Loki45 -> RE: The issue of firearms (8/17/2009 5:21:13 PM)
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Starbuck09 I don't see you as anonymous though loki I see you as someone I have invested time and effort in because I wanted to debate with you and think you are worth debating with. That's fine. You see me how you want to see me. But just remember, just because you've invested time, doesn't mean the person is going to conform to how you think they should. At the end of the debate, at the end of the day, you click the same "X" button I do. And when you do that, I disappear. quote:
Starbuck09 If you turn out to not be who you say you are it is no skin of my nose, but anger in cases like this for me is justified because it is supplied in the same medium as what I am angry at. Just as I would react in a converstion face to face. I know. I was just like you when I was your age. But that can and does get people in trouble. Let me tell you a quick story: I was working as a waiter with this guy. He was 'trained' to believe that any problem could be solved (and should be solved) by fighting. This of course does not work well in the 'real' world as fighting is assault and assault is a crime. Anyway one day he, another guy we knew, and I were all joking around. Everyone was taking jabs at everyone else. Well one of my jabs struck a nerve with him. And he got angry and me and said he'd (paraphrasing) kill me if I said it again. I reacted that he was welcome to try, but when he lost he would not only face that consequence but also legal consquences regardless of whether or not he was victorious. Well, the night went on and we ended up (childishly) trading jabs via the 'dry erase board' on the wall at work, though no more actual words were exchanged. Later that night after my shift, I was taking car of my cash and preparing to go see the manager and he came into the room. He got in my face and told me I was not going to talk to him that way again (along with several other descriptions of what I would and would not do). In addition to this, he informed me that he didn't think very highly of me and said he would repeat this information whenever he felt neccessary. I replied then that he has a problem, and it was his problem to have. Because if he is going to keep saying such things to me, he should not get mad when I relay my feelings about him in a similar fashion. I said he needed to grow up because all they are is words. Just words. And there are no "words" on this planet or in the english language that he can say to me to make me want to fight him. He didn't grasp that concept, but someday perhaps he might. I tell you that tale as an analogy to our current situation. It's entirely your choice to get angry at what I say and your choice in how to respond. My point, is that despite what you think of me, I really am nothing to you. You may find me good to debate with and that's great. I certainly won't fault that logic. However, I am the way I am and at the end of the day, when you click the "X" button, I'm gone. There 'should' be nothing I can say to you that would make you react the way you did. You gave me that power when you reacted. You allowed me to make you react angrily and immaturely. You cannot do that to me because I will not allow it. As I said you could call my mother a whore, and I couldn't care less. quote:
Starbuck09 I attempt as much as possible to conduct myself online as I do in everyday life and if that means a little anger every now and then so be it. That's certainly your choice. But, and I speak from experience here, sooner or later that way of thinking can get you into trouble. There's nothing wrong with anger. It all comes down to one question: Do you control your anger, or does it control you? My anger used to be a bitter enemy of mine. I feared it, I ran from it. And whenever possible, it got me into trouble. Now, I'm in charge. I say how and when my anger is displayed and for what. I determine whether my anger flares out uncontrolled or whether it gets funneled into a more productive use.
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