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They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 10:40:55 AM   
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Been swapping emails back and forth with a few gentleman today....although this is certainly not limited to today. They are full of compliments. They are sure we are a perfect match (although it's hard to tell from this end as most of them never have anything in their profiles). They want to wine me, dine me...treat me like a queen.

It's pretty clear in my profile that I am NOT a player...and not seeking anyone to merely play with....but the moment that I tell them that in an email....POOF...they magically disappear. Grrrrrrr.

So tell me....Dominants....are there really women on this site who want to make all of your fantasies come true just because you send them an email and compliment their looks or their intelligence? Mere hours after your first contact?

This is so frustrating.........

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 11:02:46 AM   
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mist..

Sometimes.. not all the time.. I think SOME men come on looking for a little fun on the side. I see some profiles that state.. I'm married.. I'm looking for descrete submissive... I have no intentions on divorcing. Well that's all fine and dandy.. if that floats your boat. But to the ones that don't even state that.. they run across someone like you.. that's not a player... not looking to be someones little kinky side dish.. they just as soon disappear. Because you didn't fall for their little song and dance... and told then just how you actually are.. you ran them off.. LOL
Something I get a kick outta doing. Expecially the nes that e-mail... seen your profile.. think we could be great together... do you have yahoo? I so love to come back at them... after reading their profiles... with some smartass response like.... how often does the wife let you out to play? Just where is BFE from North Carolina?... or like one I got last night.. who was in dire need of spell checker like I've never seen before. And told him so too! He blamed typos on being 6'8... (WTF does being tall have to do with typos is beyond me.. lol)

But i've noticed.. not just on this site.. but others as well.. that there are women as well.. looking for a little kinky side dish as well. Sooner or later, they run cross each others paths.. but untill they do.. people like you .. and others.. get caught up in the game they want to play. Sucks.. but then again.. I know you know how to handle them..

Hope it gets better for you mist... said it before.. whoever lands you.. will land a wonderful treasure.. hope they'll be smart enough to realize it as well...

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 11:06:07 AM   
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So tell me....Dominants....are there really women on this site who want to make all of your fantasies come true just because you send them an email and compliment their looks or their intelligence? Mere hours after your first contact?

This is so frustrating.........



In a word , Yes. There are females here who want the same play those men are looking for. No surprise, nothing new, you just have to do a lot of weeding which can be terribly frustrating.

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 11:06:16 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin
So tell me....Dominants....are there really women on this site who want to make all of your fantasies come true just because you send them an email and compliment their looks or their intelligence? Mere hours after your first contact?

This is so frustrating.........


It's not a bug; it's a feature. For example, someone calls you out of the blue with a chance to make a million dollars. You know they are going to rip you off.

If it's too good to believe, it isn't kosher.

More dangerous are the ones with patience, who can gain your trust a bit at a time.

Such is life. If you play, at times you will lose. Accept it, but at least make them work for it

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 11:09:06 AM   
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lol mist... at least they want to wine and dine you... they just want phone sex or cyber sex with me

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 11:13:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

So tell me....Dominants....are there really women on this site who want to make all of your fantasies come true just because you send them an email and compliment their looks or their intelligence? Mere hours after your first contact?

This is so frustrating.........


Sad but true, remember mist, we are a society of the "needy"--need attention, need connection, need community--just like the Dom in St Louis who promised to wine and dine----he continued to need 55 gallon drums for the bodies---


stick to your limits!


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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 11:16:05 AM   
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lol mist... at least they want to wine and dine you... they just want phone sex or cyber sex with me


lmao....I feel so much better now. Just kidding....sorry to hear I'm not the only one going through it. Don't they realize what idiots they look like?

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 11:19:23 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Sad but true, remember mist, we are a society of the "needy"--need attention, need connection, need community--just like the Dom in St Louis who promised to wine and dine----he continued to need 55 gallon drums for the bodies---


stick to your limits!



Argh.... MHOO... that made me need a martini... and I don't drink martinis... LOL

But nice eye opening reminder there.. to anyone out there!... Male or female.



Off beat here... PlayfulOne....... so nice to see you again.

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 11:19:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

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lol mist... at least they want to wine and dine you... they just want phone sex or cyber sex with me


lmao....I feel so much better now. Just kidding....sorry to hear I'm not the only one going through it. Don't they realize what idiots they look like?


i wasn't trying to make light of it... it does get VERY frustrating... lol like the ones that want us to see their cocks... like that's a huge turn on! As the others have stated... keep on keeping on... you will find your One

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 12:14:23 PM   
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Why is this such a surprise ?

Sweetheart, you are 43 years old and I'll bet ever since you sprouted breast-buds guys were trying to get in your training bra and or your pants. Why would things change now ?

Guys are assholes, I admit it. All of us think with our dick from time to time (me included) some more than others. You knew this and I think you also know this will not change.

For many its NOT about landing the chick, it's the chase. As in hunting "its not about the KILL, but rather the THRILL OF THE HUNT". unfortunately the internet makes the hunting grounds much bigger and much easier than ever before. I Can't explain the male's need to do this either other than to say it may be an ego thing.

