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RE: Mixed messages on Chastity - 8/24/2009 7:05:39 PM

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I don't think a chastity device means that the domme does not trust her slave any more than handcuffs or ropes do. Chastity devices are a tactile reminder as well as a way for the Mistress to be certain that her slave is not receiving pleasure.

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RE: Mixed messages on Chastity - 8/25/2009 3:08:00 AM

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Very well stated. He expressed similar feelings. The device would be a constant reminder that he is Mine and allowed release only by Me. He believes we will somehow be closer when we are apart because of the device. I find the thought appealing as we are unable to be together during the week.

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RE: Mixed messages on Chastity - 8/25/2009 4:16:42 AM

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I don't think a chastity device means that the domme does not trust her slave any more than handcuffs or ropes do. Chastity devices are a tactile reminder as well as a way for the Mistress to be certain that her slave is not receiving pleasure.

I would have to wonder about that also. When my mistress didn't want me to masturbate, she told me to keep my hands off it and I did. Maybe it is different for men, but I would think if your mistress says don't touch, you don't touch. Why would you have to be locked away from it in order to do what your told?

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RE: Mixed messages on Chastity - 8/27/2009 3:21:57 PM

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I would have to wonder about that also. When my mistress didn't want me to masturbate, she told me to keep my hands off it and I did. Maybe it is different for men, but I would think if your mistress says don't touch, you don't touch. Why would you have to be locked away from it in order to do what your told?

I am a horn dog. If left to my own devices I can cum 3 to 6 times in an afternoon. When told not to cum it takes significant effort not to, especially when the Doms I talk to are mostly just e-people. When the only contact I have with a person is through email or instant message, it’s hard to keep motivated not to jack off. It’s not like they will know. (Though I will cop to it when asked.) If I meet a guy in person and he forbids me from cumming I have no guarantee he will ever schedule a time to meet up again, so why deny myself for some one I might not see again.

With a chastity device you know this is an ongoing situation. You are actually restraining yourself for some one who gives a shit. You will see them again they are interested in you enough to send you away with a few hundred dollars worth of hardware attached to your junk.

My biggest concern with the wearing chastity for a long period of time is the possibility of it being discovered. I would try to get a plastic lock with a serial number, or be sent home with a key that has been made inaccessible some how. I like the idea of putting it in an envelope the Dom has sealed with wax. That has all kinds of symbolism to it.

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RE: Mixed messages on Chastity - 8/29/2009 8:38:15 PM

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I think I'd be a bit nervous about wearing a chastity device without some kind of out too. More than likely you'd never need it, but that one time could be really really embarrassing.

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RE: Mixed messages on Chastity - 8/30/2009 4:38:55 AM

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Hi , As a domm i am in favour of chastity devoces, but having discussed these emergencies with a friend it was agreed a key would be put in the subs home & be tolsd where to find it if required ( ie hospital stay ) ! I do think your sub is nervous , but wants to plaeas , the long weekend is a good ides , maybe lock him in it for a few hours aday & go from there !
maybe locked in for the wekend youre together ??

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RE: Mixed messages on Chastity - 8/30/2009 8:31:23 AM

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That's one good thing about the Birdlocked. I can actually pull the thing off if I had to. But with the lock on, I could not get back in. Busted.

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RE: Mixed messages on Chastity - 8/30/2009 12:28:34 PM

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Just in the "For What it's Worth" department, I wonder how many submissives wear a locked collar during their time away from their dominant? Nope, I'm not going to ask for a show of hands (or collars) but since it is a vanilla world we live in, there are many venues where a locked collar isn't appropriate.

I view a chastity device as my form of collar. One that I can wear nearly anyplace as a constant reminder of my submission to my Dominant Lady. For me it is not about keeping chaste and not being ABLE to touch my "boy parts". If she told me "No Touchy", I would do so. Rather it is my collar, my token of submission to her.

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RE: Mixed messages on Chastity - 8/30/2009 5:32:32 PM

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I know you did not want a show of hands, but....I actually do wear a locked chain/collar almost 24/7. It is removed only when necessary (x-rays or something).

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