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Playing with another slave - 9/1/2009 8:23:05 PM   
hotandsexy2


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Status: offline 		In time I'm going to play with another slave, never done it before and I'd like to ask other slaves who have experience with it to give me advice...what are the do's and dont's.......how does it feel......what can I learn from it......and anything that can make me feel more comfortable....
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RE: Playing with another slave - 9/1/2009 9:40:32 PM   
TimrehIX


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Status: offline 		I have very limited experience in this area, but I have found that (for me) there isn’t much difference between one on one with a Dom and having another slave/sub there. You might be outside your comfort zone but as long the Dom is someone you trust you are going to be fine. I think the Dom will let you know what you are supposed to do, and think of the sub as a partner in arms, you are both in the same situation. (Well similar situations)

Are there any specific things you want to ask about?

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RE: Playing with another slave - 9/1/2009 9:46:18 PM   
onlyfreelycaged


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Status: offline 		Treat them like you'd like to be treated until you get to know them. Then treat them how they would like to be treated, just like with every thing else.

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RE: Playing with another slave - 9/2/2009 2:09:59 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		What do you mean by playing? The dom hitting both of you or you having sex with her?
Because if you mean being bisexual, and you don't identify as such this could be a bad scene. What happens if you aren't attracted to her? Will you be considered a failure if you don't orgasm from her touch?

Think it all out and talk to the dom about it beforehand.

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RE: Playing with another slave - 9/2/2009 2:45:26 AM   
ponygirlthree


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Status: offline 		as i am bi and very submissive it is not a problem for me but at the same time if i  enjoy it or not depends on the other sub/slave . im my lifestyle most of the time  the other sub/slaves owner will be present and neither of us will have a choice about what we are required to do ( this applys to both m/f)  if you have a problem with being bi(your profile says vanilla) you could have a bad experence  make sure your comfortable with what is required. i have a slave friend who will quite happily suck and swollow her Master but is very sick if she has to do it to anyone else.

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RE: Playing with another slave - 9/2/2009 2:50:55 AM   
LillyoftheVally


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ORIGINAL: hotandsexy2

In time I'm going to play with another slave, never done it before and I'd like to ask other slaves who have experience with it to give me advice...what are the do's and dont's.......how does it feel......what can I learn from it......and anything that can make me feel more comfortable....


Thing is it totally depends what you mean? Does it mean having sex with someone else in front of your partner? Does it mean topping them? without knowing that I don't know what advice to give you.

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RE: Playing with another slave - 9/2/2009 7:06:26 AM   
beargonewild


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Status: offline 		Find out from your owner what you are allowed and not allowed to do, if the other slave has and owner, find out what you are allowed and not allowed to do with the other slave.

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RE: Playing with another slave - 9/3/2009 1:04:14 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		And be honest with everyone. The other girl isn't just a blow up doll for you to act out your top's fantasies upon. She's a person with real feelings. If you get sick at the idea of having sex with women she will know you find her unpleasant, and she deserves better than that. How would you like it if you were having sex with someone who told you he gets sick at the thought of doing you?

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RE: Playing with another slave - 9/3/2009 9:40:11 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		it would really depend on the game being played, as far as pointers and tips.  try to keep in mind it is just a game and losing the game isn't the end of the world, so being a good sport helps!

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RE: Playing with another slave - 9/4/2009 10:55:51 PM   
SilentSpark


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Status: offline 		I played with other slaves in the past, I have one or two bad experience, but the rest were pretty good. My advise to you is:

1, talk to your dom about this, talk about your fear and concern, talk about the possible negative reaction, talk about your limits, if it's your first time, it's OK to have additional limits (IMHO). ask him what he expect you to behave, and ask him to be as specific as possible (ask him nicely of course~~~~~ LOL), ask him what the other dom is like. It is the best that you meet during a vanilla setting first, having coffee or dinner together, get to know the couple you're about to play with, even for experienced sub, it's hard to just jump on other women and have a good time.

2, there will be awkwardness, when I have that, I just close my eyes, and thinking: i'm doing this to please my master~ that should put you in the right mind space.

3, Don't be afraid of calling your safe words. If playing with other subs is a regular requirement from your master, then it's better to start it well, have a good experience the first time, it'll make thing a lot easier. If the situation goes bad, call safe.

4, set up a discreet way to communicate with your master about things you don't want to do. The one I used before is "May I master?" because this is a new situation, you don't know what to expect, and what will happen. you can end up with total emotional break down (not to scare you, but I saw it happen once). For example, say this other dom want you to lick his slave, and you don't feel like you can do it. So you say "may I master?", then he'll know you're not sure if you can do it or not. He'll have the choice to either force you do it, or simply say "no you may not". saving the face for both of you, and avoid breaking the scene. Even he forces you to do it anyway, he'll know you have a problem with it, so he'll probably be extra careful looking after you.

Bottom line is, you can't really prepare for something like this. All you can do is think about what could have happened, and act to your best. Always remember above all, you're doing it to please your Master. And if you trust him, then trust him.

