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ORIGINAL: robertolapiedra
Sociologically, it can cover the cultural, political, and legal aspects; and philosophically, it can span the moral, ethical, theological, spiritual or religious aspects.

Recent studies on human sexuality have highlighted that sexual aspects are of major importance in building up personal identity and to social evolution of individuals:

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ORIGINAL: robertolapiedra
Hello lioncub. Feminism is gender politics, it is about social equality. In our context, submission is about sexuality.

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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ORIGINAL: robertolapiedra
Hello lioncub. Feminism is gender politics, it is about social equality. In our context, submission is about sexuality.

Just for the record, neither my dominance nor Carol's submission is sexually motivated. For us, we see feminism and D/s in the same camp... a discussion of male/female roles within the society. We just don't see any conflicts between what feminism wants and being a slave. Carol HAS chosen the life she wants to lead. She continues to do so daily and that choice is making her happy. Feminists rejoice!

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ORIGINAL: Apocalypso

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ORIGINAL: robertolapiedra
Sociologically, it can cover the cultural, political, and legal aspects; and philosophically, it can span the moral, ethical, theological, spiritual or religious aspects.

Recent studies on human sexuality have highlighted that sexual aspects are of major importance in building up personal identity and to social evolution of individuals:

If we're using the broadest definition of sexuality, surely the parts of Wiki I've highlighted show that sexuality isn't a private matter in the way previously suggested?

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

*sighs* OK, it doesn't really matter which studies you read... if you read stuff on leadership, you'll find that only a small percentage of humans are in the "natural leader" category. So doing some sloppy deductive work, we can loosely assume that something like 9 out of 10 people are more in the follower camp than leader one. Which really gets you to thinking... what freakin idiotic society paints the natural disposition of 90% of it's population as defective?

My mom is a feminist in the sense that she believes men are equal to women, besides the very obvious difference of parts. I believe this as well. A women can do what ever she pleases, as can a man.
Yeah, Carol is also... she's an old-school feminist given her age. And, in fact, so am I. It literally disgusts me that there is still a wage gap and still a glass ceiling (although both are slowly but surely crumbling). The idea that women should be subjected to sexual advances in the workplace is enough to make my blood boil. Conveniently, I don't see what any of those really firmly held convictions has to do with Carol being my slave.

The problem is that I feel guilty for being of a submissive nature, when my mother tried so hard to raise me otherwise!
This, right here, is I suspect the root of the problem? Did she REALLY try to raise you otherwise? I would suggesting asking yourself a series of "why" questions here to try to understand what your mother REALLY wanted and, more importantly, what YOU really want. From your description, you're not defective as a human. You are perfectly well capable of functioning as a self-supporting adult in society. You just CHOOSE to take a subordinate role. How is that any different than me taking a dominant role? In the end, all my leadership is worth exactly zero without someone to follow. You could argue that I'm just as "defective" as Carol is. I just tend to see us as two sides of the same coin that work together well without any value judgement on whether heads or tails is better.

I've had feelings of inadequacy for being submissive, even before I realized what "being submissive" was. I have sometimes felt that I am a failure of a young women, or what society says is a young women. And I guess that may be true, I am not what popular culture sees as strong. Of course, I know that I am strong. It is hard, though, to keep up my self-esteem in a world where the strong women are the independent, self-sufficient ones.
Yeah yeah.. but WHY? Why SPECIFICALLY is being submissive bad. You yourself have stated (as I noted above) that you are a capable and competent human. You just have a preference towards following someone else's lead rather than striking out on your own. You share that preference with the vast majority of humanity. So exactly how is that a bad thing?

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It is a question of knowing these things in my head, and feeling them. Logically, abiding by my submissive nature is the obvious thing to do! It is the undeniable me. There is nothing bad about it. The problem is that there is a part of me that cares, however irrationally, what everyone else is doing and what they are going to think.

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The problem is that I feel guilty for being of a submissive nature, when my mother tried so hard to raise me otherwise!

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I'd just like to share my thoughts on my newly-accepted submissive nature. I hope this is the right place.

My mom is a feminist in the sense that she believes men are equal to women, besides the very obvious difference of parts. I believe this as well. A women can do what ever she pleases, as can a man. The problem is that I feel guilty for being of a submissive nature, when my mother tried so hard to raise me otherwise! I can function perfectly well on my own without someone there to be an authority figure or guide, but it's something I crave. All my life before this I was told that strong women are independent and don't need men (or a dominant someone) to hold their hand!

I've had feelings of inadequacy for being submissive, even before I realized what "being submissive" was. I have sometimes felt that I am a failure of a young women, or what society says is a young women. And I guess that may be true, I am not what popular culture sees as strong. Of course, I know that I am strong. It is hard, though, to keep up my self-esteem in a world where the strong women are the independent, self-sufficient ones.

Thanks for reading!

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ORIGINAL: lioncub

I'd just like to share my thoughts on my newly-accepted submissive nature. I hope this is the right place.

My mom is a feminist in the sense that she believes men are equal to women, besides the very obvious difference of parts. I believe this as well. A women can do what ever she pleases, as can a man. The problem is that I feel guilty for being of a submissive nature, when my mother tried so hard to raise me otherwise! I can function perfectly well on my own without someone there to be an authority figure or guide, but it's something I crave. All my life before this I was told that strong women are independent and don't need men (or a dominant someone) to hold their hand!

I've had feelings of inadequacy for being submissive, even before I realized what "being submissive" was. I have sometimes felt that I am a failure of a young women, or what society says is a young women. And I guess that may be true, I am not what popular culture sees as strong. Of course, I know that I am strong. It is hard, though, to keep up my self-esteem in a world where the strong women are the independent, self-sufficient ones.

Thanks for reading!