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SirMichealspeach -> How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 4:26:27 AM)
I am in a bit of turmoil. Master and I have been in a 24/7 live relationship for 3 months now. He runs His own buisness from home and I work outside the home. When i get home everyday , the laundry is allready done, the house is clean and usually dinner is already started. This leaves nothing for me to do. I know I should not be complaining about it but I want to serve Him in those ways that make His life simpler. I thought the housework and cooking would be part of that. My question is ..What can I do extra to make Him feel as though I am helping somehow? I get up before Him in the mornings and have His coffee ready and His meds out and when I am home on a day off I help with the chores .but I feel as though its not enough .. sometimes I feel as though He is serving me and it messes with my mindset that I am His property and I should be taking care of Him , not the other way around.. anyway..any advice would be greatly appreciated..Thanks in advance Eve Sir Micheals peach

Cloudz -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 5:25:37 AM)
Sorry peach, I tried to ignore this...reallly I did. Is your Dom's name Sir MichEAl as you have it spelled or is it actually the more traditional spelling of MichAEl?

patientlywaittin -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 6:27:21 AM)
Peach have you talked with him about this to get his take on the matter?

RavenMuse -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 6:42:45 AM)
OK Peach, first things that spring to mind. If your master has his own routeens, his own way of doing things, ways he is comfortable living then you wanting to serve him in those ways isn't going to equate to helping him if it upsets that routeen. However, I am sure if you sit down with him and explain what you are feeling then he will be able to find ways to let you serve in ways that will help you not feel bad about it.

yun -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 7:19:30 AM)
greetings peach.. the most important thing is talk to your Master about it. Does he consider these types of things just chores or things a slave should do? perhaps he finds your service more valuable in the work you do outside the home. remember your service is what HE wants it to be..not what you feel it should be. you say you want to make his life simpler..service isn't about simpler..it's about better. what if he didn't do these things throughout the day, would he be bored then? would that make his day better? perhaps he finds joy in having a clean house and feeling like he's contributing to the household also. also remember it is his responsibility to take care of you..you don't have to take care of him..just serve him in however HE deems you should. talk to him about it..ask him how else you can serve him. ask if there is anything he wants to change, etc. i can fully understand your frustrations though..just depends upon how you look at what and how service is performed. not all slaves are maids.. i wish you much luck!

LaMspeach -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 7:48:55 AM)
If You are doing what he wants you are serving Him. Being a slave/sub isnt about who does the house work. For me it is about something so much deeper. Talk to Him ask Him what he expects from you, Tell him how you feel. If he likes the way things are then perhaps you can do extra specail things on your days off. Like bake Him a cake or Make home made bread, give Him a romantic bath. It can be hard when you feel you could be doing more, but remember you are doing want he wants and that is more important.

SirMichealspeach -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 8:04:39 AM)
Thank You all for your advice. I have spoken to MAster and He understands my dilema. He has agreed to give me a chore list so that i feel more like i am contributing.. I do understand my role is to make His life better not simpler. I was uncertain as to how to go about it is a ll ... and cloudz..His name is MichEAL. it does confuse people sometimes .. actually I even spelled it wrong the first few times (lol) again thanks for the advice and know i took it and discussed things with Master Eve .Sir Micheals peach

yourMissTress -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 8:06:19 AM)
SM'speach, It's possible that SM doesn't need you to care for him in the ways that you would like. It's also possible that SM does not subscribe to the theory that Dom's don't do anything equated to housework. It's also possible that SM has the time during the day to do these things, doesn't mind doing them, and would rather your time be focused on him and not the tasks that he's taking care of. My suggestion would be to spend your time focused on Him. Massages, baths, manicures and pedicures, talking, sharing, whatever he likes.

Evanesce -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 9:24:50 AM)
quote: I am in a bit of turmoil. Master and I have been in a 24/7 live relationship for 3 months now. He runs His own buisness from home and I work outside the home. When i get home everyday , the laundry is allready done, the house is clean and usually dinner is already started. This leaves nothing for me to do. I know I should not be complaining about it but I want to serve Him in those ways that make His life simpler. I thought the housework and cooking would be part of that. My question is ..What can I do extra to make Him feel as though I am helping somehow? Hmmm... Seems to me you're wondering more what you can do to make YOU feel as though you're helping somehow. It's not all that uncommon. One thing you need to realize, especially since your 24/7 is very new, is that your Master will require of you what He wishes to require of you. If he wanted you to be doing the cooking and cleaning, he'd be leaving it for you to do when you get home. Clearly, this is something he doesn't wish for you to do. It could be that he figures if he does the cleaning while you're at work, that frees up YOUR time when you get home to do those things he really wants from you. The chores still have to get done, and if you're at work all day and cleaning and cooking all evening, where would you find time to pamper and otherwise cater to his other needs?

slavejali -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 1:06:39 PM)
I can relate to what you are saying peach. One of the things I was used to having the responsibility of was preparing dinner, serving it in a creative way, i saw it as one of the duties as slave. Master however, loves cooking. Its something He really enjoys, it was hard for me to get used to when He cooked dinner half the time, it was like He was taking my job off me. It was hard for me to know how to respond to it as I felt He was serving me. As time went on, He started getting me to be a "kitchen hand" when He was cooking. I would get the stuff out he needed, or chop the vegies, or other jobs around the cooking. This made me feel better.

starshineowned -> RE: How do I serve better? (2/26/2006 3:19:09 PM)
Greetings..~smiles~ Raises hand in having those same feelings pop up on occassions. Without going into the whys, hows, what became..Master sits me down and says: if you see a smile on my face..then you are doing as I wish. starshine Happy slave of Master Delvin

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