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NastyJ -> Going to fast? (8/16/2009 7:44:03 AM)
So four nights ago I made plans for a flagellation scene with a female DOM in two weeks. The thing is that im the one who is geting flog. Im also still new to BDSM. I have went to some muchs and a demo on floging two mouths ago. The crazy part of my first demo was when I ask how hard should I swing the floger because im learing to be a Dom. The Dom told me to turn around to face the table. Next thing I know im geting flog by two female doms. I endit up geting a hard on and a warm feeling on my butt. So anyway four days latter im having second thoughts. So am I going to fast?

daddysliloneds -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 7:52:12 AM)
if you're having second thoughts then you're either going too fast or you're getting nervous excitement/anticipation... no one knows the answer to your questions but you.

OttersSwim -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 7:53:06 AM)
Only you can answer that. Some people get into this lifestyle at lightspeed, others at a snails pace. You have been flogged before, so it is not like you are going into this completely blind. Use common sense, state your boundaries and that you are new to the scene to this Domme. If she is worth her salt, she will watch you and not take you where you should not go anyway. The most important thing is, have fun. [;)]

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 7:55:59 AM)
So, it sounds like you are saying you are learning to be a Dom, but was turned on by a Domme flogging you, and now you have plans to be flogged again. Do you know the Domme who will be flogging you? Does she know this will be your first scene? Where is it going to occur? If you are having second thoughts, try to figure out if you are just worried because it's your first time or worried because you thought you were a Dom but are now enjoying "submissive" activities, or both. It sounds like you have some connections to a local community, so maybe see if there is someone you can talk with about your feelings. Perhaps the Domme you will be meeting? In any case, if you think you are going too fast, you probably are. Best of luck, LadyJulieAnn

SweetNika -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 8:00:45 AM)
You said yourself that you are very new to the BDSM scene. I personally think to many get caught up in the "labels" and forget that it is about what works for you. You can be a dominant and still enjoy allowing someone to top you. Perhaps your a switch. Perhaps you neither submissive or dominant ... there is no clear cut answers but if some thing doesn't feel right ask yourself why.

DarkSteven -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 8:01:37 AM)
I don't follow. It's possible to have a relationship with another person (or multiple people) go too fast because suddenly you find out that, compatible as you are in the sack, you're not compatible outside of it. And that leads to breakups, hurt feelings, regrets, etc. In your case, you're only finding out what you like and don't like, and what you're good at. No possible breakups and no hurt feelings. So what's the issue with "too fast"? Until you have further insights, call yourself a switch and move forward.

NastyJ -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 8:04:28 AM)
I do know her and she know's that im trying to be a dom. Im just exporing being a sub.

NastyJ -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 8:07:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetNika You said yourself that you are very new to the BDSM scene. I personally think to many get caught up in the "labels" and forget that it is about what works for you. You can be a dominant and still enjoy allowing someone to top you. Perhaps your a switch. Perhaps you neither submissive or dominant ... there is no clear cut answers but if some thing doesn't feel right ask yourself why. That is what im trying to find out.

Prinsexx -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 8:21:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NastyJ So four nights ago I made plans for a flagellation scene with a female DOM in two weeks. The thing is that im the one who is geting flog. Im also still new to BDSM. I have went to some muchs and a demo on floging two mouths ago. The crazy part of my first demo was when I ask how hard should I swing the floger because im learing to be a Dom. The Dom told me to turn around to face the table. Next thing I know im geting flog by two female doms. I endit up geting a hard on and a warm feeling on my butt. So anyway four days latter im having second thoughts. So am I going to fast? Why are you having second thoughts about having a hard on? I'd be having thoughts about it all the time if I had a dick.

cornflakegirl -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 8:37:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NastyJ So four nights ago I made plans for a flagellation scene with a female DOM in two weeks. The thing is that im the one who is geting flog. Im also still new to BDSM. I have went to some muchs and a demo on floging two mouths ago. The crazy part of my first demo was when I ask how hard should I swing the floger because im learing to be a Dom. The Dom told me to turn around to face the table. Next thing I know im geting flog by two female doms. I endit up geting a hard on and a warm feeling on my butt. So anyway four days latter im having second thoughts. So am I going to fast? Am I reading that wrong or did you get flogged without consent or even knowledge that that was going to happen? I'd be fucking pissed if I were you, and I already know I like being flogged. :/

NastyJ -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 8:46:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cornflakegirl Am I reading that wrong or did you get flogged without consent or even knowledge that that was going to happen? I'd be fucking pissed if I were you, and I already know I like being flogged. :/ No your not it's the truth.

cornflakegirl -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 8:54:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NastyJ quote: ORIGINAL: cornflakegirl Am I reading that wrong or did you get flogged without consent or even knowledge that that was going to happen? I'd be fucking pissed if I were you, and I already know I like being flogged. :/ No your not it's the truth. I get that it was hot, but I am also really sorry that happened to you. That seems really out of bounds with safe and ok and normal.

NastyJ -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 9:11:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cornflakegirl quote: ORIGINAL: NastyJ quote: ORIGINAL: cornflakegirl Am I reading that wrong or did you get flogged without consent or even knowledge that that was going to happen? I'd be fucking pissed if I were you, and I already know I like being flogged. :/ No your not it's the truth. I get that it was hot, but I am also really sorry that happened to you. That seems really out of bounds with safe and ok and normal. I forgot to say I got paddle a few times and got pop once with a dragon's tall but I had on shorts. It was'it a scene BTW

cornflakegirl -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 9:12:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NastyJ quote: ORIGINAL: cornflakegirl quote: ORIGINAL: NastyJ quote: ORIGINAL: cornflakegirl Am I reading that wrong or did you get flogged without consent or even knowledge that that was going to happen? I'd be fucking pissed if I were you, and I already know I like being flogged. :/ No your not it's the truth. I get that it was hot, but I am also really sorry that happened to you. That seems really out of bounds with safe and ok and normal. I forgot to say I got paddle a few times and got pop once with a dragon's tall but I had on shorts. It was'it a scene BTW It just seems really bizarre that they would spring any of that on you without asking.

NastyJ -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 9:17:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetNika You said yourself that you are very new to the BDSM scene. I personally think to many get caught up in the "labels" and forget that it is about what works for you. You can be a dominant and still enjoy allowing someone to top you. Perhaps your a switch. Perhaps you neither submissive or dominant ... there is no clear cut answers but if some thing doesn't feel right ask yourself why. That is what I am concen about. geting label when I haveit find my role . It happen when I went to the demo the fem subs noice the way I actit and call me a sub.

antipode -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 9:25:42 AM)
quote: So am I going to fast? If, as your profile indicates, you're looking to get severed, you can't ever go too fast.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Going to fast? (8/16/2009 10:28:57 AM)
it is different for everyone people explore in different ways but in the end you are who are people can not change their core charector just my take

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