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anal (yes another question about this) - 2/24/2006 4:12:11 PM

littleone35

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Now i know ther are many posts on this subject but my question is a little different. Now my new master really wants to do anal but he says he will wait until i am ready (physically, mentally emotionally). I had a bad experience which he knows about and he is going slow. My question is i trust him but i find it hard to relax when he even goes near my butt with anal beads or a butt plug to get me used to having something there. Any ideas on how i can relax ?

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/24/2006 4:13:55 PM

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Have you read all those other threads? They do give some good answers for you there.

- Try masturbating while it happens, or get into some really good slippery sex and just have his hands NEAR your anus.

- When he's going down on you, let him do some analingus

- Play with yourself when he does get near you

- Take deep breaths

- Go slow, a few seconds today could turn into a few more seconds tomorrow

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/24/2006 4:42:03 PM

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An enema a few hours before, a long soaking bath (be sure to wash the in and around the anus) and two glasses of wine before you begin.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/24/2006 4:45:09 PM

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The fact the he knows about your experience and is taking it slow is wonderful. There are some out there that would not do that. Also... believe or not.. masterbation is a great way to distract yourself a bit and also allow yourself to relax some.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/25/2006 11:00:10 AM

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For my first time which was ages ago, I remember it seemed to help for me to provide the momentum by pushing back onto it, rather than have him do the moves...might that help?

Oh, and a stiff feather can work wonders I'm told.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/25/2006 11:55:55 AM

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I was beginning to think this board just turned to "Dribble". then another ANAL thread pops up and Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... Just like the good ole days, I'm liking this board again.... LOL

OK, Now to the question. From your post your issue is psychological not physical so I don't think techniques are your answer. What’s more you master sounds like he is doing the right thing. If it were me I would just tease and play until you begged me to take you. You have to want it. Until then there is no magic pill or toy that is going to get you over the hump.

You have said that you trust him. Great, let him control it and if he is as good as he sounds, he will know when to pull the trigger.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/25/2006 12:25:39 PM

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a finger or thumb slipped in while having sex doggie style works good, your aroused already and it is something small entering the passage

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/25/2006 2:14:05 PM

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Thank you all for your answeres i think i will have to ask master if he want to try all of them. They all seem like they will help me relax more. It is something i want i am still a little nervous about it though. The enema he has told me about already we will do that eventually he said.

Matt's littleone

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/25/2006 10:07:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DelRey

I was beginning to think this board just turned to "Dribble". then another ANAL thread pops up and Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... Just like the good ole days, I'm liking this board again.... LOL

OK, Now to the question. From your post your issue is psychological not physical so I don't think techniques are your answer. What’s more you master sounds like he is doing the right thing. If it were me I would just tease and play until you begged me to take you. You have to want it. Until then there is no magic pill or toy that is going to get you over the hump.

You have said that you trust him. Great, let him control it and if he is as good as he sounds, he will know when to pull the trigger.

DelRey,

By all means, go post a fascinating topic that's not 'drivel'.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/25/2006 11:12:29 PM

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When anything is being inserted into your anus, whether it be a finger/dildo/penis - if you push slightly like you are trying to have a bowel movement - it opens the sphincters up and allows for easier penetration.

Relaxation, Him not rushing it, your willingness to try it - all will add up to an enjoyable experience. one was lucky to have anal with a boyfriend that was wonderful when it came to getting one ready for it - and one has loved it ever since.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/26/2006 12:14:42 AM

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Even though the problem maybe psychological...

These relaxtion tips of the warm enema( which you can do privately,Master can be gone at work maybe?) Warm bath,or a massage will help you to relax and get over that hump.Try it by yourself,if your Master allows,it may help for you to be in control alone first,then maybe not so much of that past feeling would emerge,get comfortable with you and then let Master have a turn...

