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mnottertail -> RE: Negative Attention (8/27/2009 12:53:04 PM)
Ah, but does the red ass care from whence it came?

RavenMuse -> RE: Negative Attention (8/27/2009 1:02:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally But surely one dominant's cheeky sub is another dominant's brat Irrelevant to MY answer, each answers according to their Own definition and their Own situation. Negative manipulative bullshit behaviour isn't something tollerated here. As said, if My girl has a problem then she brings that problem to Me and COMMUNICATES, she does not act up to try and manipulate else she knows she might just manipulate herself right outta the door.

NihilusZero -> RE: Negative Attention (8/27/2009 2:00:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gracesky i mean those that behave badly to get attention. I avoid association with these types.

allthatjaz -> RE: Negative Attention (8/27/2009 2:03:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse What an excellent way for a BRAT to take a bad situation and make it 10 times worse! Last thing a SUBMISSIVE wants is to disapoint and get into the wrong kind of trouble, the BRAT however doesn't care so long as she can manipulate getting some kind of attention. positive or negative. If MY girl has a problem she comes to Me and COMMUNICATES what that problem is, I then have the full information to be able to deal with the problem possitivly. quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse It IS black and white HERE. Bratish behaviour isn't tolerated full stop. How things are when it isn't a Dominant in control I neather know nor care. The question was how 'you' handle it... so the answer I gve was from THIS standpoint, I can't speak for others and their standpoints/situations. The second paragraph was about how 'you handle it'. The first paragraph clearly states a zero tolerance for the woman who has cried out for any kind of attention. Not all negative attention is 'bratish behavior' Lets for example take the submissive who cries from the heart because her supposed Dominant has suddenly turned VERY vanilla. Perhaps she loves him regardless but she still grieves the loss of him no longer embracing her submission. Are her tears fake? should she just shut up and put up because after all she is a submissive?

RavenMuse -> RE: Negative Attention (8/27/2009 6:08:55 PM)
I have zero tolerance because no girl of Mine would end up in that situation. If you have a problem with that then it is just that... YOUR problem, deal with it! I was asked how I would handle it, that is how I would handle it, end of... I don't DO brats!

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Negative Attention (8/28/2009 11:01:24 AM)
Yes, I as the one who's body the ass is on cares where the red beat ass comes from. I have absolutely no desire for any negative interactions involving my ass. quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Ah, but does the red ass care from whence it came?

agirl -> RE: Negative Attention (8/28/2009 12:11:12 PM)
He just won't let me at 'im. He knows me well enough to be able to discern through conversation, whether I'm just in a crap mood, or whether there's something fairly serious afoot. In either case, if the discussion or conversation is getting us no-where, he'll pull the plug on it and pick it up later. If I seriously want his attention, I know how to get it and keep it.... and being stroppy or awkward for WHATEVER reason will not result in gaining it. Way back in the mists of time I found out that negative attention from HIM, really, REALLY isn't something to toy with. Today he showered me down after a session.....the water was very hot and I was hopping about in the slippery bath, gasping and saying * oooo HOT , hot!!. He asked me if it I wished for it to be cooler and I said Nooo, thank you Master. I knew him well enough to know that a cold shower would be wending my way if I made any more fuss, so I hushed up and kept my gasps* to the minimum. The example being .....even under extreme circumstances, he'll only deal the way he wants to. It certainly has me focussed on getting attention positively as best I can. agirl

RealSub58 -> RE: Negative Attention (8/30/2009 8:35:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gracesky How do you handle negative attention? If a person, ie adult, needs to act unbecomingly, badly, stupid, like a jerk just to get attention, there is something wrong with them. That is a childish ploy.

Lostkitten3 -> RE: Negative Attention (8/30/2009 11:00:08 AM)
Yes, well some of us are childish :D And some of us are naughty. And some Doms love us for it! (Thank Goddess!)

Lostkitten3 -> RE: Negative Attention (8/30/2009 1:06:47 PM)
But since I found a Dom that gives me plenty of attention, and enjoys doing so, there is no need for brattiness (which is neither stupid, unbecoming or jerkiness, it is simply sadness without crying.)

DesFIP -> RE: Negative Attention (8/31/2009 12:01:42 PM)
I find it fascinating that we are assuming here the dominant is all knowing, caring and always fulfills the sub's needs. In reality of course, lots of dominants are selfish and don't give a damn about anything but their own needs. And these are the same ones who always say that strict punishment is needed, who restrict communication in order not to be confronted with unfulfilled needs, and who are always searching for a 'twue' submissive.

Lostkitten3 -> RE: Negative Attention (8/31/2009 2:49:36 PM)
DesFIp...Nail on the head baby.

lovingpet -> RE: Negative Attention (8/31/2009 6:10:40 PM)
I don't want negative attention. I'd rather go without. I won't go without either though. I prefer to choose someone who has enough interest in me to be bothered with paying attention without a bunch of prodding. lovingpet

talldarkdomj -> RE: Negative Attention (12/29/2009 8:27:05 PM)
I find the better a sub or slave looks on that particular night or the less you are wearing the more negative attention you receive. take it as a compliment and refer them to your dom.That is usually the end of it.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Negative Attention (12/29/2009 9:24:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse People, especially those of a submissive nature, often less so. Not because they are trying to hide something but because they want to please and serve. Asking for something, for themselves, is often very difficult. I have a horrible time asking for anything. I'm inclined to wait until I'm way desperate for whatever it is, and then I'll beg. Of course, the moment I'm told "No," I stop. I simply refuse to act badly to get attention.

littlewonder -> RE: Negative Attention (12/30/2009 3:24:52 PM)
I ignore them. I walk away from them. I let them be.

antipode -> RE: Negative Attention (12/30/2009 6:08:14 PM)
quote: How do you handle negative attention? Where? CM? 7-11? Idaho?

AnimusRex -> RE: Negative Attention (12/30/2009 7:34:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gracesky How do you handle negative attention? I never seem to get any. Or if I do, I don't notice. Which might be the answer right there.

aldompdx -> RE: Negative Attention (12/30/2009 7:35:06 PM)
Forum: ASK A MASTER How does a master handle negative attention? However it feeds their ego. The vast majority of masters are narcissists.

Knighthunter862 -> RE: Negative Attention (1/4/2010 8:03:25 AM)
Ive found that corner time or just plain out ignoring the sub can work very effectively.After all if she is craving attention even bad attention will strengthen that behavior.

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