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wildflower26 -> RE: Creepy Doms. (8/20/2009 10:57:33 PM)
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ORIGINAL: TimrehIX
I was talking to a Dom the other day and there was something off. He seemed more manipulating than dominant. For instance when I said I said I was nervous about meeting him, he said something like “I knew you would chicken out, I have a sixth sense about these things.” That seemed a little strange, especially because I was on my way out the door to meet him at the time. I told him I had not backed out of meeting him, all I said was that I was nervous. He said that if I really wanted to be a sub I wouldn’t be nervous. I then said that I have never gone to meet some one for the first time without being nervous. He then said alright and I should go to the meet. I backed out because I was pissed at this point and not in the right frame of mind. Witch he then took to mean I was chickening out after all.
Another time I was trying to talk to a Dom on YM. His posts were horribly difficult to read. There were typos in almost every word, no punctuation and poorly constructed sentences. I found myself only getting the gist of what he would say to me. Eventually I just gave up. All his posts were like “Od wnt metm e netx wEen?d”
Another Dom I spoke to, immediately started telling me (first conversation) how I was THE slave for him. He has been looking for a slave just like me for years and I should move up there so be his collard slave. He could send a plane ticket and I didn’t have to bring anything with me. He would keep me naked, shaved and plugged I would never leave the house, and he would (if I was good) loan me out to his friends. This is too much, talking about such things in hypothetical terms is hot but he really was pushing for me to make the move. First he offered then he ordered me to do it. When I said no he accused me of not being a “real slave.”
So these are a few Doms I haven’t met with because they were to out there. Does any one else have stories about creepy Doms –whether you met them or not-?
A couple things here -- Sounds like you've been where I've been, that is, coming from such an eager place to talk that i'm willing to overlook all manner of red flags. I've learned with time to stick with folks who seem sensible and can somewhat spell -- maybe that means less fun fantasy online with strange men, but it also means more time for the ones who really take the time to care enough about me to send a coherent message and actually try to develop a relationship in stages. i'd suggest looking at the types of scenarios above and maybe examine if you kept going after seeing a red flag (or two or three) and what you can do to help yourself out of such non-consensually degrading situations in the future.
Okay, on to the fun stories now:
yup, i've definitely talked with some manipulative folks. a month or two ago, a man messaged me to explain to me that i wasn't a true submissive/slave if i have any boundaries. i responded by thanking him for realizing i'd misplaced my dictionary. then i asked if while he had his out and was defining things for me, if he could define "presumptuous" -- then i said, "oh, wait, you just did".
that was fun.
trying to think of others.....
lately, all those manipulations, all those little things that raised my indignance -- they're overshadowed by the reality of exploring a real relationship right now. :)
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