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Acer49 -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 11:49:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: XstilettosX I have heard there are techniques for being able to adsorb more pain.Does anyone have any suggestions?Resources? Well first off, the one administering the pain must be very tuned to the one who is receiving. I personally will start light and gradually build in intensity. My strokes are rhythmic, so the receiver knows when the strokes will arrive. I have heard that there are breathing exercises that help one absorb pain. I can not vouch for their effectiveness however.

Missokyst -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 1:53:41 PM)
I find I can dull pain with pleasure.

lateralist1 -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 3:31:44 PM)
Chronic pain eats away at every part of your life. The only way through is the thought that it will get better. BDSM pain can relieve chronic pain and can be very interesting/stimulating. It's the tops job to make it so.

whiteslavebitch -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 4:38:19 PM)
deep breathing techniques, much like they teach in childbirth classes.

Kana -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 8:28:08 PM)
Try some serious deep breathing techniques while bound and playing. They can and take a normal drop and accelerate it, helping you to take more.in play. On the other hand, there are lots of ways the Dominant partner can help here, starting soft and moving slowly harder, mixing objects and sensation, switching from pleasure to pain and back again. Most of all, lots of touching!

impishlilhellcat -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 8:35:34 PM)
I do deep breathing and I find that if I push or the person administering my pain pushes just a little bit farther each time we play I seem to build up a stronger tolerance faster. Just as if it's been a long time since I've received pain I start to lose my edge. It helps if you enjoy too =)

pyroaquatic -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 9:32:40 PM)
The pain I am thinking of is the type that evacuates your sinus cavities. :D I have no idea why one would want to dull such a thing. Some suggestions I have not heard of before though.

AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 9:37:03 PM)
Distract your mind. Focus on something else. Let your mind wonder elsewhere. Leave your body. If your focusing on the pain you'll feel it more. Hope this helps.

Esinn -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 11:00:20 PM)
quote: f your mind is not yours the pain should matter quote: ORIGINAL: NihilusZero quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Alcohol. Drugs. Love. 40 points. quote: If your mind is not yours the pain should matter Can I have 10 points for that? I chuckled as I wrote it.

Esinn -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 11:08:22 PM)
There is a method to increase pain tolerance. We do have access to internal mechanisms. Within reason(which is a BROAD statement) I do not believe there is a pain cap. I just watched(on the net) someone get their tits nailed to a board. It did not do much for me. But I did adore(was drawn to) the choice the person made to be a slave/sub and their commitment through demonstration to honor it. That was one amazingly powerful statement. In that way it gets me off(going). It was just too extreme. So I guess this puts some reason to my "within reason" statement?

GoDolphins -> RE: Pain (8/28/2009 11:20:16 PM)
No real sources, because I'm tired and too lazy to look for any at the moment. But I think a big part of it is simply the will to get through pain. In other words, if you have the mindset that you're going to get through it, you will, or at least will handle it much better.

IronBear -> RE: Pain (8/29/2009 9:38:44 AM)
That may be accurate for pain which comes with BDSM Play, but I can assure you that there is pain, often serious chronic pain which over time will wear you down to a point where some seriously consider suicide rather than face another day or night of it. If you have ever had a long term bad tooth ache you would know that whilst the pain level is not terribly high if, like dripping water wearing away a rock, will and can wear your defences, mental strength and resolve over time. If you do an in depth study of torture, and I do not mean the crude type but the style which the Chinese for example perfected over generations you maw catch my meaning better. To which I would add that some people can withstand and even deal with pain far better that some others. I'll never criticise any one for having a low pain threshold for I know that all of us have a low threshold or tolerance of something.

GoDolphins -> RE: Pain (8/29/2009 11:35:27 AM)
I don't disagree with you, but I actually think your point does support my statement in a way. People will hold out for a while, but eventually given enough time pain will break anyone. However, it is up until that point that they simply give up they were handling it and making it through the pain. It is when they lose hope and refuse to take it anymore that they give up, and either give up information (in the case of torture), use the safe word (in a BDSM context, or in very extreme cases commit suicide (in the case of extreme chronic pain like you mentioned). It is true that eventually everyone will reach their breaking point. I didn't take into account the pain threshold, which besides varying from person to person also varies depending on the type of pain. You can see that with athletes, some of who can play through certain types of pain, but others will be benched for weeks for the same type of injury.

Missokyst -> RE: Pain (8/29/2009 12:24:29 PM)
I have a back injury that has been ongoing for 10 yrs and yeah.. somedays it is a good thing it is too much to get in my car. Cliffs are too near and very convienient. But normally, pain for me is convertible. In the winter day after day of pain is hard to deal with and at those times I want to curl up.. but not until I stretch it out. Not until I push it so it hurts more, so that when I release it it feels better. Tooth pain is the only pain which I find intolerable. Even stepping on a hot coal cannot compare.

metalmiss -> RE: Pain (8/29/2009 12:59:59 PM)
There is no foolproof way of taking more pain.. my pain thresholds fluctuate between anything from barely being able to take a spanking to heavy masochism.. my suggestion is not to worry about it. i had real trouble with pain play at one point and it turned out the only thing holding me back was myself.. Because i was worrying about it too much. When He decides He wants to play, i do my best to relax and focus on pleasing Him.. Because that's all that matters.

RavenMuse -> RE: Pain (8/29/2009 1:19:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: metalmiss There is no foolproof way of taking more pain.. my pain thresholds fluctuate between anything from barely being able to take a spanking to heavy masochism.. my suggestion is not to worry about it. i had real trouble with pain play at one point and it turned out the only thing holding me back was myself.. Because i was worrying about it too much. When He decides He wants to play, i do my best to relax and focus on pleasing Him.. Because that's all that matters. Probably helps that I am not so much interested in the level of play as in the intensity of reaction. Ergo if the tollerances are low that day then I get the reactions I seek at relitivly low level play.... if you go into fullon maso painslut mode then I have to dig a bit deeper. Once I got you to realise that then you where able to stop worrying about 'letting Me down' just because your tolerences where not high that day.

IronBear -> RE: Pain (8/29/2009 1:23:38 PM)
Just proves the point that whilst it is essential to "Know Thy Self" a Master must know his slave as well if not better. You have a good lass there man about bloody time.

playfulotter -> RE: Pain (8/29/2009 1:36:52 PM)
I would have to go with what many have written (but I didn't read all the answers) especially what Acer49 wrote. Also, for me it is a mood thing how I process pain and he knows this and he will stop even if he is disappointed but I try and not let it show as I hate to disappoint him. Someone once taught me years ago to take deep breaths and let them out slowly while he gave encouraging words and this really did help too.

RavenMuse -> RE: Pain (8/29/2009 1:43:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IronBear Just proves the point that whilst it is essential to "Know Thy Self" a Master must know his slave as well if not better. Absolutely. You can know Yourself, You can know the impliment and form of play.... but if You haven't learned the girl then You are still at square one. It was six months into living 24/7 before I took off the kid gloves.... she thought We'd played hard before then but once I was confident in knowing her and her reactions then the level of play rose sharply.

FangsNfeet -> RE: Pain (8/29/2009 2:32:30 PM)
What's all this "absorbing" pain rubbish. I've always been taught that pain is "weakness leaving the body."

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