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RE: While we're at it..... training collars - 8/9/2009 10:27:40 PM

LadyPact

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Thank you for your input, Malk. I have to admit, after the eruptions in the last two term threads, I'm surprised there hasn't been more controversy. Speaking of which......

I think it would be pretty bold of Me to state unequivocally, that I can train someone to serve another. My way will never be the way of everyone else. My way might be quite singular, but I don't think that means it could never have a benefit.

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RE: While we're at it..... training collars - 8/10/2009 2:24:03 AM

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I have used every kind of popular collar term you can think of...I even had "color coded collars" at one time to denote the difference between bottom, sub and slave. It was a process that was important for me to go through...so that I would come to have a deeper understanding of what a collar means to me AND exactly what a collared relationship should entail.

For the record, I no longer use any system. A slave is either collared or they are not.

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RE: While we're at it..... training collars - 8/10/2009 6:21:39 AM

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With those things said, what is your impression of training collars? Have you ever used or received one?

Our household uses a training collar (actually, a tag on the existing collar), and considers it, basically, within the two contexts you mentioned above. We use it for servants who are new to our household or who are only with us to learn to train in a particular skill like tea service, and who are learning how we do things. We do so because it has proven to be beneficial for both our servants and our free members/guests, so that a newcomer can be guided to the proper way of doing things, and cut a little slack if xhe doesn't get it right immediately. It lets people know that this person isn't fully trained yet, and also gives us a failsafe in the event that the person turns out to not be a good fit for the household once xhe's actually -functioning- in the household.

The other time we use the training tag is for a servant who may have been around a while, but who is learning a new skill that they haven't gotten down yet. The training tag gives the servant the opportunity to practice the skill, get feedback, and yet reminds our free members and guests to be a little gracious as xhe learns. We've found that this kind of firm guidance combined with the flexibility to -do- instead of waiting around for perfection to display a skill actually shortens the learning process and improves retention and presentation.

Informationally, our servants who are "in training" are also often assigned a mentor, if we have one available in-house or can arrange for the opportunity elsewhere, who is skilled in the area(s) in which the servant is training, to help that servant make progress and avoid ending up face-first in some of the pitfalls of developing a new skill-set.

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RE: While we're at it..... training collars - 8/10/2009 7:12:13 AM

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I've used training collars.

Twice successfully. Once not.

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In these instances I have put words to those thoughts feelings previously undefined or unadmitted. Others may call this friendship or mentoring.

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RE: While we're at it..... training collars - 8/10/2009 7:39:43 AM

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With those things said, what is your impression of training collars? Have you ever used or received one?

During the time before Master collared zaphira, both he and this slave often referred to it as 'the training period'. As mentioned, there was no actual collar put on zaphira; only the understanding that this was being done so that both Master and his property could come to a decision as to whether or not to proceed.

zaphira has served others before, but this was the first time that a specific training period was put in place. zaphira found that it was most helpful for her. It gave this slave a chance to learn what Master liked, how he liked things to be done; etc...but it also gave Master a chance to learn about zaphira.

zaphira thinks that this adjustment period is necessary. Others disagree, but for this slave, it was helpful.

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RE: While we're at it..... training collars - 8/10/2009 8:48:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Thank you for your input, Malk. I have to admit, after the eruptions in the last two term threads, I'm surprised there hasn't been more controversy. Speaking of which......

I think any poster in their right mind that has been here any time is not likely to get too brash on a thread of yours, LP. I can assure you that is one of the few reasons I was willing to respond at all. :)

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RE: While we're at it..... training collars - 8/10/2009 10:24:29 AM

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what is your impression of training collars?

That they are sort of silly, much like being ``under consideration`` or ``under the protection``, but really generally harmless. Its a protocol thing, particularly good for those who like a high degree of formality. I would say it is a step`up from ``under consideration``.