dressed up at a party and she was being cheeky and we had to both strip and stand against the wall, was the first time I took the cane, and we stood there holding hands being watched by a room full of people, the intensity was amazing, and we had the most mind blowing sex after because like a layer had been taken off or whatever. I was amazed I could do it, as I am not into pain at all.

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 1:14:14 PM   
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Well, this one time I was doing this fetish model.  And her friend.  Together.   That's the important part of the post.  Nothing more to say really.

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 1:53:47 PM   
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Not really. I've never had a choice about what I would or could *take*.  But I do have a few experiences where I came out the other side thinking ..* Crikey, that REALLY happened!* and proceeded to prod and peer at the marks JUST to make sure I didn't imagine it ..

I suppose I'm more confident that I'll survive and won't die but I can't say it's made me more keen to *go there* again.

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 1:58:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Apocalypso

Well, this one time I was doing this fetish model.  And her friend.  Together.   That's the important part of the post.  Nothing more to say really.

Ahh...

Good times.


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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 1:59:59 PM   
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uh...yeah....Steel.... all i will divulge here is there is this box of  *special* toys that He reserves for some times.... i still have no freaking idea what times those are... although...in hindsight it could have something to do with  me saying things like, "i thought you were a sadist.. is that really all the harder you can hit"  or other dumb ass things..i keep threatening for the entire box to come up 'missing'...He ensures me if the box is even slightly out of its place i will regret it severely...i have no doubts....Yeah... Most of the objects in that box remind me of that toy....
i cry...
every time...
Kali

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 2:19:04 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero
Ahh...

Good times.

I knew you looked familiar!


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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 3:18:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Apocalypso

quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero
Ahh...

Good times.

 
 
I knew you looked familiar! 

 
OMG...THAT is the funniest thing I've ever read here!!! 



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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 3:56:17 PM   
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Geez, Steel.  And you say I lived a charmed life.  

To answer your question, yes.  It reminded Me of a time when clip and I were playing at 1763.  The boy was straight out flying and I was damn far in top space.  We own this paddle that most people cringe when they see it.  This thing is thick!  I'd put it up against a baseball bat any day of the week.  I've used it for little swings before that, but never a full strike. 

The scene was going really good and I pulled that thing from the bottom of the pile.  I literally stepped into the two handed swing just like it was a home run hit.  In My spacey head, that song about 'taking a Louisville slugger to both headlights' (in other words, his ass cause his cheeks were already glowing.... ha) hit My brain.  It felt so good because I had never been able to have the opportunity before that to use that particular toy without having to hold back.  I loved the hell out of it!

(Personal note.  Those pics I'm still searching for on My computer are from that night.  Before we transferred everything over, they used to be in a file called "Another Quality Job by LP."  I'll have to search for them on the laptop.)

Thanks for sharing, Steel!  My best to the girls.


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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 4:58:03 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

The cried, but they did it and I am amazed at the newly found confidence I had in them as well as in myself.

Have you ever had a similar situation?

Steel

Yes, several times. The first time I was ever with Master, I had never been whipped, beaten, or anything of the sort. I took all He gave me, cried my eyes out cathartically and loved it. The first caning....I was terrified but ended up enduring and loving every minute of it. Not too long ago, I took 37 (hard) birthday cane strokes and a bad-ass whupping from a bad-ass paddle. I cried but I took it like a woman I love each and every occasion like this because, as you said, it renews that confidence in myself and shows me how much Master believes in me and my ability to endure..........luci

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 5:07:41 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kalista07
uh...yeah....Steel.... all i will divulge here is there is this box of  *special* toys that He reserves for some times.... i still have no freaking idea what times those are... although...in hindsight it could have something to do with  me saying things like, "i thought you were a sadist.. is that really all the harder you can hit"...

*laughs*

OK, this reminds me of the time I went into a specialty coffee store and told them I wanted a REALLY strong coffee... something to fill my house with coffee aroma in the morning.... BIIIIIG mistake.... zimbabwe black.... *shudders*...


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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 5:29:51 PM   
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*laughs*

OK, this reminds me of the time I went into a specialty coffee store and told them I wanted a REALLY strong coffee... something to fill my house with coffee aroma in the morning.... BIIIIIG mistake.... zimbabwe black.... *shudders*...


i'm glad i could amuse You ....  ...i live to serve...

My pain for the pleasure of all......

Kali


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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/8/2009 7:36:52 PM   
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I did, it helped me build confidence in myself as well as in Master. I have a fear of blindfolds, It's a huge fear and when coupled with a flogger it can easily set off a flash back. Well when I visited Master in may he bound my wrists to my ankles and then put the blindfold on me. I started to shake immediately and all Master did was touch my face then proceed to hit me with his floggers and his paddle. I almost went "off" but he knew when I was close and would stop and touch my face and take the blindfold off and let me see it was him and then when I was ready he would put the blindfold back and start again.

I learned that night that I really can take more than I thought and that this is really what I love and need and I also learned to trust Master more and to realize that he really does listen and pay attention more than I believed he did. I hit subspace hard too, I was so far gone I didn't even register when he took the cuffs off and laid my hands on my stomach or when he stood by my head and took off the blind fold. I miss the bruises though those on my chest were my favorite.

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/9/2009 12:37:21 AM   
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Your story reminds of a thing or two.

