marie2 -> RE: Nature vs. Nurture vs. Essence (8/27/2009 7:29:04 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth You know, whenever people start in on the nature vs. nurture debate, I always notice that most people talk as if there's a third option, but no one ever directly refers to that option. I'm going to go ahead and name that option "Essence". The idea of the "nature" argument is that our genes and biology strongly influence our behavior, and (according to the Essentialists) are therefore merely a weak excuse for anything we might do, because it's "not our fault - it's our genes". The idea of the "nurture" argument is that our environment and our upbringing strongly influence our behavior, and (according to the Essentialists) are therefore merely a weak excuse for anything we might do, because it's "not our fault - it's how we were raised". The idea of "essence", then, is that some people are just naturally Good, Worthwhile People, and that other people are just naturally No-Good Shits, and that there are no excuses - your circumstances in life, including your genes and your biology, and including your upbringing and environment, all merely reflect your inner Nature, which is either full of Awesome or Suck. And if you're full of Suck, that's your own damn fault, and stop pretending that you can fix it through therapy or pills or anything like that, and especially stop pretending that we should be sympathetic to you just because your stepdad raped you six times a day or you were born with a faulty gene that makes you unable to regulate your mood swings. I don't view shortcomings as "fault" or "excuse" type of things, but I do think that they way we are raised or the way we grow up, and the experiences we've had can account for a lot of the good and the bad that we have become. How could it not? But yeah, there comes a time to move past it. I think sometimes though, that some people hold onto bad experiences because it gives them some kind of security. It's almost as if people are afraid to let it go, even if it was something horrible, they still need to feel it, re-think it, re-visit it because it's what they know, and I guess there is some sense of "safety" in the familiar.
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