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MissJanice2 -> Punishment names! (8/10/2009 6:49:11 AM)

What do you call your sub/slave when they are in trouble?  I called mine last night and referred to him as slavebutt because he knows that butt is where I am headed.  Curious minds want to know.
 
Respectfully,
 
Mistress_Jan




LillyoftheVally -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 7:06:59 AM)

For me as a sub generally when I am trouble my first name gets used. I loath it. I am actually lucky at the moment in that the Dominant that I am currently sort of um talking to has kind of reclaimed my name, when he uses it he does so in a way that doesn't make me feel scolded. Having your given name used in a punishment context can cause problems in other scenarios.




kuriouswitch -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 7:30:55 AM)

If I'm in trouble Master calls me kajira. That's when I know I'm about to cross a line or already have.




LadyPact -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 7:35:38 AM)

Never once have I called clip his birth name.  It's not something that we do.

I've only ever punished him twice in two years.  It's not the name that I use, but how I say it, that makes the difference.






CatdeMedici -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 8:51:16 AM)

I'm not a name caller, My tone of voice and level say it all.




Lashra -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 8:55:40 AM)

The only name that I use when I discipline him is his birth name.
If its "funishment" then he gets called a variety of names the
favorite being "cock sucking slut of mine." [;)]

~Lashra




fadedshadow -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 9:09:13 AM)

as a sub, i'm called by my first name when i'm in trouble




sweetsub1957 -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 9:20:35 AM)

Only one time have I been in trouble, Sir didn't have any specific name He used.  He always calls me "girl" or "ponybaby," never my given name.  But I could tell by the tone of His voice.  Usually He has a more mellow, loving tone to His voice.....He's that kind of Guy.  But when I was in trouble it was very firm and I knew
He meant business.  I knew that red ass was coming down the pike in no time & that it would be harder than our "play" red asses! 




mnottertail -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 9:24:53 AM)

Just like my mamma:

First Middle and Last with each one forceful and clipped.

Ron(ne)




PeonForHer -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 10:36:01 AM)

Your dominant doesn't mind that she sounds like your mother when she's telling you off?




LadyPact -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 12:50:13 PM)

I won't speak for everyone, but clip's known from the time we started engaging in D/s, if his birth name comes out of My lips, he's in far worse trouble than his mother ever could have come up with.




LillyoftheVally -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 12:52:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I won't speak for everyone, but clip's known from the time we started engaging in D/s, if his birth name comes out of My lips, he's in far worse trouble than his mother ever could have come up with.


And that to me has always been the issue. My name was only ever used when my mother was in one of her moods. That means in relationship context I have negative associations anyways. I think that people do it unintentionally but so often birth names are used to patronize and scold in a way that can be really really hurtful.




PeonForHer -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 1:13:04 PM)

My name was only ever used when my mother was in one of her moods.
 
I wonder why mothers do that with their daughters, particularly . . . 




SweetDommes -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 2:02:32 PM)

There isn't a pattern to it or anything, but the last time I was mad at rob, I believe I called him a "cranky-assed bastard" ... mostly, though, it's the tone we say it in, not what we say.




Venatrix -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 2:42:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissJanice2

What do you call your sub/slave when they are in trouble? 


If they are in trouble often enough, I call them "gone."




mnottertail -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 3:23:33 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Your dominant doesn't mind that she sounds like your mother when she's telling you off?


LOL, no, it ain't like that at all.

Ron




BKSir -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 3:28:06 PM)

Depends on how much trouble.  A little trouble, like, he didn't do the dishes when he said he would, it's still "Dear One", as in "Dear One, I'd like a word with you."  If it's big trouble, and only once have I used it, his full first name.  Again, sounding like mom or dad, but, it's effective and he knew for damn sure when he heard that coming out of my mouth, that I was not happy and not even remotely amused, and his cute smile and puppy dog eyes weren't going to help one damned bit this time.




MeaganBlake -> RE: Punishment names! (8/10/2009 5:07:48 PM)

My general term of endearment for Josephine is "my sweet little sissy bitch Josephine." When I'm angry, it's just "bitch." (eg, I haven't heard from him for a couple of days: "Where are you, bitch?") The one time I was absolutely enraged with him I called him a "stupid fucking cunt." He knew he was in trouble that time, lol.




MissJanice2 -> RE: Punishment names! (8/11/2009 6:02:28 AM)

I see quite a degree of variation here.  I have enjoyed each one of them including ones from the subs. 
 
Keep them coming.
 
My slave rarely does anything that requires punishment.   I wish he would so that I could do some punishment on him.  Our scening is usually straight out fun.
 
Best Wishes,
 
Mistress_Jan




LadyPact -> RE: Punishment names! (8/11/2009 6:57:37 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissJanice2
My slave rarely does anything that requires punishment.   I wish he would so that I could do some punishment on him.  Our scening is usually straight out fun.
 
Best Wishes,
 
Mistress_Jan


You know, I really never understand these kinds of comments.  It makes Me wonder why you would want that?  Why would you want your slave to do something that warrants punishment?  Why would you want some situation to present itself that would require that kind of action?  Why would you want your slave to be disobedient or feel in some way that you aren't inspiring his submission.

I get the vibe that isn't what you really want.  What you want to do is get the fun spice from a scenario where you can incorporate the elements of what could be the same as punishment, without there actually having been a transgression at all.  What you really want is to add the different levels of emotions and feelings to your scene.  In other words, you want to do so role play.

People hear the term role play and start to think, well, were going to dress up like pirates, and there's going to be this script, and I'm going to put all of this work into this scene to make it different and exciting.  Sure, it can be that, but it doesn't have to be.  Why can't it be something as simple as establishing a name for your slave that you will only use when you want to get that part of you that wants to play enforcer and wants him to feel like he's in trouble, even when he's not?  

Pick out a name that's specifically for punishment role play.  Let's call him bruno.  Have a little talk with your slave and explain to him that from now on when you play this game, that's the name you are going to call him.  It's only going to be for when he's been a bad boy and you're going to punish him.  Then, wait for about a week or so.  When he's done some mundane task for you, like finishing the dishes, call him specifically by his 'punishment name' and take it wherever you like.

"Bruno, did you leave a spot on your Mistress' glass before putting it away?  Don't you know better?  How dare you?  Get My whip immediately."

or

"Bruno, I have told you time and again to rinse every plate before it goes in the dishwasher.  A bad slave like you doesn't deserve to eat from a plate.  Fetch a dog bowl.  Get on your hands and knees like the untrained animal that you are."

From there, you can take it anywhere that you want to go.  Call him his 'punishment name' only for the duration of the scene.  Stop using it when you're finished.  That name is the one you will only use for this kind of play so you both know what is going on.  You get to add that spice and spontaneity with it.  In a sense, it becomes your own little code word.

Oh, and if you liked that, you should catch the presentation that I do on role play some time.  I think you'd really enjoy it.






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