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Aylee -> RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Master or Lord...etc... (8/19/2009 10:00:06 AM)
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ORIGINAL: tammystarm
This is a discussion i've had several time with other subs, and im wondering what most people think.
Dominants please feel free to add Your opinion too.
I have come to learn over many years that calling a Dominant or so called Dominant by what they call themselves, ie Lord, Master or Sir, when you are not their submissive, not realistic. I am in no way disrespectful, i was brought up in the south to use the utmost table manors, and yes sir, no sir, yes ma'am and no ma'am. Please and thank you. BUT when i have a Dominant in my life, it feels very awkward to call another, by that name. To me it's kinda like well Your my Master and if i call him Master than do i need to get on my knees and give him a blow-job too, or kneel at his feet...etc etc... So please tell me what your opinion is.
(btw) this probably should have been posted in the general section, but most of the great people i know are usually here.
"This sad little lizard told me that he was a brontosaurus on his mother’s side. I did not laugh; people who boast of ancestry often have little else to sustain them. Humoring them costs nothing and adds to happiness in a world in which happiness is always in short supply. "
I try to keep this in mind. If I am meeting someone at a function, party, whatever, and they want some sort of honorific used, I will use it. It costs me nothing, and most likely I will never see the person again. If my s-type chooses to call another d-type by an honorific, that is just fine. I am only annoyed if a person INSISTS that my s-type use an honorific when he is uncomfortable doing so.
Sometimes that is all a person has. Why should I take that away. When the person feels more comfortable with themselves and their life, they will move away from this need to have everyone address them with an honorific, until then, it may be the only thing holding their spine in place.
"Moving parts in rubbing contact require lubrication to avoid excessive wear. Honorifics and formal politeness provide lubrication where people rub together. Often the very young, the untraveled, the naive, the unsophisticated deplore these formalities as “empty,” “meaningless,” or “dishonest,” and scorn to use them. No matter how “pure” their motives, they thereby throw sand into machinery that does not work too well at best. "
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