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AnnePrimrose -> RE: "applicants" who send uninvited pictures (8/18/2009 8:37:59 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett
Trust me, "Applicant" applies. I even have it on my profile that I'm "Taking Applications". Honestly, sometimes I feel like looking for a good sub is like looking for a good employee. There are things that I want, and things that I don't.
I used to be very poetic and symbolic on my profile. I had things like "How long will it take you to be collar ready?" Which was a reference that one of my old body builder boys always said that he needed 3 weeks to get 'Collar Ready' if I had an event planned where I wanted to parade him around nude on a leash. (Of course, he turned out to be a big fat lair and that never happened, but that's another story.) I had "My moods change like the tides on the sea. Can you stand like the rock against the gale?" or something like that. Basically, it meant that I can be just as sweet, open, giving and loving most of the time, but when the dungeon door closes, you're in for a beating.
None of that worked. I finally gave up and did it like a job application. I REQUIRE a pain slut. If you don't want to be hit, move along. If you send a photo - DRESSED - with your application, I'm more likely to remember who you are. Just a profile photo helps a lot. Tasteful, artistic body shots can be nice. (Like Peon's well known back.) I've gotten several very beautiful photos from sub males that were quite hot. But unsolicited cock shots are - as mentioned - just rude.
MsStarlett you have me laughing here and shaking my head. All so true! I am going to re-write my profile statement completely! No more innuendo, no imagery, or at least not concerning what I will accept.
In a letter to one such "petitioner" I wrote:
Tell me what kind of thing you are hoping I can drag out of your insides.
Tell me what you cannot do on your own without a woman putting pressure on you to do it.
Tell me what you are too weak or too afraid to explore and accept about yourself all on your own.
Tell me how much you NEED me to open some new gates inside you.
Convince me, ____. You are not yet one of my subservient male pets.
And in his reply he wrote:
I am begging inside. I know my begging won't stay inside if Mme Priscilla takes it.
I want to be in the room where Mme Priscilla is, to be near her.
Reading this response was like watching a carefully prepared souffle collapse; or the Hindenburg crash to the ground in flames. The extent of what secrets lie deep inside him is a desire to beg? That's it? This man either has nothing in his unconscious that fires him up or else he has no clue what lies inside him driving him to seek out a Mistress. Or.... the most likely explanation; he is just another "jerk-off-junkie". In any case, where is the Art? Where is the poetry? Where is the creative spark? But most of all, where the F*** is his INSPIRATION???
Not to mention that since I do not meet face-to-face with online contacts, what little he has expressed beside wanting to beg, is beyond the bounds of reality and beyond the realm of my style of work. I do dialogues that are about feelings and desires; fears and anticipations. And I give real-life assignments. But I do not do much "imaginative scening." Again, these subtleties are not being comprehended. That much I can fully understand. The boundary between thinking, talking, expressing one's feelings in contrast with making up a story or scene about them, is somewhat fuzzy. I DO have to re-write my profile statement!
I guess that very famous J person prophet savior guy had it right; "Many are called, but few are chosen." Too many mustard seeds are drying up on the rocks in the sun, not having fallen into rich nurturing soil.
I see that in this section of the message board "ASK A MISTRESS" we have a number of men telling us what a Mistress would say. Or at least I presume they are speaking as if they were Mistresses. But no. I re-read some of them. They are speaking as men, answering a question asked to women by a woman. Do these men use the women's restroom as well?
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I expect they will come in here and read everything, just as much as I can't keep men from digging around in my hamper for my soiled panties, but if I meant to ask men these questions, I would have posted in a general BDSM thread.
It's okay I guess, but if they can reply in here, then I have the right to comment on it.
"Applicant;" "petitioner;" "potentials;" (and others) yes okay, I see there are a variety of opinions.
THANKS AGAIN for your many replies!
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