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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Local folks who are interested in friendships are usually good with Me.  I'm not so much the type to chat with just random folks, though I will trade emails and so on.  I tend to stay away from the chat deal unless it's someone that I'm actually interested in meeting and playing with. 

Non local folks that I get to know from the boards I'll chat with if there is already a friendship established from emails, but that's rare.  I don't do situations like someone mails Me from out of the blue in another state and says, oh, I just want friends in the lifestyle.  That's pretty much a bs line with Me.  I figure, if a person really wants friends, it's going to be with someone they know, not just some random profile that comes up.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

This pretty much sums up my feelings.

I am just not going to take the time to maintain contact with a random person from the net like they would like. As selfish as it sounds, there has to be something in it for me.

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: gentlemanprince

I have emailed several Dommes whose profiles looked interesting and indicated that they were looking for friends as well as bdsm relationships. I was clear that I am already involved with a wonderful woman and that all I was seeking was friendship. I've gotten virtually no responses to those emails. Perhaps they weren't really interested in friendships or perhaps they just didn't like this frog. Oh well. I'm not shattered and will try again if something comes up.

i think the frog is adorable. he's even wearing a crown. who could resist royalty in disguise?

porcelaine

Thank you for the lovely words, porcelaine.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse


I am just not going to take the time to maintain contact with a random person from the net like they would like. As selfish as it sounds, there has to be something in it for me.

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

My own personal frustration at the moment.

I chatted with a local boy a while back, things got crazy at work and I didn't have a chance to talk to much of anyone for awhile. When I just tried to say hi to him tonight, to see how he's doing, etc. I find out that I'm blocked. Now, color me confused here, but even though we weren't compatable for a relationship beyond friendship, we did both say that having friends in the lifestyle was good, and he said that he hoped we could be friends so I thought we were going to chat and be friends. And yet there was no warning to the block, just *poof* I'm blocked. Is it so horrible for me to want to just be friends with some people? Am I wrong to think that friendship is a plus?

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

To me, my first answer sounded quite cold and harsh and I want to explain myself a bit.

My time online is so disjointed, hit and miss, no set schedule. I have strong feelings about friendship, obligations to meet, time needs to be spent to maintain a good friendship. Without the time, available, guaranteed, I cannot give an online friend that contact to grow something. I can receive a wonderful email, delight in it, read it several times to wring every bit of wonderful out of it. In doing so, there is so much I want to say, uninterupted and focused time to respond. I may not get that kind of time for days, even a week or more, I feel guilty that the other person may think something other than the truth. That I like them so much I WANT to give them my time and undivided attention. By the time I get to it, I feel bad that it took so long. It is MY perception, that my limited amount of time to give quality time, sends out the wrong message. So, perhaps, I avoid trying to establish that connection........I don't know for sure.

So few inspire that feeling in me yet when someone does, I think more about them and not wanting to hurt them, than any consideration of myself. For myself, every email received from them is a gem.

Stella, you are one of those amazing people, who's every email I love reading. Spending time with you would be a delight.