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LadyPact -> RE: "So you think you can..." (9/4/2009 7:28:58 AM)
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I don't really watch a heck of a lot of tv, so I'm not as familiar with reality shows as most folks. I do think a version of slave swap (based on wife swap) could be amusing. Set up situations where you'd have high protocol folks swapped with those who have a more laid back approach in D/s. Maybe trade someone who's big into pony play and switch them with a service submissive. Mix a gorean Master with someone who identifies as a fetishist. It might not be one of those great 'who's going to have the frustration boil over first' type of shows, but I bet a lot of people could learn more about the way different styles work for different folks.
Now that I've said that, I want to focus on this:
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Original: Mercnbeth
There is so much BS and issues in life that we all have to deal with on a daily basis. Working at a relationship shouldn't add to them. Lighten up people, at least with each other. Have fun, get messy, enjoy each other to the fullest. Expose yourself, physically if in an appropriate setting, but mentally and emotionally all the time to your partner and friends. Winning, outside of the professional ranks, is defined by participating.
Today, you have one day less less in your life that you had yesterday to enjoy. What are you doing today to insure that tomorrow you are not regretting what you didn't do yesterday?
I'm glad you put this part in there, Merc. On one level, I agree with you. I think in some situations, when the fun of it gets lost, that's when some dynamics start going down the tubes. Even on an individual M type or s type basis, taking the fun away also tends to take away the spark. How many of us say that if it wasn't fun, we wouldn't be doing it? I think having the fun promotes the fun. You enjoy something so you want to do something more or maybe learn to do something new. The energy from that feeds into itself.
There's something I need to interject here. It's My honest opinion that a good number of people could not be involved in the kind of dynamic that I have. That's not being said with the intention of offending anyone, but it is harder than some people think at times. Some seriousness has to be a part of that. It's My belief that if I ignore that, I'm ignoring My responsibilities in being clip's Dominant in the first place.
That was probably confusing so let Me straighten it out. I just had clip here for a few days. Yes, we had a lot of fun, but I also had to balance that with some time dedicated to reaffirming structure, making Myself aware of how he's doing as far as his mental and emotional state, and good communication about how we're both doing with the difficult circumstances of the situation. Sure, I could have skipped all of that and did nothing but play with him. I might have gotten that extra needle scene in instead or something. Goodness knows that there never seems to be enough time for all of the ways that I want to hurt him. I just know there has to be some balance in there. In the simplest terms, the fun stuff doesn't always turn out to be fun stuff, if big stuff is in the way. Sometimes, you have to clean the house before you can get messy and enjoy each other.
This time around, I had very positive feelings about achieving that balance. It doesn't always work that way. Anytime I've leaned too much to one side of the other, I've screwed it up. In fact, I've fucked it up royally. This time, I managed to get it right in a way that I couldn't have imagined a better outcome. Even with the seriousness mixed in there, it sure as hell was a lot of fun.
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