-=The Negotiation=-
I adopted an old piece of dungeon lore as my own. The lore goes like this: A newcomer masochistic bottom goes to a public dungeon and pursues a session with sadistic Top who has a reputation for being rather hardcore. The masochist finagles, flirts and tries to negotiate a session. The sadist suggests they seek someone else. The masochist persists and finally the sadist concedes. The masochist asks what is in the sadist’s gear bag. The sadist asks why? They masochist says it’s because they like thuddy floggers, hate canes and want to negotiate where and with what they will be hit.

They sadist suggests the masochist take everything out of the bag that they like and lay it out on the table next to the cross. After selecting a variety of things, the sadist locks the masochist into the cross. Then with a whoosh, the sadist wipes everything off the table and dumps out what was left in the gear bag.

… I love that routine and use it when I can.

-=Western Motif=-
My Slave is told she can decorate the spare bedroom/dungeon. She has professional experience as decorator and is given great latitude. Like you, I pay attention to what I say and expect my slaves to do the same so she asked me to clarify the latitude I had given her. I told her, “It’s your room baby! Decorate it with anything and in anyway you want”. I have found that in extreme discipline environments, it is nice to give your slave a retreat or a sanctuary to take the pressure off once in a while.

Some weeks prior to this redecorating, I had publicly punished her. I announced to the audience what recompense she was paying, why and how it would be received by me to heal that area of our relationship. With the help of our lover, we oiled her skin and then coated it with fine salt before the bullwhipping in which I administered 25 lashes as punishment. …as I would learn later, she was now even less fond of single tail whips than ever before.

When I went off to work that morning, the spare bedroom was a hap hazard dungeon with a cross, a couch and a small table as its furniture. When I got home, the room had been transfored into a western motif. The cross hung sideways disguised as a western fence with a cow skull, lariat and six gun holsters on it. The chaps and cowboy boots were hung as decorations and low and behold, all four single tails were firmly fastened to the walls in a very decorative manner. It would take power tools to get them down and use them again! Smart girl.

I also discovered which 2 riding crops she didn’t like, as they were crossed like an x decoratively hanging under a pair of boots. LOL …. That girl has such a good spirit and keen intellect. She did not violate the parameters. I enjoyed that room!


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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/9/2009 6:54:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Apocalypso

Well, this one time I was doing this fetish model. And her friend. Together. That's the important part of the post. Nothing more to say really.


Well I am not a fetish model , but ...

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/9/2009 6:55:42 AM   
Apocalypso


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ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally
Well I am not a fetish model , but ...
Too busy?


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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/9/2009 6:57:15 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Apocalypso

quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally
Well I am not a fetish model , but ...
Too busy?



*blush*

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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/9/2009 6:22:07 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Your story reminds of a thing or two.

-=The Negotiation=-
I adopted an old piece of dungeon lore as my own. The lore goes like this: A newcomer masochistic bottom goes to a public dungeon and pursues a session with sadistic Top who has a reputation for being rather hardcore. The masochist finagles, flirts and tries to negotiate a session. The sadist suggests they seek someone else. The masochist persists and finally the sadist concedes. The masochist asks what is in the sadist’s gear bag. The sadist asks why? They masochist says it’s because they like thuddy floggers, hate canes and want to negotiate where and with what they will be hit.

They sadist suggests the masochist take everything out of the bag that they like and lay it out on the table next to the cross. After selecting a variety of things, the sadist locks the masochist into the cross. Then with a whoosh, the sadist wipes everything off the table and dumps out what was left in the gear bag.

… I love that routine and use it when I can.

Not sure I agree with that being negotiation, but hey, what else can you expect if you deal with a sadist LOL! As another old joke goes, the masochist says "Flog me, flog me!" And the sadist says "No!"

-=Western Motif=-
My Slave is told she can decorate the spare bedroom/dungeon. She has professional experience as decorator and is given great latitude. Like you, I pay attention to what I say and expect my slaves to do the same so she asked me to clarify the latitude I had given her. I told her, “It’s your room baby! Decorate it with anything and in anyway you want”. I have found that in extreme discipline environments, it is nice to give your slave a retreat or a sanctuary to take the pressure off once in a while.

Some weeks prior to this redecorating, I had publicly punished her. I announced to the audience what recompense she was paying, why and how it would be received by me to heal that area of our relationship. With the help of our lover, we oiled her skin and then coated it with fine salt before the bullwhipping in which I administered 25 lashes as punishment. …as I would learn later, she was now even less fond of single tail whips than ever before.

When I went off to work that morning, the spare bedroom was a hap hazard dungeon with a cross, a couch and a small table as its furniture. When I got home, the room had been transfored into a western motif. The cross hung sideways disguised as a western fence with a cow skull, lariat and six gun holsters on it. The chaps and cowboy boots were hung as decorations and low and behold, all four single tails were firmly fastened to the walls in a very decorative manner. It would take power tools to get them down and use them again! Smart girl.

I also discovered which 2 riding crops she didn’t like, as they were crossed like an x decoratively hanging under a pair of boots. LOL …. That girl has such a good spirit and keen intellect. She did not violate the parameters. I enjoyed that room!



Now that is ONE SMART SLAVE! I like that girl ...
 
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RE: New Beginnings ~~ Confidence Builders - 8/9/2009 6:27:02 PM   
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It seems like we are ALWAYS having those kinds of experiences. I guess it is due to a newness thing or whatever, but I get pushed VERY hard and well beyond anything I thought I could handle every single time. That's how I like life...intense. We walk away from those experiences feeling like the sky's the limit for us and anxious to see what new heights we can attain next time. Growth is a wonderful thing. It is proof that the relationship is alive and healthy!

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