Do you think Master will be really unhappy with you and your putting to much pressure on yourself to move more quickly than you should?

slave bishop has had this issue,while I want to be pleased with her,I dont want her to feel she has to do it when it is an issue from the past.
As a result...its just not that important to U/us...I have other ways of enjoying her.

Try to relax...deep breath ....now... do what feels right.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/26/2006 8:41:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

a finger or thumb slipped in while having sex doggie style works good, your aroused already and it is something small entering the passage

I would caution against this unless the area and object are lubricated.

I can't stand when a partner tries to go in there "sneakily" in the middle of oral or regular sex without being prepared. It's not like I can't tell where he's going and if the area is not prepped, it's not gonna feel good. It's also harder to get a good angle while you're in the middle of other things, so you tend to lose focus and lose the momentum.

But if you're prepped and know it's coming, then it can be a great way to go.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/26/2006 9:56:33 AM

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This is a big psychological problem with me too. My ex hurt me more then once trying to do anal and I have such a fear of the pain and being uncomfortable with that area of my body that I do worry about transferring this to my new realationship. He knows it all and has promised to go very slow. I just hope I can get past my fears from the past.

I liked many of the suggestions here and will try them.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/26/2006 2:50:34 PM

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and two glasses of wine before you begin.

Oh WOW; just wait until the teetotalers get a whiff of this suggestion.
I would go another step...try a wine retention enema. That ought to get the anti-alcohol nannies posting...lol.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 2/26/2006 3:14:30 PM

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These seem like good suggestion, although I would go straight for the vodka blue fusion.

On a serious note, you mentioned beads and plugs, and how those were an issue with you. I would certainly think so, because in my opinion that's some pretty serious hardware to start off with. You might want to start off with a really, really, really slippery finger, while getting oral sex. That makes it part of the fun, rather than "your butt on center stage", so to speak.

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 3/1/2006 6:14:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

Now i know ther are many posts on this subject but my question is a little different. Now my new master really wants to do anal but he says he will wait until i am ready (physically, mentally emotionally). I had a bad experience which he knows about and he is going slow. My question is i trust him but i find it hard to relax when he even goes near my butt with anal beads or a butt plug to get me used to having something there. Any ideas on how i can relax ?

Matt's littleone

i understand exactly how you feel. i, too, had a few bad experiences with anal. my first time was done by someone who did not consult me about what he was about to do before he did it, and without any preporation. the others were with boys who were virgins and (as one said) just wanted to try it. my Master could completely understand when i told Him that anal was off limits and i tended to shy away from Him touching me there. He is very experienced with it and with introducing it to women without hurting them or rushing. trusting Him was a very big factor in me being able to let Him do this. personally, i feel that your Master is rushing a bit to be trying beads or a plug already. mine has never used those tools on me, but has over the course of only a couple months gotten me from not wanting it at all to telling Him to f*** my ass when He is in there. the first thing that your Master needs to do is play with you. my Master used His dominance and told me He will be playing with all of me during the first session. if you are extremely turned on you are more likely to feel pleasurable feelings when played with there. it's a natural movement to slide one's hand back a little when He has you pinned to the bed or held against Him and is playing with your sex. a single finger is enough for the first time, which is how He should be treating this aspect of your relationship. my Master always preps my body for Him with this method and makes sure He is very hard and well lubed. there is always time for lube (unless your into that kind of pain, as a few of the girls He knows are). i can give you more thoughts about a good way to do this if you'd like, or give you my Master's name on here if you or your Master would like to know how He got me to where We are now with this- just send me a message. He and i would be happy to help make this a pleasurable experience for you.
-jadenth

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 3/1/2006 7:11:49 PM

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anal MMMMMMMMM

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RE: anal (yes another question about this) - 3/2/2006 5:53:56 AM

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Thank you Jadenth but my Master know what he is doing but thank you for trying to help it is very much appreciated. I guess i am just a little nervous about it even though i trust him complety.

I am glad you told me you got over it with an understanding master. Mine is too so that give me hope i can also.

Matt's littleone

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