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Arpig -> RE: Consideration (8/9/2009 10:28:04 PM)
quote: In following protocal I am actually showing respect the the lifestyle I have chosen. Ah yes, but whose protocol? And how does one show respect (or disrespect) for a lifestyle?

maia09 -> RE: Consideration (8/10/2009 11:04:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Thegentleman1 I have been a BDSM Master for 20 plus years but I have never 'taken a submissive under consideration'. Until now I have just collared my subs plus I was married to my submissive for the last 8 years. I am at that point with a new sub and would like to follow proper protocal. Are there 'proper' guide lines that I should follow? I would appreciate any help / advice you may have. i'd bet you actually have taken a submissive under consideration, without any formalities about it. It's basically watching, experiencing and determining if this is who works with you. But for the sake of formalities, you are a Master and so as in anything, whatever you decide the appropriate protocol is is what is best.

daintydimples -> RE: Consideration (8/10/2009 11:18:20 AM)
This gentleman is seeking some basic protocol guidelines. If he has had a closed dynamic for 20 years and did not attend munches or read forums or visit chatrooms, I can see how it's possible he might need to seek that basic framework. Although I enjoy this forum immensely, I would enjoy it more if new posters were treated better. To the OP: do a search for protocol, you should get lots of hits. And feel free to message me on the other side.

LillyoftheVally -> RE: Consideration (8/10/2009 11:29:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daintydimples This gentleman is seeking some basic protocol guidelines. If he has had a closed dynamic for 20 years and did not attend munches or read forums or visit chatrooms, I can see how it's possible he might need to seek that basic framework. In a closed dynamic, no munches, websites. chat rooms or forums how would he even be aware of the term consideration or that there were even protocol?

daintydimples -> RE: Consideration (8/10/2009 11:33:12 AM)
Perhaps his new sub introduced it to him? Perhaps he's ventured out since he is no longer with his sub of 20 years and is looking anew? Perhaps you should ask him?

LillyoftheVally -> RE: Consideration (8/10/2009 11:36:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daintydimples Perhaps his new sub introduced it to him? Perhaps he's ventured out since he is no longer with his sub of 20 years and is looking anew? Perhaps you should ask him? Oh probably would be, to be fair though I was working with the OP not assumptions, it seemed a little far fetched to me, not to you, which is fine vive la difference and all that

Apocalypso -> RE: Consideration (8/10/2009 11:39:02 AM)
Perhaps he does not know about modern protocols because he is from the FUTURE! When can we expect our jet packs to arrive, our timetravelling friend?

SouthernSpankin -> RE: Consideration (8/10/2009 11:02:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Thegentleman1 I have been a BDSM Master for 20 plus years but I have never 'taken a submissive under consideration'. Until now I have just collared my subs plus I was married to my submissive for the last 8 years. I am at that point with a new sub and would like to follow proper protocal. Are there 'proper' guide lines that I should follow? I would appreciate any help / advice you may have. Like every reply you have gotten except for one, there is no "proper protocol." If the case is that this new "sub" is the one telling you what "BDSM" is rather than vice versa, it could be that you'd both be more happy with you being her slave, and her being your Mistress. There are plenty of people who started off on one side and found more fulfillment on the other.

Acer49 -> RE: Consideration (8/11/2009 12:20:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Thegentleman1 I have been a BDSM Master for 20 plus years but I have never 'taken a submissive under consideration'. Until now I have just collared my subs plus I was married to my submissive for the last 8 years. I am at that point with a new sub and would like to follow proper protocal. Are there 'proper' guide lines that I should follow? I would appreciate any help / advice you may have. These are personal decisions as to how you wish to proceed. We are all different and what may work for one, may not work for another. Rule # 1, there are no rules. You do what works for you and is in the best interest of your submissive.

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