Hope it helps~


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RE: Playing with another slave - 2/8/2010 2:55:45 PM   
hotandsexy2


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Status: offline 		it did not happen yet, but my Master is asking me questions, telling me scenario's etc. to see my respons.
For example during play He tells me how bad He wants to see me pleasure another woman, and monitor my reaction.
So from time to time He expresses what He would like to see, and I have no problem with that.
Yes I am straight, and I don't think play with another woman will make me bi, my preferance will be men.
I will have to find out if I like it , how I will feel afterwards.
Also He told me He will make me watch when He sodemizes her, one part of me is turned on by that, another part does not want that.(the what if's come to mind...what if He likes her more etc.)
Ofcouse lots have to do wth my unexperience and for myself I would like to try to see for myself whether I like it or not, and not solemly to please my Master.
To asnwer another q :The other slave will interact in the whole scene, sex, spanking everything.
Once I asked whats expected of me, and He said: everything I tell you to.
He is taking His time with this, and is maybe conditioning me for it.
And yes, I am asking Him questions about it, but there are so many questions only another slave in the same position can answer or maybe take away my insecurities which I think will surface when times come.
I am not sure about another Dom, but He mentioned once He will have me pleasure her husband/Dom orally.
Also He told me from the start He does not want to share me with another man, maybe in the future he said, and after 7 months He still did not express this.
The oral thing was the first time He brought something like this up, and it was said in this manner that it was only oral, not intercourse.
I think if it works it could be a wonderful addition, but if not, my Master told me its not the end of the world.






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RE: Playing with another slave - 2/8/2010 3:30:24 PM   
afterforever


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Status: offline 		I've played with other slaves before, but the situation was slightly different, we were very good friends beforehand, all bisexual, and I already knew I was attracted to them. It ended up as a kind of poly relationship thing between me and my ex, and a trio of others we knew. We started off slowly though, talk about WIITWD turned into demonstrations, which turned into co-topping, then swapping partners for BDSM only, no sex. So by the time I got around to sex with the other girls I already kind of thought of them as my "sister subs", and we had discussed limits, turn ons, and what our D-types expected of us for months before it actually happened.

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RE: Playing with another slave - 2/8/2010 3:51:04 PM   
hotandsexy2


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Status: offline 		Ah..that sounds great !
Can you explain WIITWD (  not so familiar with your languages that I know all abriviations...am dutch)
I am not sure what the plan is and I think that also depends on the person who is going to be added.
I am trying to get much insight, my Master is my first Master ever, so thats how far my experience goes.....
Never had to share, neither in my former vanilla life, so I think its important to stay ahead of problems and ecknowledge how I feel /cope etc.
I am very open though and welcome all new experiences, you never know until you try right !




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RE: Playing with another slave - 2/8/2010 3:59:46 PM   
afterforever


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Status: offline 		What It Is That We Do. Umbrella term for everything BDSM and kink related.
I think talking to the girl your Master wants this to happen with would be a good idea, if he'd allow it. Get some stuff sorted out on the phone before you're naked and don't know what to do with each other.

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RE: Playing with another slave - 2/8/2010 5:24:16 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Ask him ahead of time what his reaction will be if you start, discover you can't do this, and call red. Is he willing for you to be monogamous in the future or will you have to have sex with other people.

Because if you aren't bi and he keeps trying to get you to like this, you will eventually break up. In that case, it's better to do so before, and not after you've gotten a disease.

Have you four met and exchanged new sexually transmitted disease scans? Because 'just oral' doesn't mean this other dom can't give you a disease. Or are you going to use condoms, dental dams etc? Ask your doctor what you need to be protected during sex with strangers. This may be your dom, but we are talking about your life here and it doesn't sound like he's thinking about anything other than his cock.

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RE: Playing with another slave - 2/8/2010 5:51:43 PM   
hotandsexy2


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Status: offline 		The new slave sister and potential D/husband are still ficrtional.
He is merely monitoring my reaction, to see in what stage I am open to it/ my willingness etc.
Ofcourse when time comes protection, tests etc. will be discussed and proper steps will be taken to protect ourselves.
As He stated before ,'if it doesn't work , its no big deal', and I assume it means that things will go back to where they were.
And I agree, if it does not (I hate it ) and He keep on trying to force it on me, then its all about His desires and my feelings don't matter. Then I am not the right slave for Him and I cannot serve Him the way he wants me too., so...yes a no go.
I think if we meet the right person, I will enjoy it aside from my willingness to please Him.
My worries are mainly my emotions, feelings etc. ..will I like to watch or will it upset me...that sort of things....



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RE: Playing with another slave - 2/8/2010 11:15:12 PM   
Drifa


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Status: offline 		From the viewpoint of a woman entering my 16th year with my Lady, sex with a woman is cuddly fun. Consider what you like having done to you, and use that as your starting point. It's easier in many ways than doing a guy, because after all, you know what this feels like from the inside.  I personally find kissing other women much more sensuous, women kiss ... I dunno, softer or something. Oral sex is really nothing more than the same kind of kissing and licking you'd do on a nipple, just focused on the clitoris. Do what feels good, and when you get a big response, do more of whatever you are doing that causes that response.

If your man has not experienced two women together before (ask him so you know!) his only understanding of what girls do together may come from porn flicks... which convey techniques used to titillate the viewer, as opposed to getting the job done in pleasing someone else. Find out what HE wants to see.  Someone who is actually using oral sex to bring a woman to orgasm isn't quite as much fun to watch as the weird staged porn flick scenes. But to me, the hot part is watching the woman receiving, anyway, and seeing her pleasure.

One of the interesting conversations my Lady and I have had has to do with the different headspace each of us brings to oral sex. When I do it, it's a form of worship and service... I am focused on pleasing her, making things perfect for her. When she returns the favor, she's seeing it as dominant, because she is in control of what I feel and playing my body like an instrument. Same act, very different outlooks. But they work for us!

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