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VanIsleKnight -> Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 5:43:54 AM)

Alright, this has -really- been bugging me lately.  I met this girl briefly who was, well, exceptionally unpleasant.  Yet I can't get her out of my mind for some reason.

Then, there was a former co-worker of mine who I was in regular arguments with.  I found that in the midst of arguing with her I suddenly was imagining my mouth on her neck or her strong thighs around my waist.

The heck is up with that?  Normally when I meet or speak with people that are rather rude I forget about them and move on if I can.  If they're a regular person in my life, any attraction I might have felt towards them beforehand immediately goes out the window.  Why on earth would these two women be any different to me?  Has anyone else ever experienced something like this?



lronitulstahp -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 5:45:51 AM)

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Has anyone else ever experienced something like this?


yes....although eventually, sexual attraction be damned, i divorced the fucker.



TurboJugend -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 5:45:52 AM)

to some sex and love are seperated, that means that it is possible to have sex with some one you hate....

and nothing wrong with a fantasy ;)



HumiliateherUK -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 6:07:48 AM)

To someone I actually hated no - to someone who had a number of traits I loathed yes.

When I realised those traits would not change (or were certainly beyond my power to help her change) I ended the relationship, and do not regret doing so - but she remains in many ways a very special memory to me.



SteelofUtah -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 7:32:57 AM)

Wanna fix it?

Put Beach Sand in your lube and when you get hard thinking about her Masturbate.

Any Sexual Attraction you had will be attached to the act of maiming your Penis.

Aversion Therapy.

That will be $127.50

Steel



Musicmystery -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 8:13:06 AM)

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The heck is up with that?


Hormones.



PyrotheClown -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 10:28:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: VanIsleKnight

Has anyone else ever experienced something like this?



this is pretty much my whole experience from high school right up through college.....gives new meaning to "embrace your hate" don't it?



curiousheart -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 10:30:33 AM)

Emotional masochist by any chance?



TheHeretic -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 10:38:11 AM)

Completely normal, Vani.  Best case, you'll find yourself in just the perfect situation some evening to consumate the deal with a good hate-fuck.  Make damn sure you use birth control though.



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 12:11:32 PM)

I've had that problem several times - being Physically/Sexually attracted to someone I utterly loathed their personality.  Then again, when I find that happening, I find my sadistic streak rearing it's head in a Massive fashion, and all the Fantasies surrounding that person tend to take on elements of torturing them more so than anything else....



slaveboyforyou -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 12:57:34 PM)

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Best case, you'll find yourself in just the perfect situation some evening to consumate the deal with a good hate-fuck.


Yep. I hate to say it, but grudge fucks are great. They are always animalistic fuck-a-thons. Even being a sub, I can't resist the urge during a grudge fuck to say "you like that you dirty fucking whore?" LOL. Grudge fucks are fantastic. It just lets you get a lot of aggression out in a positive way, and both parties go away happy.



slaveluci -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 1:00:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

quote:

Has anyone else ever experienced something like this?


yes....although eventually, sexual attraction be damned, i divorced the fucker.

[:D]  Ditto, tulip, I did the same.........luci



Gwynvyd -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 1:08:34 PM)

I did a grudge fuck once. I ended up with a kid I was unprepared for out of it.

Grudge fucks are *Never* a good idea.




Level -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 1:40:43 PM)

OP, it sounds like your submissive/bottom side is getting activated.



SweetNika -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 1:41:35 PM)

I personally don't believe that we have to like those that we are sexually attracted to. Sometimes I think we are attracted to people for reasons completely out of our control weather it be the energy between us, pharamones, hormones, or pure animalistic insticts that rear their head. I think often people over think their sexual attractions.



intenze -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 2:53:40 PM)

to the OP
The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.  Hate or loathing stirs up violent passions within us, as love does.  I am not surprised you felt that way, I am kind of glad you didn't act on it.



CaringandReal -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 6:11:11 PM)

A dominant friend of mine talks about this at times. He relishes this feeling, when it happens, because he is very aggressive/primal inside and loooovves a grudge fuck, particularly if he knows his "partner" is not having a good time.

I think that mysterious thing called physical chemistry just happens between people and is often quite separate from affection, affinity, or even good will.



porcelaine -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 6:25:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: VanIsleKnight

The heck is up with that?  Normally when I meet or speak with people that are rather rude I forget about them and move on if I can.  If they're a regular person in my life, any attraction I might have felt towards them beforehand immediately goes out the window.  Why on earth would these two women be any different to me?  Has anyone else ever experienced something like this?


whenever i've been attracted to someone with less than stellar characteristics i turned the question you're posing within and simply asked what i'm getting out of it. in the past i seemed to fancy a certain type that makes me cringe right now. but i thought them adorable and appreciated the arrogance i have lovingly termed assholio syndrome. would i sleep with any of them? not on your life. do i find them physically attractive. of course, i have great taste. but all of that is moot once they open their mouths. i'll take a polished man with breeding any day.

porcelaine



TheHeretic -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 7:51:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd

Grudge fucks are *Never* a good idea.



I'm not going to let your "never" negate my good times, Gwyn.  I have no regrets about any hate-fuck I've ever thrown, or put out of the car afterwards. 



Venatrix -> RE: Sexual Attraction to Someone you Hate (9/5/2009 8:30:48 PM)

I have this deep-seated desire to sodomise Vladimir Putin with my strap-on.  Go figure.



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