BeingChewsie
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My answer is none of them apply. I can't see trying to impose those types of restrictions. They are really not enforceable and I see them like I do a safe word, something to make the person who has it feel more secure without actually being so. You can place any restrictions on another person that you want, if they meet someone else and want to be with them more than you, no restrictions you placed on them will change that. You can jump up and down and yell " but but but you promised you wouldn't " as they are walking out the door but what does that really get you?
I think it is better to do a benefit/risk assessment and decide if being with them is worth any potential risk. If the answer is yes, relax and enjoy the ride for as long as it lasts.
I am a female/submissive.
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1st question: From the stance of who you are (you as the person inside and your gender) and what you are (dominant or submissive), what type of restriction is most important to you in placing on your partner's play---the emotional aspect...the D/s aspect...the BDSM play aspect...or the sexual play aspect?
2nd question: After the most important...to you...restriction is placed, where do the others fall on your list?
3rd question: What do you restrict within these areas and why?
Final question...and remember, we are talking within the realm of the ideal...if you could pick the restriction that your partner would place on you, which one would it be? And why?
Since part of my speculation has been whether or not being male vs. female plays as much a part as dominance/submission, please indicate whether you are a male dominant or female dominant, male submissive or female submissive.
< Message edited by BeingChewsie -- 8/22/2009 12:04:19 PM >
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