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RE: Emotions - 9/9/2009 1:38:11 PM

masterlink65

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i NEVER beat my slaves out of anger.

scene and session require focus and full attention.

its called self control. i will say it again. if i cannot control myself, how can i control others, or a particular situation that may arise.

beatings are for pleasure, and used for an escape for both of us. unless a slave is being trained.

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RE: Emotions - 9/11/2009 4:30:10 AM

ranja

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quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527

Carol and I don't do scenes. But given our dynamic, it's not unreasonable to say that we are in a scene 24/7. So of course I get angry from time to time... for instance these last few weeks while we're both being crabby trying to get moved. But unlike when I was her husband, I cannot simply vent out that anger. Whatever harsh words I might've said would now be backed by the full measure of my authority and that's just too creepy to think about. So if need be, I shut the hell up and walk away, but I do not command her if my own emotional state is not under some semblance of contol.

How interesting to read... our dynamic does exactly the opposite... Before BDSM he was inclined to bottle things up and walk away but since He knows that He is in charge He can much more be Himself and show His annoyance or even anger... and i am much stronger to take it and much more inclined to go with His orders without grumbling.

(also I think He looks extremely hot when angry)

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RE: Emotions - 9/12/2009 9:08:54 PM

mbes

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Ranja, I am inclined to agree with you on this one. Before, his anger at me was due to something I had or had not done, just as mine at him was at something he had or had not done. Now, if he is angry about something I have done/not done, I am far less inclined to take responsibility for it, and so am less likely to take it personally. If he doesn't like what I do, he's free to fix the problem, or order me to. If he's just venting, that's fine--- I do that as well. I have no problem with him venting on me.
We do have a huge long history of his controlling his anger, I've inspired it often over the years to no ill effect. If I feared it, I would feel differently. He might hurt me out of anger, he would never harm me through it.

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RE: Emotions - 9/13/2009 11:14:46 AM

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Some people enjoy primal play and it strengthens their relationship. Those of us who don't, find that bringing anger into bed causes distances in the relationship.

There is no one answer, only what works for those in the relationship. The problem of course if the two people involved feel differently, that's a core incompatibility.

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RE: Emotions - 9/14/2009 7:51:07 PM

Huntertn

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You have to control yourself in a scene...that being said...Everyone has ways to show emotions while in that scene..anger playfullness,lust,need to pull her emotions in in front ....while telling your out to play..hell, its that what makes us human?

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