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newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/6/2009 9:26:10 AM

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I have a friend that is very caring and nurturing she has told me she is submissive and she has a way to make me feel at ease and makes me think about stuff in a different way and i love that about her. her exact words are the outside me kills me becasue i take others pain but have no one to take her pain. every time i ask her she tells me to ask a master. so here i am asking can someone please explain this to me. She has done so much for me ill always be indebt to her.
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RE: newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/6/2009 10:14:56 AM

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My best guess is that she wants to be spanked until she cries, as either she enjoys it or wants the release of emotional pain through the physical.

Next time she tells you to ask a master, look her in the eyes and tell her you want her to sit right down and write you what she wants. Hand her a paper and pen and demand she expresses herself honestly.

If she plays coy, don't spank her as a result. Do tell her that if she wants a spanking she merely has to say so. Then ask her if she wants one. If she nods or says yes, better be prepared to give it to her even if you're uncomfortable doing so.

If you aren't, be honest with her and tell her you can't go there but good luck finding someone who can.

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RE: newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/6/2009 11:08:49 AM

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A lot of information is on the net regarding theraputic spanking as well.

Might approch it in that direction

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RE: newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/9/2009 11:45:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

My best guess is that she wants to be spanked until she cries, as either she enjoys it or wants the release of emotional pain through the physical.

Next time she tells you to ask a master, look her in the eyes and tell her you want her to sit right down and write you what she wants. Hand her a paper and pen and demand she expresses herself honestly.

If she plays coy, don't spank her as a result. Do tell her that if she wants a spanking she merely has to say so. Then ask her if she wants one. If she nods or says yes, better be prepared to give it to her even if you're uncomfortable doing so.

If you aren't, be honest with her and tell her you can't go there but good luck finding someone who can.

I must be missing something; I see no mention of spanking in the original post by madalaskann.

Madalskann, can you be a bit clearer about what your question is about pain?

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RE: newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/9/2009 11:57:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: madalaskann

I have a friend that is very caring and nurturing she has told me she is submissive and she has a way to make me feel at ease and makes me think about stuff in a different way and i love that about her. her exact words are the outside me kills me becasue i take others pain but have no one to take her pain. every time i ask her she tells me to ask a master. so here i am asking can someone please explain this to me. She has done so much for me ill always be indebt to her.
thank you madalaskann

I am so totally fucking confuzzled.

Could you try this again, perhaps with a bit more clarity?

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RE: newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/9/2009 4:24:13 PM

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There wasn't much mention of any specificality in the op's post, Shack. This was my best guess as to what "take my pain" meant when coupled with "ask a master".

Which is why I suggested she be forced to explain. But I know from my own new days that some things are much easier if someone mentions it and you only have to agree or disagree.

What's your best guess, since he obviously didn't get a clear answer from her?

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RE: newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/9/2009 10:29:27 PM

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I'm with those requesting that you restate your query, OP.
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RE: newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/10/2009 12:23:35 AM

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"her exact words are the outside me kills me becasue i take others pain but have no one to take her pain."

My translation is (And this is difficult without context): Your demeanor (The self or mask you present to the world) prohibits your nature (your hidden true self) from doing what she desires of you. Perhaps this demeanor is so enraptured with the cares and concerns of others that she feels you aren't available to absorb her own cares/desires and respond to them the way she wants. She wants you to be able take her suffering and transform it for her into a cathartic experience that you both share and develop from.

I suppose I agree with DesFIP. *nods*

Please note: The writer of the above is extremely sleep deprived. What makes sense under this condition may not be interpretable to the outside world as a form of sound reasoning.

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RE: newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/12/2009 9:01:12 AM

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i really dont know how to rephase it her exact words to me where. the outside me kills me becasue i take others pain but have no one to take her pain. i have talked to her more about stuff and i think lordmanannan hit the nail on the head. thanks everyone for the advice im just a cuiros outside looking outside the normal box.

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RE: newbie looking for an answerer about pain - 9/12/2009 9:54:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: madalaskann

I have a friend that is very caring and nurturing she has told me she is submissive and she has a way to make me feel at ease and makes me think about stuff in a different way and i love that about her. her exact words are the outside me kills me becasue i take others pain but have no one to take her pain. every time i ask her she tells me to ask a master. so here i am asking can someone please explain this to me. She has done so much for me ill always be indebt to her.
thank you madalaskann

I am so totally fucking confuzzled.

Could you try this again, perhaps with a bit more clarity?

I'm with you. It doesn't make sense and there's no punctuation to help. I have no idea what you're asking.

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