OK, so you did know this and your venting and laughing at the sadness of it all….. I do as well…

Happy Hunting....



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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 12:14:24 PM   
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They don't care if they look like idiots to you, your just on the other side of the wire and don't matter unless you say yes. they wil just keep plugging until they find a willing particiapnt.

Hate to burst your bubbles ladies but some of the woman are no better.

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 1:53:58 PM   
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I agree.. I use the same message over and over, "thanks for the email, not what im looking for" or "not interested" . I have not met one good Dom on this site. But I love the message boards and I love hearing all of your opinions. That's what keeps me coming back

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 2:03:59 PM   
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same here..love (and stay) for the boards and the lovely friends i have here. The other side does, on occasion, give me a chuckle, even on rare occassion a slight ray of hope, but usually what the guys who write me want a "f*" buddy..i can't figure out how they're gonna do that from the other side of the country..lol.

A meal and glass of wine would be lovely..usually i get..i'll meet ya at the corner of...

Oh well, at least it makes it easy to spot em <g>

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 2:25:02 PM   
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I get this one on the flip side. I log in to check the boards and decide to scan for ...well lets be honest new meat. Anyhoo I get 3 emails in rapid succession from a "slave" with no profile that wants IM and sends me 2 emails right in a row that he's waiting.

Oooohhh makes me wanna jump...NOT. Honestly have to go with something that a lesbian friend told me long ago...If god really were a man and meant for men to be anything but pets they wouldn't have been issued with a built in leash GUARANTEED to get their undevided attention at all times. Too bad they didn't get enough blood to run the REAL brain too.

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 2:37:00 PM   
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Honestly have to go with something that a lesbian friend told me long ago...If god really were a man and meant for men to be anything but pets they wouldn't have been issued with a built in leash GUARANTEED to get their undivided attention at all times.



Yes! It's so convenient!

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 2:51:21 PM   
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Oh My. I do get tired of males "admitting" what assholes they all are. "Yes, we are jerks. Yes we think with our cocks. Weren't you silly, little girl, to expect anything else from us?"

I, for one, do expect more from the males in My life. Even on a message board, there are plenty of males, dom and sub, who are thoughtful, open and willing to explore beyond the end of their cocks.

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 3:22:36 PM   
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Its a bugger isn't it lass.. Y'know what? the reverse is happening too sweet, there are subs out there who promise everything but are naught but an illusion...... They should hook up with those dissapearing Doms of yours .. Hmmm unless they are one and the same of course.......

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 3:42:30 PM   
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Its a bugger isn't it lass.. Y'know what? the reverse is happening too sweet, there are subs out there who promise everything but are naught but an illusion...... They should hook up with those dissapearing Doms of yours .. Hmmm unless they are one and the same of course.......


Wouldn't put it past some of the little do-me boys that end up in my box to be dumb enough to try to yank the chain of an ole Griz when we ALL know a big ole kiss will do the trick of getting our attention every time.


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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 3:48:44 PM   
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erin

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Been swapping emails back and forth with a few gentleman today....although this is certainly not limited to today. They are full of compliments. They are sure we are a perfect match (although it's hard to tell from this end as most of them never have anything in their profiles). They want to wine me, dine me...treat me like a queen.

It's pretty clear in my profile that I am NOT a player...and not seeking anyone to merely play with....but the moment that I tell them that in an email....POOF...they magically disappear. Grrrrrrr.

So tell me....Dominants....are there really women on this site who want to make all of your fantasies come true just because you send them an email and compliment their looks or their intelligence? Mere hours after your first contact?

This is so frustrating.........

WHAT ELSE IS THERE?;WHAT DO YOU EXPECT ,BEYOND INITIAL LOOKS AND, INTELLIGENCE APPROVALS;SOMETHING MORE ORIGINAL?!
what else is there?!; don't expect original;on anything;
that's art ,
and
,80%,of it's value is 'originality';.... it ,just won't be found.something;as rare as 'original ' ;you'll end up paying somehow ,for it,or someone else gets a-hold, of it, that's science; period.
traditional,not novel; is all you can realistically expect, to find ,and ,reply,to....
,or you won't find anything, to reply to ,at all;i'm sure.
sometimes you may find you're way around the b.s.wine and dine ,and get,to the point ,but ,later end up wine,and dining, in some fasion later anyway...it's obviously what you prefer,and,what the ,other person is capable,of,at the start,that determines what you're immediate results will be.
i'm sometimes,so sick,of the :will you ,or are you- bit, in the ,beginning ,that i ,put the hand ,on their knee ,and, drive ,and,the rest is ,up,to her; weather she's surprized ,or ,not;
besides;
you may wish later ,in life ;it were still ,so easily possible ,that you still got those same 2 compliments ,and,constant invitations ,that you take ,so easily ,for granted, now....it's ,not un-like having a house,or many houses, and ,then ,NOT....

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RE: They want to wine me, dine me..... - 2/25/2006 3:52:15 PM   
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I, for one, do expect more from the males in My life. Even on a message board, .



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on this board.... lol, that would be like peeing into the wind..... lol

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